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Getting rid of wedding rings...

I really thought I wanted to sell them...it's nearly been a year since it all went down though the divorce isn't final yet.  I'll be starting school soon and I'm taking a digital photography class and really wanted to use that money to buy a DSLR camera for myself...  Pulled out my rings today and remembered all the hunting I did to find the perfect ones to represent my personality (a black pearl engagement ring with a chevron diamond solitaire enhancer)  and I just loved those rings so much.  I want to get rid of them because I can't remember just the good memories without it bringing up the bad ones too.  My mom wanted me to keep them for my daughter when she gets older, but I know, for me, I didn't want my parents old wedding rings because it brings up bad memories of their divorce. 

I just don't know, after seeing them and holding them, if I'm ready to part...I'm the sort of person that it's better if I never see them or touch them ever again so I think I'll be better off just to go ahead and sell them, but every time I see them I have second thoughts...

Any advice or similar situations anyone?

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Re: Getting rid of wedding rings...

  • I know that personally my jewelry from H brings up so much pain I have it hidden and cannot even open the drawer it is in. We have only been split up a couple months but still. I am on wedding ring probation, a joke I constantly say,  bc I lost my engagement ring and then wedding ring and I lost my wedding ring that was very very expensive from my first H. But I have other very special pieces from H and they hurt bad to even see.

    My mom kept her wedding ring from my father and gave it to me as an adult and I didn't like it at all. I couldn't get rid of it since it was on her finger for 20 years and she kept it to give to me but I think it is in my junk drawer with other random stuff!! Just my experience.

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  • I was in the same position.  I really, really could use the money for them, but unfortunatly, you can't seem to sell them anywhere.  Basically a jeweler told me they are only worth the gold they are set in and that he would buy the gold and give me the diamonds back.  I went to several other places and they said the same thing.  Sucks, because I really don't want them and really need the cash. 

    I also thought about keeping them and would my daughter want them, but do you really want rings from someone's crappy marraige?  I have my dress as well...doubt she would want that either. 

    I guess, in the end, I am going to keep the rings, only because I can't seem to unload them.  One jeweler told me the best way to sell them is private sale.  I am pretty sure I am not putting out an ad in the paper or craigslist that I have diamond rings for sale, thats like of like hanging a sign around your neck that says mug me. 

  • I sold them all. It might be cold and I might regret it later, but I'm moving in two weeks and I need the money.
  • When my 4 year relationship imploded, I destroyed everything he'd given me. I cried the whole time, but I never had to worry about looking at that stuff and remembering where it came from, what were doing, what it meant. 

    Get rid if them. You'll never truly be able to let go and move on if you still have something tangible to keep you in the past and give you what-ifs. 

  • I actually am going this evening with my FI to turn them in for cash. We need the money and I have no attachment to them at all. Since Ava's bio-father is not in her life, I don't feel the need to keep the ring. She calls FI daddy anyway so I would much rather give her something her "daddy" gave me.
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    Get rid if them. You'll never truly be able to let go and move on if you still have something tangible to keep you in the past and give you what-ifs. 

    This. I sold mine, even though I only got a couple hundred bucks from the set. It was more about letting go of the past. They meant nothing to me anymore so whats the point?

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    I actually am going this evening with my FI to turn them in for cash. We need the money and I have no attachment to them at all. Since Ava's bio-father is not in her life, I don't feel the need to keep the ring. She calls FI daddy anyway so I would much rather give her something her "daddy" gave me.

    This is the way I feel exactly...when I find the man I'm truly supposed to be with and DD starts calling him "Daddy" I'd rather her have something he gave me rather than something from the "father" who never wanted to be in her life...  

    I will get rid of them, second thoughts or not...the only things I'm keeping is some of his childhood photos I have of him with his Mom since she died many years ago and DD will never meet her (his family is involved with her...just not him).  I may keep the disc of our wedding photos if she ever wants to see them, but that's pretty much it.

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