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ppants · July 2012

I can't keep it in until Thursday. I got my cousin's wedding invitation in the mail today. Tucked into the twine on the invitation is a paper with stores the couple is registered at. I've been married for almost 9 yrs, but I hate that people put this in their wedding invitation. I'm seeing it more and more. There's a reason you have to print this off on your computer, cut it, and put it in your invitation because it shouldn't be done! If this is something you are "supposed" to do, then they'd offer a card with the info for the invitations. A wedding is a celebration you get gifts from, but the reason for the celebration is not to get gifts like a wedding shower would be. Also, I'm invited to the wedding so I can ask someone where the couple is registered at. It's so tacky!! Vent over.

MandaPanda518 · July 2012

I agree. I tend to be on the more conservative side when it comes to wedding etiquette, and I used to work in the wedding industry, so this drives me crazy. Wedding websites are a great way to subtly include the information.

shakes · July 2012

The stores we registered at gave us a little card with info for the guests. I did not include them by choice, but they DO infact give them out.

Manateearmz · July 2012

Meh.

Jills83 · July 2012

I can't get worked up about these things. I probably made some big faux paus when I planned my wedding, but I was oblivious. Personally I always give money or gift cards. I know some people think that is tacky too, but oh well.

myself1nme · July 2012

I can top that. My cousin's wedding included the registry information on the actual invite AND stated that the reception was BYOB.

RayRay007 · July 2012

shakes:
The stores we registered at gave us a little card with info for the guests. I did not include them by choice, but they DO infact give them out.

Yeah, they do make nice little cards to slip into your invitations.

MoonlitPlumeria · July 2012

myself1nme:
I can top that. My cousin's wedding included the registry information on the actual invite AND stated that the reception was BYOB.

I would agree that the BYOB is tacky. But to be honest, I don't care about most wedding etiquette. But then, I'm pretty uncouth!

judahsmommy1 · July 2012

I just don't understand why it's worth it to get worked up over it. So it's tacky... eh. I've don't worse things in my life than be a little bit tacky. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and just assume that she thought every body did things that way and didn't realize it was a breach of etiquette. On my list of things to be stressed and upset about, improper registry cards are pretty darn low on the lists.

I should post this on the baby showers boards and watch the chaos ensue!

SunDrop11 · July 2012

judahsmommy1:
I just don't understand why it's worth it to get worked up over it. So it's tacky... eh. I've don't worse things in my life than be a little bit tacky. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and just assume that she thought every body did things that way and didn't realize it was a breach of etiquette. On my list of things to be stressed and upset about, improper registry cards are pretty darn low on the lists.
I should post this on the baby showers boards and watch the chaos ensue!

DO IT!

The BYOB thing is pretty bad, but including registry info on a wedding invite isn't something I'd get upset over. I like having it so I know where to shop. I would look it up online anyway, so that saves me time. I do understand why it's tacky, but again, it's not something I'd be annoyed with.

seahorse102410 · July 2012

policewife314:
I agree. registry info is spread by word of mouth.

I don't understand why people think its so hard to find someone's registry. And I grew up in a very small town. Plenty of older people that don't use the internet had no problem finding where I was registered.

littlemermaid · July 2012

I always give money as a wedding gift so I could care less if they included where they registered or not.

shortstuff15 · July 2012

Here I think all the stores you can register at do give you cards to include with your wedding invite and I haven't seen an invite in years without the registry info, so I am used to it and expect it now.

JerkStore213 · July 2012

Cate1234:
amys325:
Really the only thing that I get super annoyed with is if people straight up ask for cash.
I just think that's rude.
I got a wedding invite that not only requested cash gifts but also provided banking information so that you could direct deposit the gift into their account. It was just so incredibly tacky.

Whaaaa? now THAT is tacky beyond belief.

jess60 · July 2012

JerkStore213:
Cate1234:
amys325:

Really the only thing that I get super annoyed with is if people straight up ask for cash.

I just think that's rude.

I got a wedding invite that not only requested cash gifts but also provided banking information so that you could direct deposit the gift into their account. It was just so incredibly tacky.

Whaaaa? now THAT is tacky beyond belief.

OMGawd.

As far as registry info in the invite? I don't care one bit. Not everyone knows or has time to be well versed on proper wedding etiquette while planning their weddings/events. I sure didn't.

MrsSR · July 2012

I think it's worse when you travel half-way across the country to be in the wedding, give a good gift, and then get a generic typed thank you letter (that everyone got) months later...

LuckyDad · July 2012

A printed out piece of paper tucked in a beautiful invitation is tacky from an aestetic point of view. That said, we thought about not having a registry. We floated the idea to friends and family, and got back a resounding "No, we want you to make one". People like to peek at what other people want. It's also helpful for below average gift givers like myself when people make lists of things they want. A *good* registry has many different gifts at different price points and a couple different stores. Our invitation had a url for the wedding website on it, and the website had links to the registry.

You are *always* free to shop off registry. You're also always free to skip the gift entirely, although with many couples paying $80-100 a head from their own pockets just for dinner and drinks, it's a little tacky not to get something (barring financial hardship, of course).

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+seashells+ · July 2012

I got one for a cousin this weekend. They spelt my name wrong. Not only did they not pick the right variation, but they managed to misspell it.

pearblossom · July 2012

I might be able to top this. I just received this today:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/67359137.aspx

mammcg88 · July 2012

amys325:
Really the only thing that I get super annoyed with is if people straight up ask for cash.
I just think that's rude.

I went to a wedding where there were two boxes for cards: ones with cash or check and ones without. I almost pissed my pants and shoved the card back in my purse.

MommaG123 · July 2012

mammcg88:

I went to a wedding where there were two boxes for cards: ones with cash or check and ones without. I almost pissed my pants and shoved the card back in my purse.

Say what?

I would have opened my card, taken the money out, put it in the money card box and told them to suck it.

Ok that's a lie I would have just put the card in the box and then gossiped about how tacky they were to all my friends.

mammcg88 · July 2012

MommaG123:
mammcg88:

I went to a wedding where there were two boxes for cards: ones with cash or check and ones without. I almost pissed my pants and shoved the card back in my purse.

Say what?

I would have opened my card, taken the money out, put it in the money card box and told them to suck it.

Ok that's a lie I would have just put the card in the box and then gossiped about how tacky they were to all my friends.

That's exactly what I did.

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