Not AP enough...

MsCat19 · July 2012

I recently met up with my local AP group.... I consider myself AP lite. They were all so much more then I am. I really liked everyone, but don't feel like I will really fit in. I think I'll go to another meet up or two, but I wish there were moms like me...

tokenhoser · July 2012

There probably are, and they're probably also scared to admit the non-AP things they do at such a meet up.

Be confident that you know your child and your circumstances best and just be friendly.

JessieJH · July 2012

Hmm- I probably would have felt the same.

I don't wear the baby as much as I did at first, we still co-sleep (but I secretly wish she would sleep in her crib/nursery). Sometimes I feel like the biggest thing I do that puts me in another camp is working, but then I see so many mama's here that work too. I don't think anyone fits into a perfect mold.

blush64 · July 2012

Unless they are all reall judgemental I think you'll fit in well. I consider my style attachment parenting but I never even tried babywearing. I hadn't heard of it until more recently and my kids are now 13 and 16. I didn't even know what attachment parenting was until recently and that's when I realized almost everything I naturally did fit in.

I think there a lot of moms like you and I don't think anyone is better or worse for doing more or less. (Ex I don't think a mom is better for breastfeeding to 2 years vs 6 months...it's not really up to me to know what was right for that family)

kaylaakosua · July 2012

Same here. My family thinks I'm a "hippie" cause I don't let my almost 4month old CIO, I EBF, bed share and BW plus no rice cereal and don't even plan on attemping anything until 6-7 months but I don't CD so I feel like the odd man out when people talk about AP. I just tell my self LO thinks I'm the best Mommy and only we know the dynamics of our relationship.

sapgirl76 · July 2012

I think a lot of us get hung up in things that aren't part of the principles, but have become AP culture. It's taken me a long time to get involved with my l

sapgirl76 · July 2012

Oops! Stupid iPod...

Anyway, it took me a while to get involved with my local AP group because a lot of their in-line chatter was about AP-common stuff that we don't do- everyone is gluten and dairy-free, there was a really sanctimommy discussion in circumcision, a lot of asking for info on not vaxing. Just because we vax, had our kids circ'd, and will happily scarf down pizza doesn't mean we're "AP lite" or not AP. If you follow the principles, you're AP.

Even though it took me a long time to become an active voice un the community, I'm glad I have! Everyone has been so nice, which I think a lot of AP moms tend to be- peaceful parenting and all that, you know?

jaymiegerard · July 2012

I'm not extreme with AP, and I prefer it that way. I think all things in life need to be balanced and need some give and take...

If you consider yourself an AP, then you are one! I agree with PP that most moms there probably aren't 100%... and even if they are, unless they are really judgmental (and you'll know if they are or not) then they probably don't care what percent you do AP type things or not. Big Smile

Either way, you wouldn't go to a group like that if you didn't share common values....

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