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Etiquette ? on attire
jerseygirl612
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Quick ?. We are having my shower at a country club where you can't go in if you are wearing jeans or sneakers. Should I include a little piece of paper in the invitation envelope saying Please no jeans or sneakers? Or should I just hope people wouldn't wear that to a shower anyway? I can't put it on the actual invitation so i'd have to put it somewhere else. TIA!
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Re: Etiquette ? on attire
Why not have the hostess tell people about the dress code when they RSVP?
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This. Since its a requirement of the venue, make sure that people are aware of the dress code. It would be awful to have a guest unaware and then be denied entrance to he shower.
I would do this just to be safe, but a lot of it depends on who you invite. In my family, I think everyone would be aware of proper country club attire but friends may not.
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Yes--and different country clubs have different rules. Some of the clubs where I'm from are really casual and (nice) jeans actually wouldn't be out of place. I would make sure that it's clear that the attire "regulation" is a country club rule, not a hostess being picky (ie, "Green Acres Country Club does not allow jeans or sneakers" rather than "Please no jeans or sneakers.")
Yes--and different country clubs have different rules. Some of the clubs where I'm from are really casual and (nice) jeans actually wouldn't be out of place. I would make sure that it's clear that the attire "regulation" is a country club rule, not a hostess being picky (ie, "Green Acres Country Club does not allow jeans or sneakers" rather than "Please no jeans or sneakers.")
This. Maybe include an insert with directions to the venue, much like people do for weddings, and include a easily-visible statement about the venue's dress code? The hostess also need to be sure the info is put out to everyone.
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I would do the slip of paper in the invite and state something along the lines of "Please note that *country club name here* has a dress code of no jeans and sneakers." I would also spread it word of mouth.
It would stink for people to show up and not be able to come in or they have to turn around to go change.
Exactly.
This is my thought too. I can't imagine attending a shower - even at someone's home - wearing jeans or sneakers, let alone one that is at a restaurant, party center or country club. Guess that's just me though.
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Definitely do NOT assume people know not to wear jeans. I personally would never wear jeans or sneakers to a shower, but I've had people show up at my showers in jeans.
Put the information on the invite. My shower a few weeks ago was at my sister's country club and she forgot to put the dress code on the invitation. She ended up scrambling to contact everyone a few days beforehand to let them know the dress code. I had an OOT friend who came who didn't make the country club dress code assumption and hadn't packed anything within the dress code. It ended up being NBD, but I hated that she was made to feel underdressed.
Y'all must go to some super-fancy showers.
I don't think I've ever been to a shower (baby or bridal) where someone wasn't wearing jeans or tennis shoes. Never mind the leggings, yoga pants, uggs, etc.
Wow. I have never worn anything but jeans/capri's to a shower. Here they are super laid back (and we have no country clubs) so unless somebody told me I would not even think that there would be a dress code.
I would honestly include a slip of paper in the invite so that everybody knows.
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I would never wear jeans or tennis shoes to a shower held anywhere, but clearly not everyone dresses up for these events (anymore). I know at my bridal shower (it was at a party room of a condo that was an old mansion and it was a "tea") there was one girl who showed up in jeans and a hoodie. And one of my bridesmaids (who was co-hosting the shower) somehow "forgot" what appropriate shower attire was and also wore jeans and a nice sweater. I was slightly less than happy at my bridesmaid. Of course, she also changed into jeans at some point during my wedding reception as well - she was the only person who did that. I think she must have bumped her head at some point since her very formal destination wedding in England that I attended (and was in).
Anyway, since you just never know about people sometimes it is best to put a note in with the invitation (but, don't print it on the invite) and as other posters have said be clear that it is the country clubs dress code. And of course, your host may want to remind people when they call to rsvp as well.
Where I grew up in the Pacific Northwest, very few people would come to a shower in anything but jeans and sneakers! But, where DH grew up in the South, I doubt anyone would wear jeans. I suppose my default for a weekend daytime gathering would be dark jeans, cardigan and flats.
I agree with PPs that the safest thing is to list in the invitation "Greenville Country Club has a dress code" or "Greenville Country Club does not permit jeans or tennis shoes."
This. I would wear a nice clean pair of jeans to a shower.
This is an odd response. Where do you wear the dirty ones?