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February 2012 Moms
kayladay
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Does anyone else have this problem?
kayladay
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I don't know if this has been talked about before... but I am soo tired of people telling me what I need to be feeding my son. Like my grandmother/his great grandmother is ALWAYS telling me to feed him table food and that when he puts his hands in his mouth that means he is hungry or even my mom will tell me you don't need to let him just cry etc. I have to deal with this ALL the time!! Or if he is crying in his crib and I know he is going to go back to sleep (because he usually does) my mom or grandmother will tell me I need to go get him. Or if he sleeps for 9 hours at a time at night, he is sleeping too much. I want to just tell them to shut up and leave me alone A LOT of the time!! That I know what I am doing and my dr. thinks he is doing just fine!! I am also not okay with random people coming up to us in a store and touching on my baby! I know some pregnant women had people coming up to them and rubbing on their bellys.. NOONE ever did that to me while I was pregnant thank goodness.. so I look at the people who think it is okay to touch my child like they are crazy and just walk away! Anyway the point was that I am sick of my family telling me what is best for my son.. and I take it as they don't think I know what I am doing as a mother. I even had a situation while I was in the hospital that step mom took it upon herself to talk to my nurses about what was going on with my baby (he had to stay in the NICU for a week after he was born) and she never once asked ME what was going on!! I got so upset that I made her leave esp. after finding out that she had also taked to the nurse in the nursery and the nurse got frustrated with my step mom and told her that if I wanted to know anything that I could come talk to them about it that she (my stepmom) didn't need to know first hand. And I wouldn't have gotten so mad if she would've asked me first or asked if it was okay for her to go talk to my nurse.. but she just went to the "bathroom" and then told me she tried to talk to my nurses about what was going on with the baby!! UGH! Sorry, but I needed to vent. lol Anyone else experience stuff like this, a lot?!?
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Re: Does anyone else have this problem?
I don't know your stepmom but is it possible that she was trying to avoid upsetting you? I don't necessarily agree with what she did but I know of times when my mother skipped me and talked to someone else as to not upset me by asking questions.
I have had many people try to tell me what to do and how to do it. I've had non-parents tell me what to do. I usually ignore them. If it's someone I care to discuss things with, I explain why I'm doing what I'm doing. If it gets bad, I get mean. I remind them that this is MY child and I will do what I feel is best. They can or did raise their children how they chose and I will do what I chose. End of story.
I hear alot of unwanted advice but the most recent seems to be
Dont feed her fruit, she will never eat her vegtables if you do.
I fed her sweet potatos, peaches, pears, bananas, peas, green beans, apples, squash, avacado, carrots....in whatever order I felt like giving it to her. She still eats whatever I give her...fruit didnt ruin her eatting habits.
Check out a Mother in Law Monday post some time- you are not alone! I think all of us have some relative that is too pushy, or too free with their advice, or who tries to undermine our parenting.
No advice, really, except to tell you that it's your family, and you should stand up for it!
I would think that, if I hadn't personally already told her and my dad what was going on with the baby, it's like she didn't believe me and wanted to ask for herself to make sure I knew what was going on!