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DH's 2 wk biz trip at 37 wks?

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in October 2012 Moms

I am starting to have a mini panic attack about my DH's business trip in Sept. He will be coming home 17 days before my RCS and I am nervous. 

First I have to give a disclaimer: I am fortunate that I am not a single parent and do have help, I do have family around to assist, my H isn't deployed.  However it just seems like a lot. 

He doesn't really have a choice in going since its military.  Not only will I be huge and uncomfortable but I will be home with a 2 yr old. I am already tired at the end of the day and I have him to at least help with bath and bed.  

DH travels a ton so I am used to it but I feel like this is going to be the straw that breaks the camel's back.  Am I being a baby about this?

 

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  • Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member

    I don't think you're being a baby at all.  H works OOT sometimes and goes out for one or two weeks at a time and I told him that starting September, there's no way he's working OOT for long periods of time.  I don't want him to miss the birth and I don't want to give birth alone. :(

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  • ladeebriladeebri
    I would feel the same way. It's too bad that he doesn't really have a choice seeing its military. With my first DHs brother was getting married on the other side of the country when I was 35 weeks. MIL was really not pleased that for months before hand I insisted there was no way I was going, even if we made the 2 day drive. Well DH returned home on a Monday, the next day I was put on bed rest for pre-e and delivered my son a week later. Sure it's not more likely that you'll go early but you just NEVER know. I'm really sorry you have to go through that.
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  • Mrs.RockyMMrs.RockyM member

    Nope, I don't think you're overreacting at all.  You never know what could happen, and DH missing the birth of our child is a chance I just wouldn't want to take.  When I was pregnant with DD, I couldn't travel any further than 1 hour away from the hospital once I hit 36 weeks, and so as far as I was concerned he couldn't either.  His work was more like 1.5 hours from the hospital, but that was liveable. 

    I'd see if he could get out of the travel.  Maybe someone could go for him this time and he'd do 2 travels next time?

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  • mAnYaShamAnYaSha member
    WIth DS#1 I would freak out when DH did not answer phone right away because he works all over town. Your feelings are completely justifyable. I hope you find a loophole.

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  • JoNi2010JoNi2010 member
    Not a baby at all.  I feel pretty crappy too because DH has to go on a business trip 2 weeks prior to my due date too.  But DH is going to try work something out in that if I go into preterm labor, his company would have to cover his emergency flight home.  If he can manage this, I would be so so much happier about this trip  =)
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  • mdsharrmdsharr
    With our second child on was due at the end of March, my husband was suppose to go on a business trip a few hours away but he would be gone for 3-4 days. At my 36 week ob appointment I asked the NP to check me because had his trip coming up in a few days. She tried to refuse but I wouldn't take no for an answer. This was on a Friday, I was dialted to 4 when she checked me, Baby girl was born on Sunday morning, 25 days early, needless to say DH cancelled his trip. I would not want DH gone that close to EDD.
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  • danienrossdanienross member

    We're two months out from a 9+ month deployment that will likely make DH miss the birth and not meet this LO until the deployment is over.

    That said, I don't think you're being a baby at all!  I have found this pregnancy to be extra hard with a toddler and I'm not looking forward to DH leaving when I'm right at the end but we don't have a choice.  Doesn't mean I don't whine about it from time to time.  I say let yourself be upset for a little bit and then let it go.  It's out of your control so don't spend too much time dwelling.  That's what I'm trying to do.

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  • projectbaby2012projectbaby2012 member

    I wouldn't feel good about that either.  My DH travels a lot for work too.  His last long trip (1 week) will be when I'm 30 weeks.  I'm trying not to think too much about it, but being pregnant with twins, it's hard not to.  I do have friends who can help should something happen.  We don't have family nearby.

    DH has another day trip when I'll be a day shy of 37 weeks.  I feel better about that one - he'll fly out for a day and be back that evening. A good friend of mine said she'll be on call for me that day.  However DH told me he's be devastated if he missed the birth, so I'm guessing he'll send someone else on that shoot.   He's also not traveling in Oct and Nov to be home with us.  I didn't ask this of him, it's his choice and I am so relieved.  I try not to ever complain about his traveling - it's a big part of his job and he loves his job.

    D & R were born at 37w5d.

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