Pre-School and Daycare

Whining and Crying

My son is a very sensitive little guy, but wow...he cries about EVERYTHING. This morning he cried because his sister was playing in his room and missed watching him brush his teeth. Last evening he cried because I forgot to put chocolate in his chocolate milk. The other day he cried because we turned the channel for 2 seconds to check the weather channel.

It's really starting to get tiring. And the whining on top of it is just the icing on the cake. I really shouldn't complain since he is such a well behaved little guy, but the crying is taking its toll.

Anyone else dealing with this? Is this just a phase?

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Re: Whining and Crying

  • Total phase. My son is actually starting to come out of it a tiny bit (he's 4 years 3 months). It got to the point where I think he forgot how to speak normally around me- everything was in a "whine" voice. And when he cries it's big fat alligator tears, which is unnverving! So now when he whines about something ("I don't wanna eat before cartoons, I want cartoons now!") I whine back at him and make it funny ("Awwww.. you don't wanna eat?? Poooor boooy.") He giggles and laughs and says "YOU don't whine I whine!" I try to make him laugh and then quickly sit his food out so he forgets about why he was upset. The crying too is more of a reaction that he can't control. Once we were outside playing and he was crying because the hose wasn't doing what he expected it to. He couldn't stop crying/thinking about it so I sent him to a "soft" timeout, meaning I sent him to his room with a cartoon and told him to come out when he was all done crying. About 5 minutes later he emerged and said "Okay Mama I'm all done. Sometimes I just have to cry, it's what I do!" I was impressed at his ability to relate his feelings. Sometimes I have to remind him that he's "all done" being sad.

    I post on the SN board a lot because DS has an ASD. Auntie once said that "kids who whine have parents who whine." I didn't think I really agreed with this at all when I was in the thick of DS' whining/crying stage. But I did start to see results when I just tried to make everything light/funny. Like when he's crying about having to put his pajamas on I make it a game and get him to giggle. It really has made things better at our house!

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  • We don't have too many problems w/ this, but I try to coach DD to "take a deep breath and count to 3" whenever she starts freaking out about anything.  Its seems to help the tears and redirect her and then we have a big hug and go - I'm done now. 
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    Yes. DD1 cries more than her 1 yo sister. It's annoying. I'm taking Auntie's advice and seeing if I'm modeling the wrong behavior. Lately, I've been asking if she's hurt  when she cries. When she replies no, then I say, Ok I will be on the couch when you calm down you can explain what happened. It's a slow progression.
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  • Glad to see someone else doing this.  DD#1 is just shy of 4 and she has started crying and screaming about any little thing.  The other day, even though it wasn't "little" in her world, she slipped and fell and got the tiniest scrape on her leg.  She screamed and cried so loud that my neighbor came running out of the house thinking that she broke her leg or something.  Then the crying insued for about 45 minutes.  I don't have any pointers, as it is totally new to us.  I think for us she has been going through a lot.  Our dog died about a month ago, my MIL (whom she was very close too) just moved to Florida, my mom (also who DD ADORES) moved to Virginia about 2 years ago.  I think that she is starting to realize the permenance of things and maybe that is affecting her.  I just keep trying to pay close attention to what is going on in her little world that may be an adjustment for her.  As tiring as it is (since I have a 1 year old who cries just as much with ALL of her teeth coming in and frustration that she can't move anywhere (still not walking)) I feel really bad for her.  I just try to talk to her and ask her what is bothering her...I know she doesn't really get it yet, but I am trying to help her recognize her feelings.
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