XP: Does your family sway your name decision?

Bingo1116 · July 2012

I also asked this on the Baby Names board but since I "know" yall a little better, I would like your input as well . . .

I have a name picked out for both a girl and a boy. The boy first and middle are very classic names. The girl first name is also a very classic name. However, the girl middle name is a little "different" but not trendy or anything. It has very special meaning to me and I would have thought to my mom's side of the family as well. Well, apparently my mom hates it. In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't matter what she thinks, but it is disappointing to see that something that was meant to be in memory of someone very special to me doesn't seem to be appreciated by anyone but me. I just wonder if my daughter (if its a girl) is going to hate her name.

For those curious, the name is Lauren Georgia. Georgia is after my late grandfather (my mom's dad).

FrickandFrack · July 2012

No, I do not take anyone else's opinions on my name to heart and in all honesty when I thought I had my name picked out nobody said they didn't like it until I decided on another name. I think it's very rude of mom to say she hates that name but she will get over it if that's what you chose and I highly doubt your daughter (if that's what you end up having) will hate that name. I also wouldn't stress too much about it until you know what you are having.

Sprite2012 · July 2012

Georgia isn't a "different" name. It is a classic name that isn't common as of late, but it isn't some weird off-the-wall name. I highly doubt your daughter will hate her name.

No, our families do not sway our name decision. The decision is ours. We told them his name, and so far, no one has said a peep about it - other than they like it. If anyone makes a negative/judgy comment about our name choice, however, we will have words.

LollyBug18 · July 2012

Does your mom hate her dad or something? I don't see why she wouldn't like that name, it's pretty. I somewhat understand caring what others think of your FN choice but the MN? Seems a little petty to me. MN's are rarely used.

It looks like I'm the first to admit that I'm having doubts about one of our favorite boy names because it is also my father's father's name (though he goes by a NN of his MN, go figure...). I know my mom would be all up in arms over her family not being honored but the catch is that I wouldn't want to use that name to honor my grandfather, he's been a bit of jerk to my family since DD was born. He just happens to have a name that we really like. So, I honestly don't know if I'll get over that or not. Perhaps we'll have another girl though and it will be a non-issue for now. Perhaps you'll have a little boy.

kaileyc · July 2012

Since my MIL is naming my child, I don't worry about it at all. JK

The only person other than me who can sway my decision on a name is DH. I appreciate when someone points out a nickname that I hadn't thought of etc, but I don't pay too much attention to what others say about names I like.

gingerbrood · July 2012

while lauren is NMS, the name is sweet and honors your family. there's nothing wrong with it at all and your mom will get used to it.

family opinion absolutely does not sway our opinion. and we also use the middle name to honor family. with both of my pregnancies i've blogged (our families all live far away) a list of possibilities before the big u/s so the family can get used to our style of choices.

overall we've had a good success in avoiding absolutely rude comments, though a few passive aggressive ones have weaseled there way in. i don't think there's any way to avoid that!

patientnwaiting · July 2012

In the end, its your baby and you can name her whatever you want. We actually decided not to tell anyone the name. It's been a lot less stressful this way. When asked we just say we're still deciding. We shared in the beginning before we knew what we were having and just tossing around some ideas and of course some of them didn't like it but that's normal. What got to us was that one of my relatives actually called me to argue on what to name him after we found out the sex. That's more of the reason we decided not to tell anyone. Not everyone will like your name. As long as you do then thats all that matters.

daniellerm23 · July 2012

We had a name picked out (Keira) that we haven't told ANYBODY, except I had told my cousin a couple weeks ago since we are pretty close... She didn't really get too excited about it or have much to say about it... Not gonna lie, it affected me and I have definitely second-guessed the name. Now, I have a name of about 5 names that me and SO like and we will just pick once we have her!

cmr5776 · July 2012

Don't let anyone influence your naming decision (IMO)... Before we found out we were having a girl, our family would ask if we had picked out names for either and we had... when we'd tell them, they'd say "oh we really like the girl's name" and nothing about the boy's name which tells me they hated it (it was Griffin btw)...

To each their own and if you like it and it has meaning to you - that's all that matters GL!!

kaileyc · July 2012

daniellerm23:

We had a name picked out (Keira) that we haven't told ANYBODY, except I had told my cousin a couple weeks ago since we are pretty close... She didn't really get too excited about it or have much to say about it... Not gonna lie, it affected me and I have definitely second-guessed the name. Now, I have a name of about 5 names that me and SO like and we will just pick once we have her!

FWIW I love love love Keira! It would have been at the top of my list if we were having a girl and I hadn't named my dog Keira when I was 14!

lavet22 · July 2012

My mom doesn't like our choice for a boys 1st name at all. It really didn't bother me when she told me that. I simply replied, "Well, good thing you didn't name your kids that then."

If it's a name that is important to you, use it. Just because someone else doesn't like it, who cares?? DS1's middle name is after my deceased grandfather. My grandmother told me she didn't like the name!!! It's still his name.

For the record, Georgia is a beautiful name. I'm sure your daughter will love it.

FloridaLady · July 2012

We didn't take anybody's opinions but our own into naming our baby. It's your child and nobody but the three of you really matters in the grand scheme of things.

weebos8 · July 2012

Nope, but we are keeping our name a secret from family too.

BTW I love Georgia. There is a Georgia on DS1's BMB who is just too adorable!

tahrna · July 2012

IMO, it should only matter to you and DH, beyond that who cares. Your family will love the baby no matter what his or her name is.

sabrescinderella · July 2012

My mother in law said she didn't like any of the names on our list, and I told her too bad she is not having the baby. I don't let family influence a name DH and I love, but we do use our family as an influence ( since his middle name will be after my late grandfather)

credcat7 · July 2012

Kinda having the same issue ... we have picked our middle name for our daughter and a couple people "get" it and/or "love" it... but the majority (including the dad's siblings) seem to really hate it and they are not shy about saying they are not fans... which I think I absolutely ridiculous, and doesn't sway my choice at all but the BF is kinda throwing around other middle names not which kinda bugs me.

I am also amazed that ANYone feels they have the right no comment negativly on a parents name choice... what ever happened to "if you can't say anything nice.."

credcat7 · July 2012

patientnwaiting:
In the end, its your baby and you can name her whatever you want. We actually decided not to tell anyone the name. It's been a lot less stressful this way. When asked we just say we're still deciding. We shared in the beginning before we knew what we were having and just tossing around some ideas and of course some of them didn't like it but that's normal. What got to us was that one of my relatives actually called me to argue on what to name him after we found out the sex. That's more of the reason we decided not to tell anyone. Not everyone will like your name. As long as you do then thats all that matters.

I am doing this next time around.... 100% for sure