Random question about 'pretending' to drink alcohol

sucrets4 · July 2012

So, what happens when you finally tell people and they do the math? What if they silently judge you for drinking, even though you weren't?

We have a wedding to go to on the 22nd at home. I'm not going to announce it, but if friends ask, I think I'll just tell them and say how we're keeping it quiet for now.

sucrets4 · July 2012

jessuhmarie:
sucrets4:
So, what happens when you finally tell people and they do the math? What if they silently judge you for drinking, even though you weren't?
We have a wedding to go to on the 22nd at home. I'm not going to announce it, but if friends ask, I think I'll just tell them and say how we're keeping it quiet for now.
we aren't telling, but I'm not pretending to drink. A few people have caught on, but most don't notice or don't care.

Yeah, I'm thinking that's what will happen. I know that my friends will figure it out if I don't have a beer at the wedding, but I just don't want to lie. Plus, it seems like so much work.

SunnyCanadian · July 2012

I doubt they would silently judge you, they probably will figure out you tricked them! Stick out tongue

This happened to me last year, we went to a wedding reception with friends and I thought she was drinking with me but lo and behold she was not! They announced her pregnancy a month later and I was all "Waittttt a minute you sneaky devil!!" We had a good laugh about it.

Annnnnd now I get to give her payback Stick out tongue because we're both going to a wedding on the 28th! The secret is to get your husband to bring you drinks! At least that's what worked for her and I was none the wiser.

I really want to try to wait until the end of 1st trimester before telling our friends. We'll see how that goes.

Sparkles01 · July 2012

I'm pretend drinking because it would set off so many alarms in my circle and I'm not ready to share. Friends should be able to figure it out but you can always throw a, "yea it was so hard to pretend I was drinking for the last couple of months around you all!"

myszko · July 2012

I would not worry at all about being judged. Who cares??!! You know you weren't drinking and if they can't figure out that you were faking, you can just tell them if it bothers you that much.

LiteraryFoodie · July 2012

jessuhmarie:
sucrets4:
So, what happens when you finally tell people and they do the math? What if they silently judge you for drinking, even though you weren't?
We have a wedding to go to on the 22nd at home. I'm not going to announce it, but if friends ask, I think I'll just tell them and say how we're keeping it quiet for now.
we aren't telling, but I'm not pretending to drink. A few people have caught on, but most don't notice or don't care.

This. And the few that do notice probably won't say anything if the only indication is that you aren't drinking alcohol because that might be considered rude.

ChisenaBlasko · July 2012

With our first we didn't tell anyone, not even family, until 13 weeks. Our best friends live next door and we hang out all the time. I drank what my friend thought was wine but what was really ginger ale in a wine glass. I even went to an overnight bachelorette party and pretended to pour rum and cokes (minus the rum). When we went out to a bar I got a glass of wine and then a "phone call" so when I went out to answer it I dumped the wine. At dinner I went to the bathroom, found our waiter and told him I was pregnant and my friends didn't know, so whatever I ordered make it a virgin. When everyone found out I told them that I wasn't really drinking. They were all surprised at what a great liar I was.

I will be doing the same thing this time as we will not be telling anyone until the second trimester.

Elocin · July 2012

We're heading to DH's hometown in two weekends for a family picnic. I am NOT ready to share. We shared last month because his dad was in town and it's pretty obvious if I'm not having a glass of wine something is up. He gave me a perfect opening though, when he asked if I wanted wine and I said no and he said, 'What, are you PG?" "Yes, actually, I am!" Unfortuately, we had to untell them a mere 4 days later when I started bleeding that it didn't stick. I don't know how I'll do it, but DH & I both agree that we're going to try to keep it quiet if we can. I'll probably walk around with a beer. With my first PG, we were also in DH's hometown for his grandmother's funeral when I was about 8 weeks PG, and I just said I was designated driver. After we announced, people said they suspected anyway.

lioness13 · July 2012

I have friends that did this and we had a good laugh about it later. One of my friends even spilled her drink on herself to avoid drinking. We still laugh about it.

lioness13 · July 2012

Oh and I totally ordered the drinks when I went out last weekend so nobody was the wiser Wink

Shoshie · July 2012

Good news is I'm not a big drinker - so it wouldn't shock anyone if I didn't. My friend got around it by saying she was taking cold medication.

watermellens · July 2012

I'm pretty sure people will assume you were drinking soda or whatever when they find out you're KU

GrangerWifey · July 2012

I'm sure once people find out, they'll know of course that you were trying to be coy while it was still early. I don't think anyone would actually think you were consuming alcohol knowing you were pregnant. And if they think that, screw 'em!

twogirlsilove · July 2012

I've been drinking club soda and cranberry juice for my own benefit as well as for whoever is watching. It looks like a mixed drink and it's refreshing so I can still be around everyone and be 'drinking'. If anyone questions me I plan to tell them that I am taking pain meds again for a former back injury.

I sorta feel bad lying, but I am definitely not telling anyone until we tell our parents and siblings and we aren't doing that until after our July 30 doctor appointment. This is really tough at times because I talk to my mom and sister literally 5 times a day. They and my best girlfriends know that we've been trying. I just keep saying things like well if we have a baby down the road...blah blah blah just like before.

I am a complete open book normally. But my husband and I have decided to keep this between us until our 1st appointment. I did have to tell a couple of people at work because I am a nurse and was assigned a patient that I wasn't comfortable caring for pregnant. And I had to tell my acupuncturist since she was treating me for fertility!

Good luck!!

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