Sex!

paohass · July 2012

Im 16 weeks along and Omg Sex is sooo painful to point where I dnt want to be initimate with the hubby..... I had the same problem with my first pregnancy didnt think it would come back soo early!! Any input would be wonderful Ive tried everything lube doesnt help at all uggh

ShellShockedMama · July 2012

I have the same problem, so i avoid it when possible.

Thats probably not too helpful. Lol.

BrittanyDoesDerby · July 2012

DH and I have to play it by ear as to what is uncomfortable/ painful for me and what is not. Have an arsenal of lube and a variety of positions ready, if it's something you want to do.

paohass · July 2012

Yes me too! I just feel bad for the hubby its been 2weeks since we last had sex!

jen.vaughn81 · July 2012

Masturbation. For both of you, together. That way its all external and intimate as well.

jquirke9881 · July 2012

I have no helpful advice either. It was very painful for me too so we avoid it. We try to stay connected doing other intimate contact but I can't handle the sex part right now.

egingras · July 2012

jquirke9881:

I have no helpful advice either. It was very painful for me too so we avoid it. We try to stay connected doing other intimate contact but I can't handle the sex part right now.

This. He's lazy and prefers BJs anyway, so win-win.

paohass · July 2012

Yes great idea lol never really thought about it!! But hopefully the pain goes away or lessens because no penetration at all is what scares me for the hubby's sake lol!

MrsT1108 · July 2012

I'm no help. I haven't had sex since getting KU. I haven't been in the mood, at all, I don't even want to be touched.

My poor husband.

HopeNotLost · July 2012

I've been on pelvic rest since my first appointment at 8 weeks, so it's been since about April since we have had sex. I don't miss it either.

jelly0822 · July 2012

For various reasons, we've only had sex twice since I got KU, but I won't get into that.

I've heard that maybe the Liberator cushion helps sometimes. I'm not sure that it would help on its own, without lube, but maybe it may put you in a better position that would at least be a little more comfortable and let you relax a little?

mnieciecki · July 2012

I feel fat and totally unsexy. DH on the other hand is like supercharged.

DH: I'm horny

Me: That's nice. Go take a shower

I suck it up, even though it's not what I want to do, maybe once every 2-3 weeks. Lube, Lube, Lube, lots of lube. It definitely helps. Missionary, as boring as it sounds, is the least painful. If I feel nice, he'll get a bj. It helps I only see him on the weekend bc of our opposite shifts.

bsn1752 · July 2012

My DH can't keep his hands off of me, so just saying "no" won't work! haha

Lube is your friend though. Keep trying out positions until you find one that's comfortable... try laying on your sides. And LOTS of foreplay!

Good luck!

JessAnnJ · July 2012

If your pain is caused by tightness, like you are tense down there, then try wiggling your big toes as hard as you can. As things get going you relax more and no longer need to do the toe thing. It sounds really stupid, but it was a suggestion my doctor made when I was really uncomfortable during a pelvic exam. I tried it during sex and it really helped.

barclayri · July 2012

mnieciecki:

I feel fat and totally unsexy. DH on the other hand is like supercharged.

DH: I'm horny

Me: That's nice. Go take a shower

I suck it up, even though it's not what I want to do, maybe once every 2-3 weeks. Lube, Lube, Lube, lots of lube. It definitely helps. Missionary, as boring as it sounds, is the least painful. If I feel nice, he'll get a bj. It helps I only see him on the weekend bc of our opposite shifts.

ROTFL....

paohass · July 2012

JessAnnJ:
If your pain is caused by tightness, like you are tense down there, then try wiggling your big toes as hard as you can. As things get going you relax more and no longer need to do the toe thing. It sounds really stupid, but it was a suggestion my doctor made when I was really uncomfortable during a pelvic exam. I tried it during sex and it really helped.

Yes tightness and like stabbing pain! will give it a try

mrsmarroe10 · July 2012

MrsT1108:
I'm no help. I haven't had sex since getting KU. I haven't been in the mood, at all, I don't even want to be touched.
My poor husband.

This. Exactly.

Kblom27 · July 2012

Now I just feel like a mean wife. The horizontal mambo didn't hurt the last time we did it at my house, but I just SO don't feel like it. I want to just punch poor DH every time he suggests it. I was just laying there thinking about how I could be sleeping instead. Wow - I can't believe I actually admitted that!

NoeliaV · July 2012

BrittanyDoesDerby:
DH and I have to play it by ear as to what is uncomfortable/ painful for me and what is not. Have an arsenal of lube and a variety of positions ready, if it's something you want to do.

What she said. If something's not working, then we just try another way. Sometimes it takes a few attempts, but eventually it all works out.

paohass · July 2012

Kblom27:
Now I just feel like a mean wife. The horizontal mambo didn't hurt the last time we did it at my house, but I just SO don't feel like it. I want to just punch poor DH every time he suggests it. I was just laying there thinking about how I could be sleeping instead. Wow - I can't believe I actually admitted that!

LOL....thts how I was in the beginning now the pain started!

maestra816 · July 2012

Early in pregancy I just had so much pressure and cramping downstairs that the idea of sex was nauseating in itself. Now I have had sacroilium joint pain for the last 2.5 weeks and I can't lie on my back. My poor husband must be so hard up because we have had sex once since we found out we were pregnant at the end of April:( I know I could throw him a bj bone but I hate em....... Feeling the guilt,,, I probably just suck it up or he may never impregantate me again if he goes 9 months without some lovin:) lol

paohass · July 2012

Thank you ladies for your inputs it helped me feel not so alone with this situation!

marchlady86 · July 2012

Kblom27:
Now I just feel like a mean wife. The horizontal mambo didn't hurt the last time we did it at my house, but I just SO don't feel like it. I want to just punch poor DH every time he suggests it. I was just laying there thinking about how I could be sleeping instead. Wow - I can't believe I actually admitted that!

LOL, we're in the same boat, I'm not in pain having sex I just don't feel like it. Every once in awhile ill go through the motions, but my mind is always somewhere else.

PongosMom · July 2012

We're in the same boat. When we finally went for it things were really uncomfortable for me and I don't intend to repeat that for a while... On the thread someone commented on a big toe wiggle, but I don't think that will help for the stabbing pain I have... Boo!

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