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Please help me. I am in tears and near my limit...

Ms.JadeMs.Jade member
in October 2011 Moms

E crawled on Sunday and is now sitting up in her crib SCREAMING. I know this is common and goes along with milestones. What I don't know is what to do about it. When I go in and lay her back down she cries harder and immediately rolls over and sits up again. I mean within seconds she's back up. If I pick her up and rock her she falls asleep on me but the second I put her in her crib she wakes up and sits up and screams. She was a good sleeper before and we did Ferber. I tried leaving her last night and she cried for an hour. I gave up and picked her up and she was hyperventilating! I felt horrible. 

Should I...

1. Keep going in at the proper intervals and laying her down even though she screams more and sits back up immediately

2. Leave her alone and let her figure it out even if she's hysterical

3. Strap her into her rock and play so she can't sit up 

4. Something else. 

I have searched and searched and searched online and all I can find is people commiserating. I need to know what I should DO. 

Thank you so much! 

 

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  • cantalopes24cantalopes24 member
    I would go in at regular intervals and just put her back down. I think strapping her in the rock n play will frustrate her more.
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  • aliciarosetaliciaroset member
    We go in and pick her up and put her back down once she's quieted down. I've tried comforting her without picking her up but she won't have it. We've never Ferberized though. I know exactly what you're talking about. It's like they're on autopilot with the sitting up. Exhausting. I always talk to her, too. 
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  • AngLK987AngLK987 member
    I have a spare bed in DD's room, when we went through this I layed down with her in the bed until she was in a deep sleep then put her in bed. She would fall asleep on me but wasn't in a deep enough sleep to move her to her bed, It didn't last very long. Probably not the best solution, but it worked for us for the time being... and sleeping cuddled with her saved my sanity a bit.
      
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  • cmoracmora

    imagecantalopes24:
    I would go in at regular intervals and just put her back down. I think strapping her in the rock n play will frustrate her more.

    This...hope you both get some rest tonight.

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  • joolz17joolz17 member

    I went through this for ten days and it sucked. I alternated between rocking him back to sleep (which we had quit doing), and lying him back down. 

    During the day, make sure there is lots of time for baby to learn how to sit down from standing or practicing getting back onto belly. Once that skill is learned, it was much, much easier for him to do it at night.

    once he had that skill mastered, it took one nap letting him cry till he figured it out, and we were back to easy falling asleep and staying asleep. 

     For me, it helped to take a lot of deep breaths and leaving the room and remembering that this too shall pass.  

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  • christiney06christiney06 member
    yep, just stay consistent and go re-lie her down over and over.  it SUCKS, but she'll get it. my son was stubborn at this age, it took him about a week to finally give in and finally sleep.  good luck! 
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    ps sorry, I just realized you said she is just sitting, not pulling up to standing yet (wait for it!) but the same principles apply, I think. 
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  • ababymaybeababymaybe member

    I wouldn't lay her back down. I feel like that will either piss her off or turn into a game. 

    You might have to re ferber, basically. Your back to bed plan should be similar to what you did initially to ST. If you want something more gentle you could do pick up (til calm but not asleep) at intervals. But I wouldn't just lie her back down.  

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  • ababymaybeababymaybe member
    Shoot. Can't edit on iPhone. Wanted to add that when DS learned to sit, I just let him be. I would lay him down, he'd sit up and I left him. Sometimes he would play with Sophie for a bit or get mad but eventually he got bored/tired and went to sleep ice he realized we weren't going to give him attention. 
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  • Ms.JadeMs.Jade member
    Ok. DH is reading over my shoulder and he thanks you guys too. I think we'll go in at intervals, pick up and put back down. I would be fine with leaving her if she wasn't hysterical. I can't stand her hyperventilating. It's just not me. Picking her up will reassure her, give her a break from the screaming and calm her down. But we'll keep letting her figure it out in between. Thank you so much. 
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  • mrs-smith2bmrs-smith2b member
    We are going through the same thing since DS learned to pull himself up.  I  pick him up, rock him and sing to him until he falls asleep.  When I lay him back down in his crib, he usually wakes a little/fusses and I pat his chest or bottom until he falls back asleep.  I didn't do Ferber or CIO, but this is what works for us.  I hope it gets better for you soon!!
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  • June0609June0609 member
    We went through the same thing last month and even when I let him wear himself out he would only sleep for an hour before waking up again. He would wake up 4-5 times in one night so finally we just let him sleep in our bed for that week. He's now fine sleeping in his crib again ::knock on wood::
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  • Sammy-MaeSammy-Mae

    DS is a tummy sleeper so we would just put him on his tummy and then I put my hand above his shoulders (not hold him down I mean hovering maybe an inch over his shoulders), that way he would try to get up or roll over and he woudn't be able to.  He got really mad but he was super tired and it took about 5-10 minutes after his bedtime bottle for about a week and he finally started sleeping better. 

    No we have a whole new sleep trouble to deal with in our house.  DS wakes up when I am getting into bed everynight and starts freaking out and won't go back to sleep unless I am in the room.  The minute I get up to leave he loses his schmidt again.  He doesn't want me to hold him, soothe him or even sing.  He just wants me in the room.  I am thinking a cardboard cutout is the solution to this problem.

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  • BettyBookwormBettyBookworm member
    imagecmora:

    imagecantalopes24:
    I would go in at regular intervals and just put her back down. I think strapping her in the rock n play will frustrate her more.

    This...hope you both get some rest tonight.

    That sounds exhausting. I hope you get some rest, and I have to say I don't look forward to that new thing with Abby. However, we will all make it!

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