What do you think of this?

theroadahead · July 2012

I know we haven't been TTC long, only 3 weeks and the likely hood of me getting KU before I get period is slim to none. However (sorry if this is TMI) MH and I were having sex earlier and he pulled out...! When I asked him about it he just shrugged it off. I'm really frustrated right now! Just needed to vent.

duffmaker · July 2012

Um is he on board with TTC? Like completely on board... or are you TTC.

Not TMI... that's what TTC is... sex

MrsBlindLove · July 2012

Honestly it sounds like maybe he's not ready or maybe it's a power thing because he feels more like a sperm donor. Either way it sounds like you need to sit down and decide if you both are on the same page.

tiffk10 · July 2012

I think you need to have an honest conversation with YH and make sure that he is 100% on board with TTC. It sounds like maybe he isn't...

theroadahead · July 2012

I thought we were both completely on board 100%. This makes it feel like he isn't I agree. When we got married we decided we'd wait to be more financially stable and what not.

In February HE brought it up and said he was ready to try when I was. My Implanon wasn't scheduled to be out until July so we decided we would bring it up again then. Well when I got it out he was there and the DR asked if we wanted another form of birth control and I left it up to him since I had already told him I was ready and he said no, we could try.

So unless I'm completely crazy that tells me he's on board! He watches me bump all the time and knows that I've been looking into temping and everything once I get my period, so there have been plenty of times he could say something. Maybe he is just having a moment, or getting cold feet. I'm going to let him think about it before I say anything again, but I will for sure say something before we have sex again! It just has me so confused!

duffmaker · July 2012

Strange, maybe he's got that last minute panic. Like "Oh sh*t this is actually happening". I'd sit down and just talk about it, go over finances, plan how life would take shape during your pregnancy and of course after you have the baby. With work, childcare etc. Maybe he just needs to feel more prepared?

doremi29 · July 2012

Is it possible that he wants to try, but doesn't want to be in "ttc mode"? I know my H never really understood that it was something I was going to be super gung-ho about- like with temping, OPKs, sex on demand, etc. Maybe he's looking for more of a relaxed start to it all?

This time around DH and I can joke about it- like when I got a + OPK, I was just like "Hey, I need your sperm Stick out tongue "....last time around, he didn't want it to be all planned out.

musicalsilver · July 2012

clizh:
Strange, maybe he's got that last minute panic. Like "Oh sh*t this is actually happening".

I agree with this. It's one thing to talk about being ready, but a whole new thing when it comes to actually *doing* it. No pun intended. Maybe give him a little time to let his (well, both of yours') decision sink in and talk to him about it.

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