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OK seriously, what am I doing wrong?

bigbearbigbear
in January 2012 Moms

This is an extention of previous post "the truth and nothing but the truth" :)

DD is an angel at daycare, naps for at least two hours in the morning after her 10 am bottle and usually gets in another nap around 2.00 pm or so.

At home she's miss crabby pants, fights naps and when she finally goes down it's one hour MAX and sleeping at night doesn't happen anymore.

What's with the kiddos being completely different at daycare?? lol

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Re: OK seriously, what am I doing wrong?

  • jodywelshjodywelsh
    I think a lot of it has to do with the different environment. Babies get comfortable where they are and (although it stinks) DC knows what to look for/do because they do it more often than we do. It seems like my DS changes his habits every week so its hard to know when and how he is ready to nap when I don't do it everyday. I bet they would have a hard time getting our babies to bed at night because they don't do that part!
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    imagejodywelsh:
    I think a lot of it has to do with the different environment. Babies get comfortable where they are and (although it stinks) DC knows what to look for/do because they do it more often than we do. It seems like my DS changes his habits every week so its hard to know when and how he is ready to nap when I don't do it everyday. I bet they would have a hard time getting our babies to bed at night because they don't do that part!

    Yeah, I'm sure they also let her CIO way more than I do...:/

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  • namara5532namara5532 member
    imagebigbear:

    imagejodywelsh:
    I think a lot of it has to do with the different environment. Babies get comfortable where they are and (although it stinks) DC knows what to look for/do because they do it more often than we do. It seems like my DS changes his habits every week so its hard to know when and how he is ready to nap when I don't do it everyday. I bet they would have a hard time getting our babies to bed at night because they don't do that part!

    Yeah, I'm sure they also let her CIO way more than I do...:/

    This.  I volunteered in the infant room at a daycare in high school.  Daycares have their tricks, such as using a mobile to signal sleeping time.  They also turn on peaceful music and let some of them nap in the swing since there was always someone in the room.  This was just one daycare though, so it's not necessarily everywhere.  The point is they stick with the same routine every day that conditioned the babies to nap right after feeding time.

    Maybe you could ask her teacher for what cues they use to put her down.  You could try copying what they do to get her to nap at home.  Best of luck to you.

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  • PsyDr04PsyDr04 member
    OMG I was just about to post on this very topic. I have talked to the daycare worker twice about DS's sleeping habits while he is there. According to her, when he's fussy (meaning tired) they put him down in his crib on his tummy, he might cry for 1-2 minutes and then he goes right to sleep. When he's at home, he fights naps at times and when it's bedtime, I put him on his side or his back and he usually rolls over onto his tummy but then proceeds to throw a fit. I have tried putting him on his tummy to start like they do at daycare and he squirms around and fusses and cries trying to get back onto his back. Then when I put him on his back, he goes right back over onto his tummy, rinse and repeat. He definitely does fight sleep at home a lot of times. I am totally mystified by all of this as well. 
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  • raefreraefre member
    I think it comes down to routine.  Do what PPs said and find what daycare is doing that signals to your child that it is naptime.  I know when we switch it up at home that DS is fussier than when we stick to routine.
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  • bigbearbigbear

    Well the daycare really doesn't have much of a routine for infants. They do with bigger kids but their naptime is not when DD's is. I think they just let her be more than I do, maybe I try too hard... :/

    At home I try to implement a routine but she just won't have it... I'm at a loss here....

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  • aboynamedbarryaboynamedbarry member
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    Well the daycare really doesn't have much of a routine for infants. They do with bigger kids but their naptime is not when DD's is. I think they just let her be more than I do, maybe I try too hard... :/

    At home I try to implement a routine but she just won't have it... I'm at a loss here....

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    I just reread what you wrote and realize what i said is probably not so helpful, but don't give up! She will nap!!! she has to! lol :) if you've given the same things a good run, maybe then try something new... i get stuck trying one thing after another with no time in between for it to stick... but she will figure out something she likes eventually!

     

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    as I was reading this i was thinking about how i struggled with napping routine (it's still not awesome, but getting better) and I have been sooooo tempted to try anything and everything all at once. and not at the right time or the right way. like an idea pops into my head like, oh let's try the tummy, not working, ok let's swaddle, not working ok, let's not swaddle. and i make myself crazy. something a friend of mine told me before i had DD was that babies want what they get used to. So my suggestion is a) find out exactly what the routine is at daycare and b) more importantly, pick something you're comfortable with and then if you're ok with some crying let her cry a bit.

     

    my whole truth and nothing but the truth post resulted in me changing things last night to what i've wanted for awhile and i had great success... but it was hard to let her cry... however, once she stopped crying and did what she needed (and what I wanted ;) it was worth it! the crying days are not over i'm sure, but consistency is the key i truly believe... the times i've had success over the last 5.5 months is due completely to being consistent.

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  • eklangereklanger member
    FTR, when I worked in an infant room, there was no CIO going on.  the babies are super busy working out new toys and having new experiences... its just more stimulating than home so they got really tired and went to sleep. My home is nowhere near that stimulating, no other kids around.  You could try taking a long walk when you want to start winding down for a nap?
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