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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
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2U2 Mamas - Come in!
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How are you managing with 2U2? Is it easier/harder than you thought it would be?
What is the hardest part for you?
If you had it to do over, would you wait longer in between babies?
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Re: 2U2 Mamas - Come in!
My girls are 19 months apart. Whether it's easy or hard really depends on the day, what kind of mood everyone is in, how much sleep we all had, are we staying home or out and about... it just depends. Most days have their challenges but are great overall.
The hardest part is the sleep deprivation. So far, I really feel like the first year is the hardest, and we did that first year back to back without getting much of a break from all of the newborn stuff. My girls also both have/had chronic ear infections, so their first year has each been full of doctors and antibiotics and surgery for tubes for #1 and probably #2.
If I had to do it over, no, I wouldn't wait longer between babies. I can't imagine life without either of my girls, and they adore each other. In the long run, having them close together was the right decision for our family for a lot of reasons, and as crazy as it is I wouldn't change my life for anything. Should we decide to have a 3rd, however, we will leave a large gap, but not more than 3 years.
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
My girls are 23 months apart. It was really difficult in the beginning - for about the first six months or so. It still is difficult at times. For one, DD#1 wasn't potty trained before DD#2 was born. It took a lot longer to train her b/c we couldn't focus on it like we needed to. It was also very difficult to get DD#2 on a good schedule b/c DD#1 interrupts her sleep.
If I had to do it over, I would wait longer - at least 3 years. The benefits of having them close together are the friendship and bonding, and I think 3 years apart would have the same amount of closeness as 2 years, but would be easier on me.
My boys are 22 months apart, and it is actually easier than I expected. DS #1 is very intense, and he was a tough baby. DS#2 is very mellow and easy going, if it were the other way around I think it would have been harder. But the older one actually wants to be just like the baby, so when it was time to bathe or change, or feed the baby, the older brother was right there wanting to do it, too. It actually made it easier to get him agree to do things I couldn't convince him to do before the baby.
I would do it again, yes, but I am holding out another year or two before I think about #3.