MIL Monday

dbowitz · July 2012

Please share a favorite MIL moment;

Last year, I hosted a baby shower for SIL. One of the activities at the shower was to fill out a page of a scrapbook for the parents to be (wishes and advice for the new family, predictions about the baby, etc.) One blank asked "How do you know the parents to be?"

My graceful and socially astute MIL wrote "I gave birth to (father to be)"

NicoleN82 · July 2012

haha...nice!

mine is very sweet, but she...ahem...assumed she was invited to my bachelorette. It was a very awkward conversation to have about that....urgh...

Kpeterson18 · July 2012

My MIL drank a lot too much on 4th of July and must have told me 50 times to name our baby Charlotte (after her). I don't even think she remembers. Confused

mjr12 · July 2012

Ugh. I really don't have many nice things to say from my MIL.

Sorry.

I WORK with my MIL AND FIL. Sometimes, I wish I could say what I really want to, but I hold my tongue. She, however has a habit of saying the rudest things. Before we were pregnant with #1, (we had been married almost 10 years) she said that I was probably waiting for genetic engineering to assure I could have a certain sex child before I got pregnant.

Then, she would constantly say how she didn't breastfeed her kids, and how she didn't understand why I couldn't just give DS a bottle. It was because he WOULDN'T drink from one.

She once told one of my friends that she made enough money that she should just order a husband from the internet. Yeah. She said that out loud.

Oh, I have so many.

And 3 months PP, my FIL sent me an article via email about being obese! What? I'm not fat, and I had just had a BABY!

Snowflake7867 · July 2012

We told our families within days of our BFP and said please keep it off Facebook since we aren't telling *everyone* till later. Well a couple of weeks ago we were having an awful wildfire here in Colorado Springs and though we weren't having to evacuate there were a couple of days where the smoke was so bad that the AC was pulling it in and making the house smell like a campfire. I updated my status saying our house smelled like smoke and my MIL commented on my status something like "Please don't breathe in that smoke, keep my grandchild safe!" I deleted it as fast as possible but still don't know if the previous two commenters saw it before I deleted, one of whom had already messaged me privately asking if I was trying to tell people something based on my recent Pinterest pins. Thanks mom!

kelly321 · July 2012

My MIL used to be horrible to me, then shaped up (she's now horrible to another one of her DILs). When DH was telling her about this pregnancy and told her I was having some m/s, she said, "Well that's a sign that everything's ok with the pregnancy, so that's good news!" I know she meant well, I really do, but I had to restrain myself from explaining to her that symptoms are related to hcg levels, and they can remain high enough for symptoms well after a m/c. :-( So not an evil MIL story, just a naive one, and she had 3 miscarriages herself, so you would think she would know that.

heather.mike · July 2012

I love my MIL dearly. But she says funny things sometimes. Lots of advice to give

The obvious kind of advice.... Like, yesterday, after our dog was super sick all weekend, she tells me "make sure you guys don't take him for a jog right away, he needs to rest". Yeah....DUH! Lol.

NG2HD · July 2012

My MIL is so hateful that she didn't want us to get married and we haven't spoken to my ILs since. We did reach out to her once DD was born but she promptly told DH that she doesn't consider DD part of their family.

kelly321 · July 2012

NG2HD:
My MIL is so hateful that she didn't want us to get married and we haven't spoken to my ILs since. We did reach out to her once DD was born but she promptly told DH that she doesn't consider DD part of their family.

Tongue Tied Wow. That is really horrible. I simply don't understand women who are that bitter and hateful to their own children / grandchildren. Even if she doesn't like you for whatever reason, it is absolutely awful to act like that toward her own grandchild. I mean, she should be nice to you, too, but that's a different story.

desertlady86 · July 2012

NG2HD:
My MIL is so hateful that she didn't want us to get married and we haven't spoken to my ILs since. We did reach out to her once DD was born but she promptly told DH that she doesn't consider DD part of their family.

WOW, she seems like a real biitch!!!

CocoR04 · July 2012

My MIL explained to me their family's baby naming traditions the first time I met her. My DH and I had only been dating a year or so. Then, she asked me how "my people" name babies. I didn't know what to think or say!

nic9911 · July 2012

NG2HD:
My MIL is so hateful that she didn't want us to get married and we haven't spoken to my ILs since. We did reach out to her once DD was born but she promptly told DH that she doesn't consider DD part of their family.

Sounds like your the winner. What a gem!

CupcakeKaper · July 2012

My MIL is awesome and I have no complaints or even awkward moments.

BUT I have lots of stories about my EXMIL - when my XH and I called to tell her we were pregnant, her response was "me too"...and she was serious. DS has an uncle that is one month older than him. Awkward!!

nic9911 · July 2012

I'm pretty lucky with MIL. They live 1,000 miles away for most of the year. The other day however, she sent me an email about how being catholic is the best religion....I'm not catholic.

CocoR04 · July 2012

CupcakeKaper:
My MIL is awesome and I have no complaints or even awkward moments.
BUT I have lots of stories about my EXMIL - when my XH and I called to tell her we were pregnant, her response was "me too"...and she was serious. DS has an uncle that is one month older than him. Awkward!!

WHOA!! I would be floored!

eatdrinkstretch · July 2012

Agh. My MIL is well-meaning, but totally clueless and insecure. At my SIL's wedding a couple of weeks ago she told my FIL's new wife that we were expecting (which she knew was a secret) because she got insanely jealous when new wife told her how great of a grandfather FIL is to her grandchildren. We were trying to keep it quiet from everyone except my parents and my MIL (my husband and his father are not close) because I really wanted my SIL to have *her* wedding day without having to deal with any baby news. Sigh.

MrsTwiddy · July 2012

My MIL came to our 4th of July bbq and was all "I have a present for youuuuuuu" and I was like "oh hell."

Turns out, she took it upon herself to go ahead and knit a pair of blue baby booties (yes, I'm 10 weeks along and have no idea what I'm having) because she KNOWS it will be a boy because their family ONLY produces boys. Super annoying.

The bad thing is, after it taking 2 years and medical intervention to GET pregnant, I don't really care WHAT I have...but it pissed me off bad enough that I'd want to have a girl just to prove her wrong. ugh.

Suz+Mo · July 2012

MrsTwiddy:
My MIL came to our 4th of July bbq and was all "I have a present for youuuuuuu" and I was like "oh hell."

Turns out, she took it upon herself to go ahead and knit a pair of blue baby booties (yes, I'm 10 weeks along and have no idea what I'm having) because she KNOWS it will be a boy because their family ONLY produces boys. Super annoying.

The bad thing is, after it taking 2 years and medical intervention to GET pregnant, I don't really care WHAT I have...but it pissed me off bad enough that I'd want to have a girl just to prove her wrong. ugh.

Send you girl vibes!! What the heck....all of these mils are ridiculous!!

irishmom2010 · July 2012

MrsTwiddy:

My MIL came to our 4th of July bbq and was all "I have a present for youuuuuuu" and I was like "oh hell."

Turns out, she took it upon herself to go ahead and knit a pair of blue baby booties (yes, I'm 10 weeks along and have no idea what I'm having) because she KNOWS it will be a boy because their family ONLY produces boys. Super annoying.

The bad thing is, after it taking 2 years and medical intervention to GET pregnant, I don't really care WHAT I have...but it pissed me off bad enough that I'd want to have a girl just to prove her wrong. ugh.

I have the same mental response to my MIL!

She is notorious for bringing presents for DD. Usually, it's clothing from the sale racks at Walmart. I have nothing against sales or Walmart - it's our go-to at our family's cottage. My problem: she keeps buying 3T sized clothing when DD is barely in 2T and it is the most obnoxious loud clothing that I would never purchase. EVER. It's on the clearance rack for a reason, lady.

And now she has started buying DD little jean skirts - I fear the day she finds skorts for DD. MIL lives in skorts during the summer with t-shirts...hot.mess.

taco42 · July 2012

My MIL is VERY bipolar, she loves me 2/3 of the time and hates me the other 3rds.

during on of her hating times she informed my DH that she would not let me any where near his children(this is both of our first child)

annmengland · July 2012

My MIL is completely useless. She not only hideous on the outside, but on the inside as well. She only cares about herself. She texted me asking how I was feeling (she is hoping I will tell her I have m/s) So I say i'm fine and going food shopping. She writes me back 2 hours later.. (she doesn't work, cook, clean, or have any friends so its not like she was busy) she said take it easy if you want ill come help you. I said its been two hours and im done and home already. Ugh I just really dispise her. I dont even really call her my MIL i call her "Jeff's mom". I consider by FIL's gf my MIL lol Thanks for the vent.. it felt really good to get that out haha

ATLdesi · July 2012

God, some of these stories are horrible!

My MIL is a sincere, sweet person - but she's incredibly naive and unlearned in the ways of the world. She immigrated to the U.S. about 20 years ago, but still hardly speaks English or leaves the house, and only really associates with family members that speak her language. So there's a lot that she doesn't know.

My story is: the year after DH and I got married, I had to have an emergency appendectomy. When DH told her about this via phone, I believe she hung up and cried for 2 days, because she thought this meant I would never be able to bear children. Only days later when DH called back to say hi, did she muster the courage to ask the question between sobs about how this would affect our future. Gah! In a way I felt sorry for her, but in another way I couldn't believe her naivet?.

breathlife · July 2012

NG2HD:
My MIL is so hateful that she didn't want us to get married and we haven't spoken to my ILs since. We did reach out to her once DD was born but she promptly told DH that she doesn't consider DD part of their family.

WOW... Im so sorry ... on one hand i thinking dang .. but if she is that hateful maybe its better she isnt putting all that negative energy into your family !

BlameItOnTheRain · July 2012

NG2HD:

My MIL is so hateful that she didn't want us to get married and we haven't spoken to my ILs since. We did reach out to her once DD was born but she promptly told DH that she doesn't consider DD part of their family.

Yup. Except it's my parents.

MIL isn't hateful, but I'm definitely the person that stole her little boy away (geographically). It gets old.

MrsTwiddy · July 2012

Suz+Mo:
MrsTwiddy:
My MIL came to our 4th of July bbq and was all "I have a present for youuuuuuu" and I was like "oh hell."

Turns out, she took it upon herself to go ahead and knit a pair of blue baby booties (yes, I'm 10 weeks along and have no idea what I'm having) because she KNOWS it will be a boy because their family ONLY produces boys. Super annoying.

The bad thing is, after it taking 2 years and medical intervention to GET pregnant, I don't really care WHAT I have...but it pissed me off bad enough that I'd want to have a girl just to prove her wrong. ugh.
Send you girl vibes!! What the heck....all of these mils are ridiculous!!

Thank you!!! Girl vibes are appreciated!! Lol

MrsTwiddy · July 2012

irishmom2010:
MrsTwiddy:

My MIL came to our 4th of July bbq and was all "I have a present for youuuuuuu" and I was like "oh hell."

Turns out, she took it upon herself to go ahead and knit a pair of blue baby booties (yes, I'm 10 weeks along and have no idea what I'm having) because she KNOWS it will be a boy because their family ONLY produces boys. Super annoying.

The bad thing is, after it taking 2 years and medical intervention to GET pregnant, I don't really care WHAT I have...but it pissed me off bad enough that I'd want to have a girl just to prove her wrong. ugh.

I have the same mental response to my MIL!

She is notorious for bringing presents for DD. Usually, it's clothing from the sale racks at Walmart. I have nothing against sales or Walmart - it's our go-to at our family's cottage. My problem: she keeps buying 3T sized clothing when DD is barely in 2T and it is the most obnoxious loud clothing that I would never purchase. EVER. It's on the clearance rack for a reason, lady.

And now she has started buying DD little jean skirts - I fear the day she finds skorts for DD. MIL lives in skorts during the summer with t-shirts...hot.mess.

Yeah mine wears these God awful polyester outfits all the time--not even sure where you can buy those things in 2012.

cupcakes710 · July 2012

NG2HD:
My MIL is so hateful that she didn't want us to get married and we haven't spoken to my ILs since. We did reach out to her once DD was born but she promptly told DH that she doesn't consider DD part of their family.

WOAH! What the H?!?! [ETA: I'm so sorry you have to deal with that; it sounds horrible!

Here's my story...]

My ILs live 1000+ miles away and they're great. I do have a hilarious FIL story though:

We were visiting and staying in their guest room shortly after we were married. FIL knocks on the door in the morning, waking us up and calls in "Are you decent?" DH responds, "NO!" (even though we weren't naked or anything and under covers)

FIL walks in anyway and says "OK I'm just going to give Jamie some tea" and handed me the mug.

HAHHAHAHAHAHAHA! I'll laugh about that one forever.

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