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Anyone else's LO cry every night before bed?

julieb00liejulieb00lie member
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So I finally got serious about sleep training a few weeks ago.  He will put himself to sleep, but he always screams when I walk out of the room and cries to sleep.  It's so heartbreaking.  You usually hear of the crying only lasting a certain amount of nights, but with him, he ALWAYS cries EVERY night.  I don't know if it's b/c I waited so long to sleep train, or if it's just his personality.

Anyone else experience this?

I try to do a nice relaxing routing.  I give him his bottle with the light on so he won't fall asleep on the bottle.  I then stand up and we say good night to the little animal decals, and we might sway to the music in the dark for a minute, etc.

Any suggestions?

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  • mvhydemvhyde member

    Sorta. My LO cries for a minute or two after I leave but then he settles down. If it goes for more than 5 mins I go in and comfort him and try to get him to relax by stroking his back.

    It also depends on what mood he is in. Yesterday I think he was tired from traveling and couldn't settle down so he cried for longer and needed more help relaxing.

    But this is the peak of separation anxiety I think. So he will cry when you leave. What works best is if I pass him off to hubby kiss LO goodnight and then have hubby read a book or two and put him to sleep. He is a lot less upset if hubby leaves him alone in bed than if I do.

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  • dairygirl19dairygirl19 member

    How long does he cry for?

    My LO has done this since birth, but I leave her be. She usually settles by minute 5 and is out like a light by minute 10. If it's been 15 minutes and still no dice, I go get her and try something else (which is rare).

    It apparently is her way of winding down or something.

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  • melandjuddmelandjudd member

    DD still fusses most of the time but it is only for a minute or two.  I think it is her way of protesting going to bed, but it never lasts long. How tired is LO when you put them to bed?  I have noticed that if DD is really tired she settles a lot quicker.

     

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  • HomelessParrotHomelessParrot
    Yep. Every. single. time. And naps too. We make sure she is fed (she nurses), we make sure she is dry. We lay her down, tell her we love her, and leave. She sometimes fusses/whines a bit and then goes to sleep. Other times, she does the hysterical meltdown. At that point, my husband goes in, soothes her, lays her down (she usually sits up), and then she will typically go down for the night.
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  • swimiz500swimiz500 member
    Yeah, DD cries a little every night. Usually only for 5 minutes or so, some nights it is more whining than crying, but either way she pretty much always stops crying on her own after a few minutes and falls to sleep. 
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  • AMcLawsAMcLaws member
    My DD has a massive meltdown unless we lay down with her. Been going on for about 3 weeks now. We gave no idea what to do
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  • smb722smb722 member

    Most nights we have at least a little fussing before he falls asleep.  Some nights it's more than others. 

    More often than not I let him CIO.  If the crying goes on for 30 minutes or becomes hysterical, I go back in, check for poop and if there is none, soothe him best I can and put him back down.  That usually does the trick.

    I do know his cries, so I know whether he needs to be addressed or whether or not he's just fussing/whining.

     

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  • amyc216amyc216 member
    We started sleep training June 1 and while he sleeps great once he falls asleep, he still cries himself to sleep most nights.  I thought it would start to pass too.  It really bums me out! 

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  • T&HLoveT&HLove member

    Yes, sometimes. She is winding down..

     

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  • tracyl0826tracyl0826 member
    How long does he cry?  We started sleep training almost 2 weeks ago.  At first he was crying for 25-40 min.  The duration has gone down, but he still cries for about 10 min before bed every night and before every nap.  It's been that way for over a week and I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.  It doesn't matter if my husband, our nanny or I put him down - always the same.  We don't go in to sooth him because it just makes him more upset.  I am beginning to wonder if this is just how he goes to sleep...I really hope not :(  
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