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Will you surprise your hubby?
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Good Morning!
I thought it would be fun to share ways that we may fantasize about surprising our DH once we get a BFP! Or, if you have already surprised him with a previous child...share away!
My DH and I have two little dogs that love to wear clothes. They probably have more clothes than we do! Anyways, I have been wanting to get them plain white t-shirts (I really wanted onesies but those are hard to find for dogs!) and then get iron on letters. I will spell "Big Bro" on my male dog's shirt and "Big Sis" on my female dog's shirt. My hubby always pays special attention to the pups so I thought I'd let them announce it with me! However, as time approaches, I'm afraid I'll be too excited to hold it in. Maybe I should make the shirts now so I won't have to wait long to announce it! 
Can't wait to read some interesting ideas! Happy Monday!
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Re: Will you surprise your hubby?
I've been thinking about this because if it happens this month, I will be out of town that week. I could theoretically wait to test, but we'd both know because I'd be like 18 dpo with no AF by the time he sees me again. So, I'm not sure what I'd do this month...I think I'd probably just call him on the phone and tell him. If it happens another month, I'll put DS in a big brother t-shirt and let him figure it out.
When we conceived DS we were on vacation, so I didn't have anything planned. I tested in the am and got the faintest of lines, so I had intended to wait a couple of days to test again and tell him after I got a darker line, but when he woke up I just blurted it out.
Kind of. He knows we're trying, knows when I ovulated, but I won't tell him when I'm testing. I enjoy the idea of surprising him - he got to surprise me by proposing; I kind of see this as the equivalent.
For our son, I wrote on the shower wall with those shower crayons "You're gonna be a dad! 4.29.2012", then waited til he discovered it in the morning.
We haven't had any miscarriages though - I can see where if you had, you'd be really cautious and not make a big deal out of it.
I agree completely about no more surprises for this reason.
With my first pregnancy, I was so excited I just blurted it out.
With my second pregnancy, I didn't surprise DH either. But we had a family photo session a couple weeks after my BFP, so I decided I was gonna get a pic of DD in a Big Sister shirt for when we told family. I miscarried 3 days before the pics.
I ended up donating the shirt to Goodwill and vowed to not by anymore baby items until I'm 20 weeks (a bit excessive, I know).
With my son I randomly took a test while DH was at work because we weren't trying, I really thought it would be negative (but was testing because I had been so fatigued), and I didn't want DH to think I was being dumb by taking a pregnancy test. Well it happened to be positive, and I started crying out of surprise/excitement so I called DH right away, and he thought someone had died haha. Plus he didn't believe me until I took another test 3 days later.
DH said this time he wants to be there when I test, so I don't have anything fancy planned other than just having someone I cry out of happiness with!
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With DS I was so excited about my prenancy symptoms that when I woke up at 4am, I POAS. I tried to fall back asleep but I was so excited that I had to wake DH up and tell him. He was half asleep and so confused.
So when we get pregnant with #2 I'd like to tell him in a better way! I'm thinking I'll get one of those "big brother" shirts for DS. Not totally original or anything but at least cuter than me waking him up at 4am.
I'm glad you posted this. I'm having a hard time deciding what to do. And will have a hard time explaining this without sounding like I have a terrible husband...
But, we are TTC# 3. And while my DH agrees that he would like another child, he's not an emotional person AT ALL! He's one of those guys who just can't wrap his head around things until that baby's in his arms. (and once they are, he's the most amazing Dad!).
So, now that I know he is not going to jump for joy or cry with a BFP I can prepare myself for not being disappointed, but I just can't think of the best way to tell him where I can respect his feelings and not make myself a crying mess! lol thoughts...?
If you are out of town, you could always have balloons or flowers sent to DH. I sent pink and blue flowers to my Mom and said something like, "Pink or Blue What will it be? You have to wait til EDD to see!"
With BFP# 1 we made a t-shirt for the dog to tell family.
My sister sent note cards in the mail...that's all I can think of for now.
We have a dinosaur thing so I bought a "Pregasaurus RAWR" shirt that I'll wear. I also bought baby Dino shoes and I have a few dinosaur onsies. I know, I'm a freak.
I had originally planne to order a giant fortune cookie and have the fortune say "a baby is in your future" but since it's been so hot and it has chocolate on it, they make you ship it FedEx priority overnight which is $48! Just so the damn chocolate doesn't melt.
I just had to tell you, my sister's nursery theme was dinosaur so she and I both snatch up baby dinosaur items. Just about a week and a half ago, she bought her son some dinosaur shoes at Target. A-dorable!
Last year when I first found out I was pregnant, I couldn't contain myself once I got that positive result, it was the best feeling in the world, I took 5 tests in 2 days, all positive, and told my DH by showing him the last positive stick!
Then I had a very unexpected miscarriage at 11 weeks and wished we had never gotten so excited, we had just started telling some close friends and family at 10 weeks (thinking we were in the clear of a mc).
It was very, very sad. So much so that I feel like next time I get that BFP, I know it's not a sure thing and I can't allow myself to get all excited. I will tell DH as soon as I test but I know it won't be this crazy exciting moment. I don't want to get his hopes up just in case something happens ...
I'm always on the fence about what I'll do but hesitate to buy anything until I see a BFP.
I saw a pack of bibs at JCpenny that has an I LOVE DADDY and I love my Aunt and etc in them that are generic enough in color for both a boy or girl.
I could kill two surprises w/ that pack. But I dunno what I'll do.
The big brother shirts on dogs may be our announcement to friends and family.
I just got a onesie last weekend that says "Snugasaurus" on it, and thought of you! It's a cute theme!
Our furbaby Lexi
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The name is Angel. I'm 27 years old & DH is 28. We have been together for 12 years, married on May 21, 2011. We are TTC #1! I was diagnosed with endometriosis via laparoscopy in August 2010. Off of BC since March 2012. I am a 2nd year OB/GYN Resident physician. I love getting to be involved in precious miracles first moments of life, and I can't wait until the day we are blessed to have our own miracle!
Our furbaby Lexi
Ovulation Chart
The name is Angel. I'm 27 years old & DH is 28. We have been together for 12 years, married on May 21, 2011. We are TTC #1! I was diagnosed with endometriosis via laparoscopy in August 2010. Off of BC since March 2012. I am a 2nd year OB/GYN Resident physician. I love getting to be involved in precious miracles first moments of life, and I can't wait until the day we are blessed to have our own miracle!
I need to buy this! Where did you get it?
BFP #1 (DD): I took a test while DH was gone and asked him to go out to dinner with me when he got home. He knew something was up on the way to dinner when I was making lame excuses for why I wanted to go out. He pulled the car over and refused to drive to any restaurant until I told him my news. Actually, he pulled over, demanded to know what was going on, and then said, "Are you pregnant?" Haha.
BFP #2 (m/c): I texted DH. For real. I took a test and had a super faint line that required serious squinting to make out. I had a bad feeling about the pregnancy and didn't think I could handle his excitement if I told him face-to-face and lost the baby later. He was optimistic, but I started bleeding two days later and the m/c was confirmed 2 weeks later.
I'd always thought the "Big Brother" and "Big Sister" T-shirts were kind of cheesy, but DH mentioned that he thought it was a super cute way to break the news. I bought a "Big Sister" T-shirt for DD for next time around.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
About 2 months ago or so, we went out for lunch at a Chinese restaurant and I got a fortune that said "You will soon acquire a great new family member". I nearly sh!t my pants! I took a picture and it's my background on my laptop
I wonder what confucious considers "soon"...
With DD, I bought a little mini-DH outfit and wrapped it up as an early Christmas present. He responded with "We're having a BOY?!?!" Yeah, I found out at 4 weeks pregnant that it's a boy. That's right buddy. When I got pregnant last summer, I put DD in a "Big Sister" shirt because I'm cheesy like that. He didn't figure it out until the second day, and that was only after I pointed it out to him. He's so observant, my hubby!
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Love this idea!
Thanks for posting this, and thanks everyone for sharing! DH and I were just talking this last night when I looked at FF and realized we could find out we're PG on our wed anniv and I haven't figured out a spectacular way to tell him. Like some have said, I have NO poker face and if I see a BFP he'll know it. I also refuse to believe I have a creative bone in my body. We're traveling to visit friends then going to spend the rest of the week where we got married so I'm waiting to test until we get there. If anyone has any nautical ideas/experience lay 'em on me!
Yes! DD was not planned so I just walked out holding the stick and said, "Um, I'm pregnant."
This time, I want to do something really special. Right now, I'm thinking of buying an Xbox and setting it up while he is at work. Our entertainment system is downstairs so he won't see it when he comes in. Then, I'll put a baby onesie with our college team and a card that says "From the 3 of us" inside the box. I'll ask him to open the box to make sure everything is there because it felt a little light to me. As a bonus, he'll have a new gaming system he's been wanting.
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My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
Me (26) Him (27)
21 cycles TTC
My Ovulation Chart BFP-11/10/11 ectopic. Methotrexate on 12/1/11. BFP #2-08/17/2012 FX for a ute-baby! 15DPO beta-387 HCG; 36 progesterone
TTC #1 since March 2011
1 medicated TI cycle & 4 clomid IUIs = all BFNs
DS1 born 2/14
TTC #2 since December 2014
May 2015 unassisted BFP ended in m/c at 7wks
April 2016 FET #1 = BFN
June 2016 FET #2 = c/p
August 2016 FET #3 = BFP!
DS2 born 4/17
In the spring when I got my BFP I "told" him by giving him a newborn onesie with a reindeer on it that said "I love Daddy", wrapped up in a Christmas gift bag (my EDD was mid-December). Completely sucked because even though I've put it away I still find it occasionally. This time I plan on using a card. It won't really be a surprise though (and last time wasn't really either) because he knows approximately when I'm testing.
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I totally know how you feel! DH just doesn't believe it until he sees it. He doesn't get excited when I tell him I O, or if I am having "symptoms" so I just stopped telling him.
I won't be surprising my DH. He has expressed that he wants to know when I am taking a test because he doesn't want to be blindsided. Maybe for our 2nd, I will just trick him