wow, what a difference being a mom makes

Re: wow, what a difference being a mom makes

• meg_2006 member

  July 2012

  I've been wondering when I will have to unleash "The Mom" on someone.  I'm shy and timid too, so we'll see how I react when I need something for my baby!

  
  

  
  
  

  
  

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• MrsBPO member

  July 2012

  Congratulations on getting the fee waived.  But ftr, there are generally no fees when the records are sent inter-office.  If the new ped requested the records they would be sent as a courtesy to his office.  Never request records, always have the doctor's office request them.  And if you request them, check the HIPAA fee schedule.  If the records are less than ten pages, then the $25 fee may not be HIPAA compliant (but if they are more, they won't be HIPAA compliant either but you'll be getting a better deal.)

  And if you were going to pay anyway, how is this "messing with your baby?"  It's great that you're showing assertiveness when you're generally a shy person, but this has to do with you taking a stand, not them messing with your baby.  Don't give the baby-mommyhood the credit when it's a matter of standing up for your principles, not your kid.  If you told me the doctor's office said they wouldn't send the records because your kid was ugly or something equally ridiculous but baby-related rather than fee-related, then I could see this as "standing up for my baby."

  
  

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• cara117 member

  July 2012

  MrsBPO:

  Congratulations on getting the fee waived.  But ftr, there are generally no fees when the records are sent inter-office.  If the new ped requested the records they would be sent as a courtesy to his office.  Never request records, always have the doctor's office request them.  And if you request them, check the HIPAA fee schedule.  If the records are less than ten pages, then the $25 fee may not be HIPAA compliant (but if they are more, they won't be HIPAA compliant either but you'll be getting a better deal.)

  And if you were going to pay anyway, how is this "messing with your baby?"  It's great that you're showing assertiveness when you're generally a shy person, but this has to do with you taking a stand, not them messing with your baby.  Don't give the baby-mommyhood the credit when it's a matter of standing up for your principles, not your kid.  If you told me the doctor's office said they wouldn't send the records because your kid was ugly or something equally ridiculous but baby-related rather than fee-related, then I could see this as "standing up for my baby."

   

  Good info about the payment part but about whether or not the whole ordeal was because of being a mom, who cares?  OP was proud of something she did that pertained to being a mom so why go make her feel like her post was not justified?  It's not like she was insulting anyone, just sharing a little tidbit. 

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• MrsBPO member

  July 2012

  She has every right to post and every right to be proud.  But she honestly should be proud for the right reason.  She stood up for HERSELF, not her baby.  It has nothing to do with her being a mom, it has to do with her discovering a core of inner strength she didn't realize she had.  That inner strength had nothing to do with the baby, and everything to do with the fact that she was angry and frustrated and stood up for herself.  She needs to give herself more credit; if she places it properly she'll value it properly.  If she's in a similar situation not baby-related, will she still stand up for herself or will she step back like she has in the past because she's non-assertive and shy and it doesn't matter as much because it's not for the baby?  I would hope that this is a lesson learned and she will continue to stand up for herself when justified no matter the reason or the cause.

  The same goes for you, Meg.  Don't blame or credit the baby and don't wait for the baby to give you a reason to stand up for yourself.  Credit the gumption you have inside yourself when you need to take a stand.  Whether the cause is the baby (hope not), or someone being bullied, a wrongful accusation or whatever the reason, stand up for yourself.  It's in you, no matter how shy or reticent you think you are.

  (And for the record, I thought I was shy once upon a time.  Middle school through my mid-twenties.  Then my ex was disabled while in the military and I had to unleash the inner-witch to navigate the good old government and to provide for us.  It was an eye-opening way to learn to take a stand.  I wouldn't wish it on anyone.)

  
  

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• wychets member

  July 2012

  MrsBPO:

  Congratulations on getting the fee waived.  But ftr, there are generally no fees when the records are sent inter-office.  If the new ped requested the records they would be sent as a courtesy to his office.  Never request records, always have the doctor's office request them.  And if you request them, check the HIPAA fee schedule.  If the records are less than ten pages, then the $25 fee may not be HIPAA compliant (but if they are more, they won't be HIPAA compliant either but you'll be getting a better deal.)

  And if you were going to pay anyway, how is this "messing with your baby?"  It's great that you're showing assertiveness when you're generally a shy person, but this has to do with you taking a stand, not them messing with your baby.  Don't give the baby-mommyhood the credit when it's a matter of standing up for your principles, not your kid.  If you told me the doctor's office said they wouldn't send the records because your kid was ugly or something equally ridiculous but baby-related rather than fee-related, then I could see this as "standing up for my baby."

  This. I always have the Doctor office request my records if needed and a fee has never been mentioned. Congrats anyway!!

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