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Did you tell People?

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Did any of you choose to tell people around you that you are struggling with PPD or PPA?  

I was super hesitant to tell anyone beyond my siblings, mom, dad and Husband. My mom really encouraged me to tell my extended family which was cool they were all great. THe biggest thing was I didn't want to tell DH's family.  I hate being looked at 'differently'. Yesterday was the first time I saw one of my SIL's and felt like she kept looking at me like I was a broken specimen and with pity. It sucked!  Especially since I am starting to have a lot of really great days! 

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  • katieh1017katieh1017 member
    At this point only DH knows and one friend. I told my friend Fri night at dinner and honestly she didnt say much. So either she didnt know what to say or she just didn't get it or understand. Oh well. I want to tell my mom but I know I will get hysterical. My meds are not working yet and I wanted to wait. I may tell her this week especially if I need her to watch LO while I go to the doctor. I've dealt with depression in the past and it wasn't something I shared with people. I always felt people just never got it. I will absolutely not tell my ILs but I don't have a god relationship with them where I would share it. I think it's however comfortable you are with discussing. 

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  • winter-shockwinter-shock member
    I can totally relate to not feeling like sharing it. The only thing I think it did help was for MIL to stop thinking I was not liking her and to have an understanding that I have a lot of days where I literally just dont feel like I can be around people.  So that helped stop the stress of having to deal with family members who were being put off by us. 
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  • toriitorii member
    I had (have?) terrible PPD that turned into major depression (per my therapist and doctor). I was silent about it for 10 months before asking for help. After those torturous ten months, I started to slowly feel better. During that time I would tell anybody who would listen. Each person I told helped lift me farther up and away from the depression. I know it's different for everybody, but talking openly helped me so much.
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  • pinkmoonlightpinkmoonlight member
    No, besides DH no one in either one of our families knows and we plan on keeping it that way. I would rather not have to explain to everyone how I am feeling and my struggles at every given moment. Not only that is DH's mom is a gossip queen and loves to talk about everyone's business with everyone else. She calls DH all the time to fill him in on all the gossip with the family and even her neighbors. It drives me crazy.
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  • winter-shockwinter-shock member

    imagetorii:
    I had (have?) terrible PPD that turned into major depression (per my therapist and doctor). I was silent about it for 10 months before asking for help. After those torturous ten months, I started to slowly feel better. During that time I would tell anybody who would listen. Each person I told helped lift me farther up and away from the depression. I know it's different for everybody, but talking openly helped me so much.

    I totally agree with you! Since I have started it really has lifted me. The only people I struggle with is DH's immediate family. I still feel like they pity me more then support, if you understand the difference I mean. But I think that very well could just be my perception.  

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  • mollybloommollybloom member

    I have been really open about it. Not everyone in my life knows, but I have no problem telling my friends and my family if it comes up.

    DH's family does not know cause I detest them.

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    imagetorii:
    I had (have?) terrible PPD that turned into major depression (per my therapist and doctor). I was silent about it for 10 months before asking for help. After those torturous ten months, I started to slowly feel better. During that time I would tell anybody who would listen. Each person I told helped lift me farther up and away from the depression. I know it's different for everybody, but talking openly helped me so much.

    I totally agree with you! Since I have started it really has lifted me. The only people I struggle with is DH's immediate family. I still feel like they pity me more then support, if you understand the difference I mean. But I think that very well could just be my perception.  

    I agree wit h this. Talking about it just seems to take it off my chest. However, my H's family does not understand it and they look at me like a basketcase that needs to suck it up.

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