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April 2012 Moms
kissyfitt
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Baptism outfit WWYD?
kissyfitt
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J's baptism is in a few weeks. We had to do it in the summer because DH's sister and her fianc? are the godparents and so they are making the visit their vacation. As a result, a lot of our family members aren't going to be able to come. So it's just going to be a handful of friends and family. We are totally fine with this.
DH and I decided we weren't going to go fancy so on Friday we went out and bought a white button down dress shirt, khaki dress pants, and adorable little brown shoes. And we got a great deal on them.
Well, lo and behold, my mom, whom I haven't even spoken to in about 4 days, shows up this morning with "something for the baby". And it's a white satin suit. She saw the look on my face and I told her I had gotten him something and we didn't want anything too fancy. She said it was fine if we "don't want it" but she couldn't take it back (got it at a children's boutique that had a stand at the outdoor market). And she acted hurt but said herself that she should have asked us.
This really ticks me off because shouldn't the parents get to choose what he wears? I told DH that I guess he could wear it for the ceremony and then I could put the outfit I got him on him when we have our little party afterward. I will feel like a jerk if he doesn't wear it, but I really don't want I put him in it. WWYD?
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Re: Baptism outfit WWYD?
I would put him in the satin outfit, and change him after the baptism.
Eta: I'm not 100% in love with our gown, but it has some history to it, so I use it because it makes my mom happy.
If it was me, I would have him wear the all white suit for the baptism. It is my opinion that if you are being baptized that you need to wear all white.
DS wore a suit just like you described when he was baptized in late July. You will want to change him ASAP anyway. It was hot as all get out. He only wore it in the air conditioned church.
Whatever decision you make, best wishes for the baptism! It is a special day!
Yeah. It was a nice gesture even though she should have asked. Have him wear it for the ceremony & change him after you get a few pictures.
My mom got M's gown and I wasnt in love with it... But I knew it meant a lot to her. I put M in it for the ceremony, and I picked a party dress for her afterwards and she hung out in that the rest of the time
If you feel like you'd feel guilty about not using the suit, maybe you can do something similar.
DD wore a huge old fashioned gown that MIL had hand made, and DH and all 5 of his brothers wore at their baptisms (20+ years ago)...sure, I would've loved to buy a new cute white dress for DD to wear, but it would've caused hurt feelings, and turns out, she could've worn a burlap sack and it still would've been one of the best memories I have.
I think your mom was just making a nice gesture, and you should have your son wear the suit she bought for him...what he wears isn't important enough to create hurt feelings, and in the end, the ceremony and what it means is the only thing that's important.
My mom had bought LO a dress and a gown overseas before LO was born. I didn't like the dress, luckily LO does not fit in it. As for the gown, we are using it as her cover. According to our church (catholic), it is better to dress the LO in something else other than the baptismal gown/dress before getting baptized. Right after getting baptized the child can be changed into the white dress/gown as a sign of purity. Our person in charge of the baptism suggested we dress our children in a onesie so that the priest has easy access to the child's chest when he puts oil on it and so that if it's the nice dress it won't get dirty.
LO is wearing a white onesie that has a cute pink skirt around it. As soon as she is baptized, she will be changed into her cute white dress with her baptismal gown over it. Oh and she does have a more colorful outfit to change into during the reception.=X
Maybe you could do the same thing or everyone else's suggestions above.
Thanks for your opinions, everyone.
We really didn't want to go fancy--we are Catholic but the Deacon who ran our prep class said it was perfectly fine for boys to wear a white dress shirt and light color dress pants. However, like I said and some of you have suggested, there is the option to wear the formal suit my mom bought for the ceremony and put him in my outfit afterward.
I was talking to her tonight and I think she feels bad that she didn't check with us beforehand. She kept telling me he didn't have to wear it but I told her he would wear it for the ceremony but in the future I would appreciate her letting me choose his special occasion outfits.