I can never leave

MrsE05 · July 2012

As soon as I hand LO over to DH she cries. Everytime I leave to run an errand or *gasp* do something for myself he calls to say she has been crying the whole time. Even when she has just eaten and been changed and it's usually her happy time . I feel awful bc DH says that LO hates him and I feel awful bc I feel like I can never leave her. It's not even like he doesn't try- he dances around with her, plays songs and sings, takes her outside, the paci sushing everything! As soon as I get home and he hands her over she stops crying immediately. Anybody else have this problem? I feel like they both just need to get used to each other, especially bc he is working from home now. I can't be with her all the time...

baby+vega · July 2012

i have the same issue...dh does the exact things i do to calm lo, but they only seem to work when i do them. i'm nervous because i'll be returning to work part time tomorrow, leaving lo with dh alone for 5 hours...hopefully they will learn to get along with each other by spending more one-on-one time together!

Beener0514 · July 2012

We are having the same problem but not so extreme. I can leave DD with DH for my shower or for a quick run to the store but she is sometimes fussy for him until I grab her and then she calms down, usually right away. I feel bad for DH who is ways saying she hates him.

lmd321 · July 2012

Um, yes!!!! I hate it because I wish he could get up at night sometimes, but takes him at least twice as long, if ever, to calm him down and get him back to sleep. I'm just laying there awake anyway, listening, so I might as well let DH sleep and do it myself, you know? I am surprised, however, the few times he has successfully calmed DS. It just takes time.

huahualove · July 2012

I've only left DS two 30 min times since he was born, I love him, but I feel chained to him at times. He doesn't like to take a bottle so I don't have many options.

kissyfitt · July 2012

Samesies.

I have no answers. I pee and shower with him in the bathroom sitting in his bouncy. He is perfectly content if I am within sight.

The only time I have ever left him, he was freshly changed, fed, burped, and asleep. The minute I closed the door (and I closed it quietly) DH said he screamed until I got back 20 minutes later.

FusionLMT · July 2012

Just keep trying, a little every day! DD used to be really fussy with everyone, but now she loves cuddle time with daddy and is getting better with my mom.

hass2001 · July 2012

Same. DD will start to wail if anyone but me holds her. I feel bad because I go back to work tomorrow and she will be with my mom all day. It will be the longest she's been away from me. I hope she's not too upset tomorrow.

huahualove · July 2012

kissyfitt:
Samesies.
I have no answers. I pee and shower with him in the bathroom sitting in his bouncy. He is perfectly content if I am within sight.
The only time I have ever left him, he was freshly changed, fed, burped, and asleep. The minute I closed the door (and I closed it quietly) DH said he screamed until I got back 20 minutes later.

if I didn't have a bouncer I would maybe get 1 shower a week. I'm so glad I bought one even after people told me I didn't need it and a swing.

MrsE05 · July 2012

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I told him not to feel so bad, when she is a little older she will be daddy's girl I'm sure. I think they both just need some time. (hopefully not too much!)

horsegurl15 · July 2012

Madi was like that too. I went back to work a few weeks ago and she is home with DH when I am there. After about 2 days she finally got used to it and now both her and DH seem to enjoy each other more. She still sometimes has her I want mommy days but at least DH isn't convinced she hates him anymore.

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