What are your thoughts....

BabyCampbell312 · July 2012

We have always known that we wanted at least 2 children. Our current child is 3 months old and we have been talking about TTC again.

I personally am okay with the idea of having 2 under 2 and so is DH.

I'm just wondering I guess how many ladies here actually were trying for 2 under 2, or that is just happened that way?

I personally have a few reasons why I'd like another one sooner than later.

Just wondering what your reasoning was or is there was any at all for having 2 under 2.

Also, if it is bearable.

Mom2Mack1 · July 2012

We don't have our 2nd LO yet but the idea of 2u2 was never mentioned when the idea of TTC came up. DH really just wanted to get it out of the way, if that makes sense?!? I guess the whole being pregnant (like it affects him that much!

-), and the infant stage. I was not ready until DD was 8 months old. She will be 20 months when LO #2 comes.

MBorelli26 · July 2012

i have 2 under 2! (well kinda..) my daughters are just now 2 1/2 & 1 1/2.. I got pregnant ON MATERNITY LEAVE!!! (not intentional!) Gianna was 7 weeks old! (agh!!) i didnt find out until I was about 4 mos along.. i thought my body was getting back to normal..needless to say i was hysterical! i think it was hardest for me bc my 2nd daughter was SO colicky.. and ill tell u getting preg so close together is very uncomfortable. i felt like the babies head was on my cervix every second..even at 4 mos! it was so sensitive..even hard to sit. my hormones were a mess too and i was fine the 1st time around.. Gi didnt even walk when Hailey was born so there was no jealousy which was good though I guess!! I just regret looking back and realizing how much of Giannas 1st year flew by and I feel like I dont even remember it..now its a little rough but getting easier.. best of luck girls

CaitlinJ22 · July 2012

our first 2 are 18 months apart and I like that, but it was hard to BF til a year when I was sick and pregnant with #2. So next time I waited until I weaned DD (14 months) and got pg the next month. So #2 and #3 are 2 years and 4 days apart.

Its a very personal decision, its hard but worth it. I got pg with DD and DS right away, so for me it happened as soon as we tried and we were thankful, but still shocked!

amtrak18 · July 2012

We are on our way to 2 under 2. LO will be 20 months when the new baby is born. We wanted them close for a couple of reasons.

1. My brother and I are 6 years apart and that has always been hard on us and I wanted mine to be close

2. Selfishly I wanted to get the pregancy, diapering ect out of the way(we are only planning on2)

I think it really depends on what fits your life.

memali26 · July 2012

My two are 19 months apart. It's not easy, some days it's just plain hard, but I wouldn't change it. We had always planned to have all of our kids close in age and prefer not to have to start all over with diapers and bottles and baby gear every 3 or 4 years. Originally we planned to try when DD1 was a year old, but decided to take a whatever happens, happens approach and ended up pregnant when she was 10 months old. We don't know if there will be a #3 or not, but if so we will leave a slightly larger gap - closer to 2-2.5 years, but no more than 3, just because I need a break from sleep deprivation.

PaisleyRuth · July 2012

We did not plan to have 2u2. We thought we'd have them 2-3 years apart. I stopped BFing DS when he was 8.5 months & was waiting to get my period back. When it still hadn't come 3 months later, I took a pregnancy test right before his 1st b'day... apparently I was almost 12 weeks pregnant already!

Looking back, I'm kind of glad we didn't have to "try" for the 2nd and it just happened. Although I'm nervous how it's gonna go when she arrives in a month, if things had happened according to the schedule I planned, I'd probably be charting & timing sex and all that crap right about now & I'm glad I'm not doing that!

mamarazzi528 · July 2012

My 2nd LO isn't here yet, but we planned our 2u2. They will be 16 months apart.

Our reasons:
1. Get the newborn stages done with sooner than later so we can make our family complete and move on to having fun as a family.
2. Having kids close in age so they will be able to do the same activities at the same time and play together.
3. We're in our 30's and might want 3 kids, so we want to have them as soon as we can and not have to risk having them later.

Shannda20 · July 2012

Well I can't say we were trying for 2u2, but we were not preventing it either. I wanted to wait until my son was 1 before it was a possibility. So I went off birth control and with my husband's training then deployment we only had 3 chances (never thought it would actually happen, but I wanted them closer rather than waiting until after deployment.They will be 22 months apart. I can't say how difficult it is with two, but being pregnant and sick with a very active toddler is hard.

megann831 · July 2012

I was aiming for about 2 years apart, and they are 2 years 2 months, I think it's working out perfectly. The 1st month was a little crazy with them both in diapers, I felt like I was running a daycare, now DD is potty trained and it's great. She's still young enough I can put them both in the stroller, she is really into him, it's so cute, but she's still old enough to play on her own

Court0026 · July 2012

I planned my kids. I would have probably have tried to have them even closer except that DS had dairy issues already and I wanted to make sure I could keep nursing him and because I wanted to recover from my c/s. 19.5 months apart.

SuperThat1006 · July 2012

I am six years older than my only sister and really wanted my kids close together. Also, I was ready for another kid.

Demedoll · July 2012

After having our DD we started discussing when to have our second and after talking to our friends who all mostly have 2-3 kids with some close and some far apart the majority of people recommended having them close together. I also had a sibling 8 years older than me, one 4 years older, one 2 years, and one 4 years younger. I am not very close with any of them except my brother that is closest in age to me. My husband has 4 biological brothers with one that is 18 months younger than him and the rest another 12-15 months apart going down the line. They are all pretty close with one another as adults.

We will have two under 2 this August/September. Part of our reasons were financial- we wouldnt need to buy any new baby gear. We could use the same car seat, strollers, crib, etc. We can even use most of the same clothes because we purchased a lot of gender neutral colors for our DD. The children will kind of have a built in playmate. If they are the same gender they would potentially have a convenient best friend. Also, we are getting older and dont want to be pregnant in our late 40's if we decide to have more than 2.

kcisthebombdotcom · July 2012

Yes, we planned 2u2 before we even TTC our first. It made sense for a number of reasons--

1. I wanted to SAH while my kids were small. However, if we spaced them out that would have been a more extended leave from the workforce. It made the most sense financially to do it this way.

2. We wanted to get the pregnancy/newborn stuff out of the way quicker to focus on raising children. I think it's easier when traveling to be with two kids who share similar interests vs a 5 year old and a toddler who want to do totally different things/have different needs.

3. I was an only and hated it. DH had big spacing between his sibs and hated it. We both had positive interactions growing up with childhood friends that had siblings close in age. I prefer that dynamic vs a larger spacing.

Mommy2CB · July 2012

I don't have 2U2 yet but it will probably end up that way...DH and I have just decided to TTC.

We want our kids close in age so they can grow up together/be interested in the same things etc (I was an only child and DH had siblings close in age and liked it). It makes sense financially and with grandparents being around.

DS was a preemie so I figure if we get pg in the next couple months they'd be about 20/21 months apart or so.

BrandiGreen · July 2012

My two are barely 18 months apart. I got pregnant when DS was about 8 months old. It was planned and we had been trying for a couple of months.

I would have had them even closer together, but I was EBF my son and needed my cycle to return so I would ovulate. Also, I needed time to heal from my c-section.

I chose to have them close together because I wanted them close together in age, and because I'm in my late 30's and my husband is in his 40's.

I love having them close together, so much that I am waiting on my cycle to return so we can possibly try for #3. Are there hard days? Absolutely! But the good days and times far outway the bad. Once a routine was established things got a whole lot easier everyday.

GHBEA · July 2012

We planned for ours to be 2u2 because we are both over 40.

BrittKav · July 2012

We wanted to have 2u2. We planned for the girls to be about 18 months apart, but it happened a bit earlier and they're 14 months apart. I loved that spacing.

We want 4 kids and would like #3 and #4 to be close together as well- preferably 12-18 months apart.

lindsay.lou · July 2012

Well, we hope to have four children, so we didn't want to waste time. Plus, we always planned (more like hoped) to have 2u2, then take a break and have another set of 2u2 in 3-4 years.

BabyCampbell312 · July 2012

Thanks everyone! I appreciate you sharing all of your experiences with me!

cindybaf · July 2012

I didn't go back on BC after LO was born, it took so long to get pg with her. We weren't actively ttc, no charting, no planned BD-ing since we were so busy with LO#1. She was super colicky, so I think I would have been very upset if I had gotten pg before she turned one, since I was an emotional wreck and DH would be like I'm fine with one when things got really bad. Anyway, it took over a year to get pg, and now I'm due when LO is 22 months. Everything was easier this time, I wasn't anxious to get pg, then it was a happy surprise that I was pg without any active ttc, the pg was easier overall, not so sick, but I was very tired and it's been hard to keep up with a toddler. We're having another girl so it helps that we have tons of baby clothes, but we also have all the baby gear we may have gotten rid of if we had waited longer to ttc. Heck, the infant swing is set up in the basement, the baby bouncy seat is in the living room....all she needed was a new crib since LO#1 is still using hers and sleeps well in it. I think that it is the best for us overall, my only caveat is I wish LO was potty trained....

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