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CFjo2010
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They're home!!!
CFjo2010
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I called the airline at 4 a.m. (CA time) this morning to make sure the kids boarded the plane. They boarded, so I immediately went back to sleep. I got to the airport earl and waited as impatiently as possible for their flight to land. As soon as I saw them, I started crying. Happy tears, but still crying. I don't think I've ever been so happy to see anyone as I was to see them this morning.
On the way home my daughter tells me she never wants to see her father again. My son chimes in with similar sentiment. Apparently after the phone was taken away, my XH and his wife spent plenty of time bad mouthing me and my husband and telling the kids I'm a terrible mother and that my husband is stupid for marrying me. Comments were made to the kids about me lying to get him thrown in jail (I'm assuming that was regarding the DV issue several years ago) and that I'm trying to ruin his life by "stealing" money from him and his wife. Dude, CS isn't stealing. I asked the kids to tell me about fun stuff they did while out there, and all I got was static. Then my daughter started crying and told me that she doesn't want to do cheerleading and tumbling anymore. I asked her why and she tells me that her father and grandmother told her she's "pudgy" and "not coordinated enough" to do those things.
I'm so glad that these people have nearly zero contact with the kids all year long and the 2 weeks they finally do see them they spend that time breaking down a 9 year old's self esteem. Total jerks. My poor girl. I'm just so glad they're home and will only have to deal with him from now on in a supervised environment.
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You may wanna go ahead and give me that TN address after all, PUDGY?!?!? FFS I think some TN peeps need a punch in the nose!
I'm glad your babies are home and safe.
to you all!!
Seriously, when my daughter told me this I saw red. XH and his mother are lucky their phones are disconnected or I would have probably made a phone call. Kids are developing eating disorders and body image issues so young now, why would you essentially encourage these issues?! Grrrrrr....
Looking on the positive side, the kids are home and happy. I can't really ask for more than that
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THIS. We'll take them down! ;-)
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"Karma1969: If baking someone a birthday pie/cake is romantic, I must be a slut."
Apparently they were at XH's aunt's new house (an address that I of course don't have). That was the only part of their trip they seemed excited about. She has horses and goats so they like going over there.
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He has to be personally served with the new CO. Since the police weren't able to find him while the kids were there, I know he didn't know about it when the kids boarded the plane today. I'm sure now that the kids are gone he's done "hiding" and should be served sometime this week. His phone will probably be working soon so that he can text me blasting me for taking away his kids. Should be interesting. Add that to the interstate action finally getting underway out there and I'm pretty sure he's not President of my fan club...
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I'd document the statements that your kids made on arrival.
Especially the "pudgy" and "un-coordinated" statements - for a father to say that to his (female) child could be a sign of emotional abuse. Given his history of DV with you, it may help in preventing at least your DD from visiting again (at least unsupervised).
Ditto the statements trashing you and your H - - parental alienation is frowned upon, and again may help the visits only being supervised.
I hope his *ss is nailed to the wall for non payment of child support, and they start seizing his assets. I know that's not the most important part of this whole ordeal to you, but it would be nice if he got mowed down by the Karma bus.
I agree w/ documenting this new info.
I am SO HAPPY your kids are home safe and sound!!!!
I'm very happy your babies are home safe!I'm sorry you had to go through this, how horrifying
Isn't it sad when they get old enough to realize (on their own) why the other parent isn't involved in their life?
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So glad they're home, and I totally agree with this ^^^.
Last weekend when SD was here, I got her to try on a whole bunch of new clothes we got her. I wanted to make sure they fit before I washed them/removed the tags. When she was trying to button up one pair of pants she said to me: "I've got a big belly". I said: "no you don't". Her reply was: "Yes I do, mommy says I have a big belly". Uggg. DH was not happy when he heard this. Honestly, the kid had a growth spurt, so any "tummy" she had is now gone. I just told her to look at my big belly, and that she's perfect. I don't understand people sometimes!!!!