I must confess...

MelissaMiso · July 2012

Okay, I have a confession I need to get off my chest and thought I'd open up a post to see if other mamas want to do the same:

My husband and I had narrowed down our long list of baby names to five that we both could agree on. There was one particular name I wasn't keen on but put it on the list bc I knew hubby loved it. I picked her middle name which was my grandmother's name so I let DH pick her first name. The one he picked was my least favorite of the five, but he loved. So my confession is: I am totally not connecting to or particularly liking my daughter's first name. It's a pretty name but when I look at her little face she looks to me like another name on the list (I even called her that name once when we were alone to see how that name felt). I feel so guilty about not really liking her name. Luckily, I found a nickname that works for me so I am going to go with that. I'm a horrible mother (hahaha)

Okay, fess up so I don't feel like the only "bad mommy" out there. And go:

lovetohike · July 2012

They say babies don't recognize their name for many months... And you can change it without much hassle for up to a year in most states.

Heather2256 · July 2012

Even though I know I shouldn't feel bad about this - I feel bad for not having our house (as in the living room & our bedrooms) clean. Growing up my mom always had the house clean (still does). So I always told myself my house would be like that. Granted it stopped being like that before I got pregnant. There was a point where I was working full time (in a town 30 mins away), going to school full time (5 days a week - one class being 3 hours away) & I still managed to come home & make sure the house was clean. I just so sick & tired of cleaning up after everyone else (different roommates then) so I really started to slack off!

But I am so happy, especially with the crazy heat, that our roommates finally decided to lift a finger & do dishes yesterday! Now I just have to find a way to get our refrigerator cleaned out - which is mostly their leftovers that never get eaten & all of their drinks.

I know I'll get my butt in gear eventually. And I know that right now the priorities is baby girl & me. Which she is always taken care of & I'm mostly taken care of. Lol!

RMama2012 · July 2012

We had a hard time picking a name and I'm still not totally comfortable with the one we chose. I am trying to make myself use his name instead of "the baby" to help myself get used to it. I have no advice, just sympathy.

mkflower3000 · July 2012

My confession/bad mommy situation isn't name-related, but I'm still not in love with DD. She's fussy, and is too young to show much emotion or personality (other than crying/screaming, and the occasional looking around), so I feel like we don't really have a relationship yet. I'm hoping that all of that can change and improve in the next 4 or so weeks!

winter-shock · July 2012

She is totally young enough to consider a name change?! I actually had this problem this time around. DH for the ENTIRE pregnancy had picked the name Olivia. He claimed I named our first daughter so it was his turn. I let him go on and on with this. The whole time I just didn't feel right about it. Finally I confessed and he was a bit broken I didn't like it, but it was really important to him we both like the name. So I suggested Elise in the two weeks before she was born. And about a week before she was born he surprised me with a blanket that had Elise stitched on it.

And she is totally an Elise NOT an Olivia!

ElinJ · July 2012

My only name resentment is that both our boy names came from DH's side of the family. Both our girl names came from mine. We were Team Green, and didn't tell anyone our names. I love LO's name, but sort of love the girl option more. I always thought I'd have a boy first, and part of me wanted this to be a boy, but another part of me wanted it to be a girl so I could use the girl names! My girl name is my grandmother's name, and she's still living. I loved imagining telling her "Meet your great granddaughter '______'" and seeing her face (or at least hearing her voice) when we told her the name.

Anyways, now I wonder if we'll have 1 more, or 2 more (I want 3, he wants 2), and I worry I may not have a girl, and I may not get to use that name I love so much. And part of me resents that we didn't choose names from BOTH sides for the girl & boy names. Again, that being said, I still really love his name, both first & middle.

Oh, and not a confession, but a vent. My FIL calls my child "Little E", and never his name, Elliott. IT.GRATES.ON.MY.LAST.NERVE. He has a name, and it's not "Little E". I have refrained from correcting him, mainly because when he does it, every once in a while my H will slip into that and do it too. For the record, no one in the family is named Elliott, it's DH's M's maiden name.

winter-shock · July 2012

ElinJ:
My only name resentment is that both our boy names came from DH's side of the family. Both our girl names came from mine. We were Team Green, and didn't tell anyone our names. I love LO's name, but sort of love the girl option more. I always thought I'd have a boy first, and part of me wanted this to be a boy, but another part of me wanted it to be a girl so I could use the girl names! My girl name is my grandmother's name, and she's still living. I loved imagining telling her "Meet your great granddaughter '______'" and seeing her face (or at least hearing her voice) when we told her the name.
Anyways, now I wonder if we'll have 1 more, or 2 more (I want 3, he wants 2), and I worry I may not have a girl, and I may not get to use that name I love so much. And part of me resents that we didn't choose names from BOTH sides for the girl & boy names. Again, that being said, I still really love his name, both first & middle.
Oh, and not a confession, but a vent. My FIL calls my child "Little E", and never his name, Elliott. IT.GRATES.ON.MY.LAST.NERVE. He has a name, and it's not "Little E". I have refrained from correcting him, mainly because when he does it, every once in a while my H will slip into that and do it too. For the record, no one in the family is named Elliott, it's DH's M's maiden name.

When we told FIL DD2's name he said "I hope you are OK with me pronouncing it like this..." And he says it completely different. I was not around and DH said sure. It drives me nuts. What's the big deal about just pronouncing it the way everyone else does, since that is her name?!!?!

PotomacSt · July 2012

On the name front... I'm still not sure DD feels like a Louisa to me, and I picked it out. The name I have always loved and thought I would name my first daughter is Caroline, but the fact that DH and I both have C names that sound like K, and our last name is also a C name that sounds like a K, it sounded like too much... like we were trying to be the Kardashians.

I still love her name and I guess it will eventually sound right on her. Her middle name is Anne which I think is kinda lame and just sounds like a standard filler middle name, but DH wanted it and since I picked the first name, I couldn't tell him no.

My confession is that for the last two weeks, DD just wants to nap on someone's lap for hours, and I hate it. She won't let us put her down or she wakes up, and she won't go to sleep any other way. Last week she was miserably fussy all day and would scream unless my boob was in her mouth- not to eat, just to comfort suck. She won't take a paci.

I am the kind of person who mostly has 'active' hobbies and I can't stand sitting around watching TV for more than a few minutes. People always tell me I never never stop moving - and I like it that way. Thus, sitting with her for hours every day is so frustrating to me and I hate it. I'm totally happy to bathe her, play with her, push her in her stroller, etc, but I hate sitting till my butt is numb doing nothing but hold her and getting frustrated. I keep trying to transfer her to nap in the swing or crib and each time she wakes up when I do, and I burst into tears. I feel terrible that when my husband gets home, I'm so desperate to hand her off because I just can't stand it anymore...

lovetohike · July 2012

ElinJ:
My only name resentment is that both our boy names came from DH's side of the family. Both our girl names came from mine. We were Team Green, and didn't tell anyone our names. I love LO's name, but sort of love the girl option more. I always thought I'd have a boy first, and part of me wanted this to be a boy, but another part of me wanted it to be a girl so I could use the girl names! My girl name is my grandmother's name, and she's still living. I loved imagining telling her "Meet your great granddaughter '______'" and seeing her face (or at least hearing her voice) when we told her the name.
Anyways, now I wonder if we'll have 1 more, or 2 more (I want 3, he wants 2), and I worry I may not have a girl, and I may not get to use that name I love so much. And part of me resents that we didn't choose names from BOTH sides for the girl & boy names. Again, that being said, I still really love his name, both first & middle.
Oh, and not a confession, but a vent. My FIL calls my child "Little E", and never his name, Elliott. IT.GRATES.ON.MY.LAST.NERVE. He has a name, and it's not "Little E". I have refrained from correcting him, mainly because when he does it, every once in a while my H will slip into that and do it too. For the record, no one in the family is named Elliott, it's DH's M's maiden name.

Funny how we are all different. My Elliott goes by baby E all the time His big brother has a nickname though, so he just kinda got one too. He is so not an Eli.. Buy he is Elliott and E ... Baby E

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