Moms of older kiddos with listening issues...

Harper'smom · July 2012

Is it horrible that my reaction to my 3.5 year old falling off the back of the couch and scaring the crap out of herself was "o.k. She's not hurt now maybe she will listen when I tell her not to climb". DH thinks my reaction was a little cold but I've spent the past 2 days dealing with her defiance in terms of climbing on the darn couch. Maybe I'm just tired and mean today. Can anyone relate?

twirlerbride · July 2012

You are not alone. I have thought/said the same thing.

DragonflyBelle · July 2012

I have done that a lot lately and I think it's just my frustration with telling her the same things 5000 xs a day.

SKWCM80 · July 2012

I'm right there with you, it's standard operating procedure in our household. Sometimes it's the only way she learns.

TucktheTurtle · July 2012

There have been plenty of times that this conversation has happened:

Me: Are you ok?

H: Yeah

Me: Now you see why I tell you not to leave your toys in the hall?

gisa886 · July 2012

I am that way too.

gekeler6 · July 2012

Yep, not harsh. That's part of learning....doing things and finding out why you say no. Sometimes they learn their lesson the hard way. I bet she won't do it again, and if she does it will be a long time!

KatFCo · July 2012

Our job isn't to keep them from all injury. It's to make sure the damage isn't permanent and where possible, prevent blood.

starbound6 · July 2012

KatFCo:
Our job isn't to keep them from all injury. It's to make sure the damage isn't permanent and where possible, prevent blood.

good one!! I ask DS1 "Are you bleeding?" "no" (sniffle, pout) "ok then"

Harper'smom · July 2012

O.K. good! Her new attention seeking behavior is climbing up and over guests when they sit on the couch. It is obnoxious and can't be ignored. I'm sure she will move on quickly to a new obnoxious behavior :-). I love her...I just wish she understood that we say things for a REASON not to hear ourselves talk. 3 is hard IMO because they are neither toddlers nor full blown kids.

Musiclover2012 · July 2012

I can always relate to you op since we have older big siblings. I feel the same way as you. DS "hurts" himself all of the time and DH and I have started being less attentive. Sounds mean but he is truly not hurting himself and his looking for attention, like 8 times a day. He gets enough attention trust me. 3 is incredibly hard, they are just so damn smart and so damn defiant.

Ruby412 · July 2012

The teacher in me says natural consequences make for great learning experiences. Smile

FusionLMT · July 2012

We *firmly* believe in natural consequences here. As long as there is no threat of permanent injury or death then they can learn their physical limitations the hard way.

mieuxmieux · July 2012

I have done the exact same thing, except it was Kate jumping on the couch and falling off. I really didn't feel bad, I had been yelling at her all afternoon and she got the picture after that, at least for a little while.

shouldbworkin · July 2012

Natural consequence ... the best way to learn a lesson. A lot of child discipline experts will say to let that happen in that case (when it's not dangerous) rather than tell them what will happen if they continue. Sometimes I have to remind myself of that in order to stop sounding like a screaming banshee. When you're yelling "don't do that, you'll hurt yourself" all the time, they start to tune you out. I try to save it for when it's necessary.

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