How is your baby really sleeping?
There has been a few posts but let's lay it all out there.
My DD doesn't sleep very well at all. Never has. The first 3.5 months were horrible. She'd sleep for maaayyybe an hour at a time and then wake up. Then she had a stretch where she slept 11pm-2am and that was it! No naps either!
Then she started sleeping better and we'd say she is sleeping for 5-6 hours BUT that is with still having to get up every hour or so to put the f'n nuk back in or she'd completely wake up and whole hell would break loose.
There were only a few nights here and there where she'd actually sleep through the night. And I mean very few, like maybe 6-8 nights...
She also has never napped for more than 45 minutes when she actually started napping. She naps better now (up to an hour once or twice a day) but only in her bassinet which she has almost outgrown. OH but of course she does sleep at daycare for up to 2.5 hrs!!
Last night was good, 10pm-5am! But in general she's a very light sleeper. She goes down around 8 but wakes up a lot until about midnight, then she's finally really asleep and will give us up to 4 hours.
How is your baby sleeping?
Re: How is your baby really sleeping?
She naps for 30 minutes and is awake for an hour and a half. She'll occasionally throw me off by taking an hour and a half nap. She gets about 2 to 3 hours of sleep during the day.
Although her naps suck she sleeps for 12 hours straight (sometimes 13). That part more than makes up for the days.
She goes down for the night at 7 (if we're out, and she misses her bedtime, all hell breaks loose and she becomes a nightmare to put down). She will normally sleep to 6:30. Lately however, she's been getting up at 4 and staying up. Fun times.
Her only dependable nap is the one at 9am. It's about an hour and I can put her in her crib for that one. Otherwise, she demands to be held if I want her to nap.
Ah yes, same here!
DS is ridiculously bad at napping. 99% of the time he naps for 45 minutes, almost to the second. Maybe a dozen times in the 5.5 months he's been here has he napped for longer than that. His daycare has a schedule where, starting around 6 months old, they start putting them down for naps at 10 am and 2 pm. Honestly right now that's a struggle because that means a seriously long stretch of awake time in the morning and evening, but the napping is a moving target so I'm just dealing with it. The other day he took two naps only, and each one was only 30 minutes. Disaster.
That said, his night sleep is better. Since he was 8 weeks old we've been slowing trying to focus on getting him into a routine, allowing him some time to soothe himself, etc. By probably 13-15 weeks we had cut out feeding overnight entirely. He now has his last bottle around 6:15 and goes down for the night around 7:00 pm. We don't do some elaborate routine with music/ songs/ bath/ massage /puppetshow/ whatevertheeff... It's really just pajamas, book (sometimes), into the sleepsack, rock, then bed. I swear the second he gets that sleep sack on he knows it's bedtime. I rock him until he's looking like he's about to fall asleep then put him down. Most of the time he wakes back up, thrashes around, fusses and whatnot, and then after 10 minutes or so will fall asleep. The paci usually falls out during that process too but I won't go back in there unless he's fully melting down.
He'll sleep through until 4:00 am or so and then he starts fussing. 80% of the time he'll just stop after 10 minutes or so (I hear him over the monitor but don't go in there) and the other 20% of the time I have to go in there and just put his paci back in (and possibly turn him off of his stomach if he's landed that way in his nightly travels to all corners of the crib). After that he's down until 6:15-6:30. As a full disclosure, if it's after 5:15 and he will not stop the fussing, I strap him into the swing. He'll then fall back asleep for another hour and I don't have to be up with the chickens.
I will say though, he is a very loud and rather rambunctious sleeper. He flops around all parts of the crib, ends up in all manner of random positions and occasionally lodges body parts in the crib slats. So I'd be lying if I said he just goes down and sleeps like an angel all night!
haha, that's cute. My DD does the same. I can hear her feet smashing down into the mattress. And she will be facing the oposite end of the crib in the morning.
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My daughter goes to sleep at 8 and wakes up at 7ish (depending on whether her sister decides to jump her in the crib or not), will nap for 45 - 60 minutes in the morning, 3 hours in the afternoon and 25ish minutes in the evening.
She is starting to drop the evening nap, but this has been her routine for 2 1/2 months. In my defense though, my first was an awful sleeper and didn't nap much until about 5 months old, so I also know the joys of the other side as well.
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My DS is fairly consistent. He usually naps 45 mins in the morning, 1 1/2 hours in the afternoon and then a 30 min nap in the evening. He goes to bed between 8 and 8:30 and sleeps till 6:00AM, eats then back to sleep till about 8:00
If he's in his crib...which we've been trying to transition him to, he usually wakes up after an hour, then again in 20 mins...then again in 10 till we give in and put him in the RNP...sigh
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ahh wth i'll reply here. this was nice to read actually because makes me more aware that i'm not the only one struggling with sleep.
while dd has gone through the night without eating (anywhere from 9-12 hours) since she was 14 weeks old, sleeping through the night i'm fairly certain has never actually happened. I'm not sure what wakes her up all the time, but it might be the flipping paci that falls out constantly, because i get up about 5 times a night to put it back in.
i'm really very seriously considering the cost of letting her cry it out and seeing if she'll go back to sleep without the paci. or at the very least, letting her fuss until she actually starts crying before i go put it in. I am usually living in fear that if i don't put it in IMMEDIATELY all hell will break loose and i'll be up for an hour or two. i created a paci monster i know.
during the day, we're down to 3 naps... that didn't happen til 4 months, before that she would nap for 30-45 minutes inconsistently... she was colicy too. that was hard. now that she takes 3 naps a day though, it's nice with something to somewhat count on... though I never know exactly when or how long they will be. it's basically a crap shoot from day to day... sounds like that's a lot of us tho so it's nice to not be alone.
i'll say this though: if she's not sleeping through the night by middle school or still needs a paci, i'll know we have a serious problem
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I had the exact same issue, only she was demanding to nurse that often, and I kept doing it because I was also afraid if I let her full on cry, I'd be up for hours. I finally bit the bullet one day, and she only actually cried for maybe 10 minutes, then whined/fussed for maybe another 50, but it was totally manageable. After 3 days, she realized I wasn't coming in so readily, and she stopped. I wouldn't believe it if it hadn't happened to me! FWIW, I stayed in the room and comforted her the whole time, I didn't leave her to cry it out (basically the sleep lady shuffle).
First of all, hi ladies!! I haven't posted since before LO was born! Missed talking with you!
She sleeps pretty well now. The first month was hell since she had bad reflux. We put her to bed between 7:30 and 8pm. Sometimes she wakes up (she "swims" herself into the side of the crib, lol) and we adjust her, but she doesn't wake up to eat again until between 5 and 6:30am.
If she does wake up in the night, we listen to her babble to herself for awhile and then she puts herself to sleep.
HOWEVER, she does NOT like to nap!! I can only get her to take good naps when she sleeps on me, which means that when she goes to daycare Mondays and Tuesdays she gets almost no sleep, and then sleeps on me most of the day Wednesday.... Gotta say though, I like my Wednesday snuggles!
DD sleeps 10-13 hours at night straight through. She usually goes down between 7:45-9:00 depending on her last bottle (because of her reflux we have to wait at least 3 hours between bottles or it's too much too soon. We've tried smaller bottles closer together at night but she flips out if it isn't her normal amount). She typically goes about 3.5 hours between bottles, but if she happens to go closer to 4 because of a nap then things get pushed back a bit.
Naps are pretty unpredictable though. Her first nap is always an hour after she wakes up and lasts 45m-1 hour. After that she naps sporadically and only for 30-45 minutes at a time, though I've started rocking her after she wakes up from her mid-afternoon nap because she's still cranky and tired. I can usually get another 30-45 minutes from this.
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My DD started to sleep for several hours when she was about one month old, she woke up several times at night but eat and went back to sleep. I stopped waking her up to eat and just waited for her to wake up on her own and it was the best thing I could have done. Now she goes to bed at 7pm and wakes up at 6am.
In the other hand naps have always been a nightmare, during her first 3 months she barely slept during the day. Then she started taking 3 naps of 1 or 2 hours, I was over the moon but at 4.5 months she went back to fight naps. Now she cries every time I try to put her down and will not sleep longer than half hour. I can barely do anything during the day because she wants me to hold her all the time.
meh. sometimes it's great and sometimes it really really sucks. mostly the "Great" times are only naps these days. he'll go down in the crib every so often for over an hour and I feel like a new woman.
he used to sleep good stretches at night but that all went to heII around four months. Last night he slept one 6 hour stretch and I swear that was the first time in a looooong time that's happened. Naturally I only got to sleep 4 of those hours so I didn't get to benefit too much.
We are going to sleep train in August I think. we're going to be out of town on and off all of July so it's really no use doing it sooner. This makes me feel so hopeless sometimes becuase I really really just need some effing sleep already.
BUT! I know it will pass. And soon. My 3-year-old was a terrible sleeper, even worse than this I think, and eventually it passes and we'll sleep and I'll look at my boys and not see a shred of baby left in either of them. And I'll be all "ohhhh... rememeber when they were BAYBEEEEEZ!?!?"
<<eyeroll at my future self>>
Rhys has always been a terrible sleeper.
First few months he was up every 2 hours. Now we are at about every 4 hours. If teething is bothering him, it's every 3hours.
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