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Less than 24 hours...

IRRIRR member
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Until we meet the birthparents.  DH and I are heading out early tomorrow morning to fly and then drive to a town to meet the BM and BF of the child we are hoping to adopt.  So nervous and excited at the same time.  Wish this heat wave wasn't all over the country, would have been nice to go to a park or something, but may be too hot to spend too much time outside.  I am sure we will think of something to do.
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Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


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  • erinmc1erinmc1 member
    Good luck!  This must be so exciting for you!  
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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member
    Have fun :)
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  • artletzlerartletzler
    Good Luck & safe travels!  I hope you have a wonderful meeting and everything falls into place for you!
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  • beaurevebeaureve member
    How exciting! Try not to be too nervous :)
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  • FosterMomJaxFosterMomJax member
    Best of Luck. I hope it all goes well for you guys.
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  • jackieo1309jackieo1309 member
    So exciting! Hope everything goes well!
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  • CourtneyluffCourtneyluff
    Good luck!!
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  • Patches08Patches08 member
    Hope it goes well!  Good luck & safe travels! 
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  • Rachel SonnierRachel Sonnier member
    Wow!! Good luck and fill us in on how it went when you get back!! :-)
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  • IRRIRR member
    Thanks everyone, will update on Sunday night.  Have a great weekend.
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    Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


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  • MarionB79MarionB79
    Have a safe trip and good luck!
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  • alohagirl59alohagirl59

    A BM is a bowel movement. And since she hasn't given birth yet, she is "an expectant mother." How about you drop the 'birth' thing altogether and just call her what she is? A mother. If this couple decides to relinquish, the baby will always have two mothers...the one who gave birth to the child and you. Don't demean the biological parents by reducing them to sperm and egg donors. They are much more than that.

    -- Adoptive parent, foster care in California 

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  • Patches08Patches08 member
    imagealohagirl59:

    A BM is a bowel movement. And since she hasn't given birth yet, she is "an expectant mother." How about you drop the 'birth' thing altogether and just call her what she is? A mother. If this couple decides to relinquish, the baby will always have two mothers...the one who gave birth to the child and you. Don't demean the biological parents by reducing them to sperm and egg donors. They are much more than that.

    -- Adoptive parent, foster care in California 

    Whoa, take it easy... No one is 'demeaning' birth moms or expectant moms. Stick around this board a tad and you'll quickly see there is a lot of respect for ALL mothers in the adoption triad.
    BM to Kenzie 9/1/04 --- Married 1/22/09 --- Me 27 - DH 25 --- TTC our first since April 2010 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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  • so1966so1966

    imageartletzler:
    Good Luck & safe travels!  I hope you have a wonderful meeting and everything falls into place for you!

     

    ditto!

    After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
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  • slndr042305slndr042305
    How exciting! Good Luck!
    TTC since 12/09! 12/11 - Moving onto our adoption journey...03/27 - Home Study Approved and WAITING!
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  • MarionB79MarionB79
    imagePatches08:
    imagealohagirl59:

    A BM is a bowel movement. And since she hasn't given birth yet, she is "an expectant mother." How about you drop the 'birth' thing altogether and just call her what she is? A mother. If this couple decides to relinquish, the baby will always have two mothers...the one who gave birth to the child and you. Don't demean the biological parents by reducing them to sperm and egg donors. They are much more than that.

    -- Adoptive parent, foster care in California 

    Whoa, take it easy... No one is 'demeaning' birth moms or expectant moms. Stick around this board a tad and you'll quickly see there is a lot of respect for ALL mothers in the adoption triad.

    I very much agree with Patches. Nobody here is trying to reduce birth parents to sperm and egg donors! If you get to know us a little better, you'll have a better understanding. We respect all members of the triad and in domestic infant adoption this is a commonly used term that is not meant offensively! So please don't take offense when there is no need to.

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  • alohagirl59alohagirl59
    Rather than worrying about whether or not I take offense, why don't you look at what I've said in an objective way? Is it so difficult to type "n-mother" or "bio mom" rather than BM? Would YOU want to be referred to as fecal matter? Show a little respect.
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  • MauidAimsMauidAims

    imagealohagirl59:
    Rather than worrying about whether or not I take offense, why don't you look at what I've said in an objective way? Is it so difficult to type "n-mother" or "bio mom" rather than BM? Would YOU want to be referred to as fecal matter? Show a little respect.

     In all honesty, I think you need to move along. This board is made up of kind, caring, intelligent women and most have been put through the ringer.  None of them show any disrespect to a BM or birth mom as they all feel so priviledged and blessed to have them.  Do you really think they mean/show disrespect to someone that carrys their child?  Please find some place else to start drama and show some RESPECT.

    DS- 4 years old, Natural m/c @ 7 weeks-12/1/09. Infertility issues- low ovarian reserve- low AMH and high FSH. Looking into adoption. Trying to figure out where to go with your little one? My favorite website is: Trekaroo AlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickers
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  • MauidAimsMauidAims
    and for the record. BM refers to MANY things. https://www.acronymfinder.com/BM.html 
    DS- 4 years old, Natural m/c @ 7 weeks-12/1/09. Infertility issues- low ovarian reserve- low AMH and high FSH. Looking into adoption. Trying to figure out where to go with your little one? My favorite website is: Trekaroo AlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickers
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  • IRRIRR member

    imageMauidAims:
    and for the record. BM refers to MANY things. https://www.acronymfinder.com/BM.html 

     

    Thanks Ladies, just getting back and reading this, will post my update on my weekend in a different post.

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    Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


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