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How do I deal with this?

DesMommaDesMomma member
in October 2012 Moms
My Unlce died last night, on the 4th of July, my favorite holiday next to Christmas. He didn't get in a car accident, he didn't drink to much, he didn't drown or even die of heat stroke. He had a heart attack. He was 37. He was 11 years older than me. He was one of my favorite people. I am heart broken.
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  • rakle99rakle99 member
    I am so sorry for your loss.
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  • orgnlmamaorgnlmama member
    So sorry for your loss.
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  • Rachelilly23Rachelilly23 member
    I'm so sorry.
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  • SouthernBellaKSSouthernBellaKS member
    I'm so sorry hun. Loss is never easy to handle, regardless of when it happens. As for how to deal with it...People grieve in their own way. Time will eventually start to heal. Try to focus on celebrating his life.

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  • MrschicaMrschica member

    I'm so sorry for your loss... Be kind to yourself. 


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  • SarelnadSarelnad member
    That must be so hard to deal with.  Sorry for your loss.  Life isn't fair :(
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  • HamptonsMamaHamptonsMama member

    Sorry just doesn't seem like enough in this case.  I have a nephew who is 12 years younger than I am and it is truely a special relationship...more sibling like than anything.  You have my deepest sympathies and most sincere condolences on your profound loss.  You and your uncle will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  • brekayebrekaye
    Oh my goodness I am so sorry!!! There are no words that are adequate for a time like this. You and your family will be in my prayers.
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  • Mrs.G123Mrs.G123 member
    I amsosorry. That is so young. How tragic.
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  • Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member
    I am so sorry.  Take to time to grieve and take care of yourself.
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  • Dana327Dana327 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. 
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  • TeachGirl323TeachGirl323
    I'm so sorry for your loss
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  • Sillygirl85Sillygirl85 member
    I am sorry for your loss. I cannot tell you how to deal with this because everyone deal with grief differently. My greatest advice to you is to turn to your loved ones and don't be afraid to talk about how you are feeling. Grieving is a process and it will take time, don't be afraid to give yourself the time that you need.
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  • ladeebriladeebri
    I'm so sorry for your loss. My biological father died at the age of 34 from a heart attack. I understand what an unexpected blow it can be. Hugs to you.
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  • DesMommaDesMomma member
    Thank you all so much. Words help more than people realize I think.
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  • tatercatertatercater member
    I am so sorry for your loss.  It seems so unfair that he was so young.  I hope that you allow yourself time to grieve and that your family is a strong support system during this time.  ((HUGS))
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  • hboo2011hboo2011
    I am so sorry for your loss.
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  • Michi2325Michi2325
    Im so sorry for your loss, and what a shock at only 37.  Its hard when you lose someone on a 'holiday', my Gandmother passed on Mothers Day a few years ago, there is always a sadness on that day each year.
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  • daronsmommydaronsmommy member
    I am so, so sorry. Losing a relative on a holiday is so hard. It becomes bittersweet. My uncle was killed in a construction accident on April Fool's Day. He was always joking around and loved the holiday. Lean on those around you for support and don't always think you have to be the strong one. Take care of yourself. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • beege17beege17

    that is so sad, I am so sorry,. He was way too young :( my prayers are with you and your family.

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  • Elli143Elli143 member

    imagerachaelrnr:
    My Unlce died last night, on the 4th of July, my favorite holiday next to Christmas. He didn't get in a car accident, he didn't drink to much, he didn't drown or even die of heat stroke. He had a heart attack. He was 37. He was 11 years older than me. He was one of my favorite people. I am heart broken.

    I'm so sorry :(  My grandfather passed away 5 years ago on the 4th of July as well. While I was not close to him, I know my mom struggles with this holiday now. She seemed to take comfort in acknowledging peaceful moments after his death as if he was watching over her and protecting her now (though it did take several months of grieving before those moments of peace became more common).

    It's going to be hard to have this looming over the 4th of July every year, but one way to look at is that every year your uncle gets an entire fireworks show to remember him by. I think the people who mean most to us would probably like to think that people celebrate their life even after they are gone.

    Hoping you find peace with this tragic situation soon. 

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  • Jeep DollJeep Doll member
    I am so sorry for your loss.  Way to young to lose such a wonderful man.  Hope you can celebrate him on the 4th in years to come after lots of grieving time and not have it overshadow your favorite holiday.
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  • blp0118blp0118

    I'm so sorry for your loss...

    We just honored my uncle's 10 year anniversary of when he passed last week. It was really hard. My aunt and cousins finally went and spread his ashes at his favorite lake (which is NOT the lake he drowned tragically in)- It was good closure for them and they had a great time celebrating his life and his favorite things. They had burgers and coffee and his favorite restaurant...and took lots of pictures. Its hard, but it will get easier.

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  • iadanzaiadanza member
    ::hugs::: sorry for your loss.
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  • AadensMommy2010AadensMommy2010 member

    I'm so, so sorry for your loss, rachael.  T&Ps are with you.

    Next year and the years after, you'll have to do special fireworks in memory of him. 

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  • FinallyMom2BFinallyMom2B
    I'm so sorry for your loss.  You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers through this difficult time.  I hope you are able to find some comfort in your fond memories of time with him. 
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