Resolve meetings?

illinigal · July 2012

I've been trying to remain positive, but I'm feeling sad lately. I've thought about going to counseling or a support group for either loss or infertility, but have never been. Several ladies on my local board said I should go. I haven't emailed the local coordinator yet, but I'm thinking about it since it said to email before you go. The next meeting is Monday 7/9. Just wondering if anyone has been and what to expect?

mtlaurel · July 2012

I'm sorry you're feeling sad.

I went to one Resolve support group meeting, and intend to try to get to another this month. It was a small group the night I went (apparently unusually small) and the leaders rotate by month in this particular group. It was nice to be able to talk face to face with people who get the pain, frustration and fear, and there were people at all different stages of the journey. I didn't go back simply because it's not the geographically easiest place for me to get to after work. But, I intend to make it this month. I'm also going to see a psychologist for the first time on Mon.

I'd encourage you to try at least try a meeting - it certainly wouldn't hurt, and if it's not for you, then it's just one night wasted. Good luck.

AmCheri · July 2012

Hugs. I can't speak to Resolve meetings, but I would strongly encourage you to talk to a therapist who specializes in IF. I started shortly after our m/c last December. My insurance picks up all but $20 for each visit. It has helped me work through some of this. Probably the best thing it's done for me is help me understand that everything I'm feeling alone and that we're feeling as a couple is normal. My therapist has been through IVF, losses and DE and it's been great to talk to someone every week who totally gets it.

LaLe09 · July 2012

I'm sorry you are having a hard time right now. I have done both IF counseling and gone to a support group. I found the IF counseling very helpful and was able to unload alot of pent up emotions and also work through ways to deal with life (and all of my pregnant friends).

I've really enjoyed the support group that DH and I have been going to. I didn't find it through resolve, but found it through my clinic. It has been really nice to get together with other couples to discuss our journeys and also how it has affected our life and marriage. I didn't think DH would talk during the meeting, but was very surprised to see him completely engaged. I felt like he needed this too. We also met a couple who has been through alot too, and hang out with them on a regular basis now. But just as a warning, some people at these groups have not even started treatments yet. Others have been doing it for several years. It seems like there's alot of variability, but some might find it annoying to hear another couple complain about trying for a year. That would probably be the only downside in going. But all in all, it's been a positive experience.

Thinking of you!

caliblondieus · July 2012

RESOLVE meetings saved me. I started going about 1.5 years ago. I have made some wonderful friends in the group and we've been on the journey together. It just really helps knowing that every two weeks, I have the option of spending an evening with people that TOTALLY get it. It also takes the pressure off my marriage because I have a special place to go to unload. I would recommend them in addition to personal counseling if you can manage (afford) it. All these things have saved my sanity through my difficult journey.

Krista

Anasara · July 2012

Hey lady!

Sorry you're feeling down.

I'm actually going to my 1st Resolve meeting tonight. They recently started one in my city & I wanted to go last month but we were on vacation. No idea what to expect but I really feel I need an extra "umph" to get me through this next IVF, especially if it doesn't work.

You probably already know I've been seeing an IF therapist for ~2 years now. She went through IVF herself several times before having her son. I love her & think she's been super helpful. I also did a group with another therapist which I didn't like as much because half of them became pregnant during the time we were meeting (I'm bitter, I know). There was about 12 of us & we met every other week for 4 mos or so.

I'll let you know how it goes tonight!

illinigal · July 2012

Thanks ladies! I think I'm going to go to the Resolve meeting. A nearby hospital has a miscarriage/infant loss support group, and I'm thinking about checking into that as well since I'm not sure when they meet yet.

BBN2012 · July 2012

illinigal:
Thanks ladies! I think I'm going to go to the Resolve meeting.

(I'm assuming it's ok for me to respond based on the PAIF welcome in your sig.) Resolve meetings were extremely helpful to me. Some people came and went, but many were there month after month. I learned so much from the ladies and got a lot of great advice, local resources on doctors, acupuncturists, etc. I'll admit after the first meeting I wasn't sure I'd return because hearing so many sad stories at first made me feel hopeless, but give them a couple of tries before you decide if you want to continue attending. They aren't always uplifting, but it's important to speak face to face with a peer group who's been there.

daisyMaryGirl · July 2012

I went to my first Resolve a few weeks ago, and I've got a new spring in my step. There was only 2 ladies there, but I felt whole for the first time in a long time. I would recommend it to anyone. I'm trying to get DH to go with me to the next one.

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