The worst day

derika13 · July 2012

I've been up since 6am yesterday.. And after going to the hospital at 10pm last night an doing 8 hours of test it was confirmed the baby hasn't grown since my last ultra sound and the baby doesn't have a heartbeat.. And bc as of today I'm 15 weeks they had to do surgery to remove the baby.. I feel completely lost and heartbroken .. All I can seem to do is cry.. And I know my husbands heartbroken too.. All I want is him to crawl in bed with me an hold me and yet he just wants to be left alone and deal with it in his own way which I get.. I just don't know how to handle this whole thing

foxxy1 · July 2012

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Did you name your baby?

Please know you're among friends now and you can be yourself. There's no judgment here and the ladies are very, very supportive and wonderful.

Recently, there was a thread created with new Angel Mommies like you in mind:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/66361040.aspx

*HUGS*

lmielocl1 · July 2012

I am so sorry for your loss! I was in a very similar spot 3 weeks ago after finding out our little boy no longer had a HB at 18 weeks! What you are feeling is very normal. It is going to take time to heal -- please allow yourself to cry & grieve! I have found that my husband has dealt with his grief differently as well. I am sorry. I wish I had more advice. I am still figuring out how to handle my grief as well. I still cry a lot and find that there are so many triggers. I am told that this is normal and that helps me!

I have talked to 2 friends who have experienced similar losses & that has helped me a lot. I have wanted to find a support group to talk with other women but I have not found one that works with my schedule yet. I have thought seriously about seeing a therapist but have not yet. For me, talking about my thoughts, sadness, grief, etc has been very helpful. However, I know we all grieve in different ways.

We planted a tree at our house to honor our little boy (we named him Ethan.) I have found much peace in looking at his tree and watering his tree each night.

Sending you lots of love. Please know that you are not alone! Thinking of you and sending many many hugs!!

Leslie

magdalina.h · July 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss

eroplane · July 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs.

Mrs Nice · July 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you can find some comfort here with us.

cherrycobbler · July 2012

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little one. It is so hard when the one person you want to comfort you, needs comforting of their own in a different way. I hope you are able to find some comfort here. Just know that we are here for you. Much love and (hugs) to you and your family during this difficult time.

jbranden12 · July 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. None of us know how to handle this, nor does anyone around us, which is normal. Somehow, we just keep going. I hope you can some time to process this loss. Remember to be gentle with each other. ((hugs))

Carolee · July 2012

I'm so very sorry for your devastating loss. Unfortunately, there really isn't a way to handle a situation like this - you just do. It's incredibly hard, but we're here for you if you need us.

tuscanbride2007 · July 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. The loss of a baby is extremely hard journey that we have all had to navigate. I hope that you can find some comfort among these amazing women! Please be gentle with yourself.

((HUGS))

sloannmark · July 2012

I'm so sorry. My heart breaks for you that you have found this board. I hope you find comfort and support here. Big hugs to you.

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