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In-Laws....

peanuthepeanuthe
in April 2012 Moms
I am finding it really hard to trust my FIL and MIL to watch my LO. I know they want to spend some time with him. I have no problem with my Mom watching my LO. I know it is a double standard, but my in-laws live farther away and I just have this awful feeling when I think about them watching him. I try to rationalize that everything will be ok, but I still am very anxious about it. I guess I just needed to get that off my chest.
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  • LaouliLaouli
    Is it sad to say I feel the opposite? I am ok with my MIL watching DS even though she does things that annoy me... but my mother worries me... :/
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  • geekychicgeekychic

    imageLaouli:
    Is it sad to say I feel the opposite? I am ok with my MIL watching DS even though she does things that annoy me... but my mother worries me... :/

     

    Ditto.  My mother routinely ignored what I want and goes ahead and does what she wants before the baby arrived. I don't trust her to respect my orders* as a mother when she is taking care of DD. Orders like "No, DD can't have a tattoo."  But even if they are weird and unreasonable, I am allowed to be weird and unreasonable b/c I am the mom.

     

    I just make sure she is supervised by another person I trust like DH or my sister.  Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.  You are allowed to be weird and unreasonable, because you are the mom. 


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  • katcarlskatcarls member
    They don't have to watch him in order to spend time with him.  Take him over for a visit or they can come to you.  If you don't trust them to watch your baby then don't leave him alone with them, simple as that.  I haven't let my ILs watch DS and they won't be watching DD either.  No one has said anything about it and they've never offered either.
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  • mumegsmumegs member
    I don't trust my inlaws to watch her either, and my mom watches her all the time. Luckily it's never come up, since MIL lives pretty far away we're always there when we visit her.
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  • SoonToBeMrsDTSSoonToBeMrsDTS member

    imagekatcarls:
    They don't have to watch him in order to spend time with him.  Take him over for a visit or they can come to you.  If you don't trust them to watch your baby then don't leave him alone with them, simple as that.  I haven't let my ILs watch DS and they won't be watching DD either.  No one has said anything about it and they've never offered either.

    This except after 5.5 years my mil constantly offers even though we've told her multiple times that it will never happen.  you're the mom and you need to do what's best for you and your baby. 

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