Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
KGF625
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Re: Repeat C-Section and probably more of a concern than a question that can be answered but when will I
Well, I have had 3 amazing recoveries and i have REFUSED to leave early. It's different when it's your first. You don't have other kid(s) at home to take care of and you can rest a lot easier.
I was allowed to leave 2 days early EVERY time and chose not to. I knew that when I went home, I would not be resting and would just be going about my normal routine. I needed/wanted to get more rest so that I could heal properly.
I'm up, walking, showered by myself the day after my c-section all 3 times. I haven't had any pain meds in the hospital or at home. I heal fabulously. I just wanted to make sure that I healed really well before going home to my routine. My hospital has all private suites, and is like a hotel stay. I even get a massage. Maybe if it were like a regular hospital I would have been itching to get out of there.
If you are set on leaving early, just discuss with your OB. Your OB should be there every day to check on you - that's part of their job. At least, around here it is.
GL!
There was always a doctor there from my practice on Sundays and I got discharged on a Sunday. I also asked before I delivered about that b/c I was having a RCS on Thursday morning and thought if I felt good I would want to leave on Sunday.
THIS!!!!!! It is so much different when it's your first. You want to get out of there. With your second, take time and bond with your baby without your toddler. It may be some of the only alone time you have with baby #2, at least for a while.
Add me to the list of staying extra days.
I was oked to go home after two days, but insurance paid for a third so I stayed an extra day after both c-sections. I really think it helped.
I felt awesome after DD1. Even though my c/s was an emergency after I labored, I hardly needed any pain meds afterward. I was able to go home after 2 nights.
With DD2, I talked to my OB ahead of time and asked if I could do the same thing. She agreed, and I was discharged after 2 nights. I immediately regretted it after I got home, though. I was in so much more pain the second time around. My recovery was rough, and I really should have stayed at least one more night.
This time around I'm planning on at least 3 nights.
Elizabeth Grace 11.20.05 Nora June 7.15.08 Beatrix Catherine 9.4.12
I left after two days with my second. I asked my OB when I got to the hospital on a Friday morning before my surgery if everything went fine, if I could leave on Sunday. She said yep and used dermabond instead of staples or stitches on my incision and I was cleared to leave Sunday morning.
I would've like to stay, but our insurance isn't very good and it would've cost us a lot more out of pocket to stay another night or two. And I think I knew what to expect at home the second time around so I literally parked it on the couch and only moved when I had to.
I was also one to leave early. With my 1st, I had him at 4:35pm 12/22 and went home 12/24 after an Emergency c/s and also having to be in the anti-pardum room and on meds. The whole time they kept telling I could go home once I was moved to a post pardum room and completed my "tasks." Maybe they forgot what day it was, but they kept telling me "tomorrow". Well that meant 12/24 and when that day came and I asked when I'd be released, they looked at my chart and said i wasn't to be released until 12/25...ummm he!! no! After some arguing, they did let me go since i didn't waht I needed and had been up walking the halls.
With DD, they asked if I wanted to leave probably because I had been up and about for quite awhile. They gave me the option of STAYING another day to recover. Some people would because then they didn't have to deal with their other kids, they could relax and they got fed 3 meals a day and basically taken care of.