"I'm Having Their Baby"

orgnlmama · July 2012

New documentary on Oxygen premiering later this month about gestational carriers. Looks very interesting and emotional.

Do you think this is something you could do for someone? I think I could be a gestational carrier for someone I personally knew. I could carry a child I could watch grow (even if I wouldn't parent that child.) I don't know that I could do for strangers and never know how that child's life was.

daronsmommy · July 2012

I agree. I think I could do it for a family member or a very close friend, but not sure I could for a stranger. I know the bond I have with this LO already and don't think I could go through all this and give birth just to hand over a baby and never see them again. That would be too hard.

danienross · July 2012

I think I could for family. DH and I actually talked about making the offer to my sister since she had two miscarriages and was started to feel defeated. Thankfully they figured out she had a blood clotting disorder and she carried her third pregnancy to term. Her little boy is just over a month old.

beege17 · July 2012

I dont think I could ever do this, I give major props to anyone that can! I would get way too attached to the baby it would be so hard to go through all of that, and then give it up. Although you are right, if you were able to watch it grow it would make it a little easier

Winnychan · July 2012

No way, no how.

- Whitney

Myreppboys · July 2012

I could do it for a family member in fact my sister and I have talked about it. For a stranger I am not sure I think it depends on the situation.

baseballcr8zd · July 2012

My best friend has been having trouble concieving, and I have told her that if and when the time comes I will carry a baby for her. She's like my sister and I don't think I'd have a problem with it.

alikat07 · July 2012

I probably would do it for my sister but I couldn't imagine ever doing it for a stranger. I don't have super easy pregnancies and am hoping to be two and done after this.

elfchique · July 2012

As someone who uses third party reproduction I think it's a pretty amazing thing.

belleandbeast · July 2012

I can't even imagine giving up the buns in my oven for anyone. Not even family. It would be too hard!

canoz · July 2012

I don't think I could. We struggled for 6 years with IF, finally got DS through IVF and this one again through IVF. I just become so attached emotionally from the get go that I would really really struggle with it.

We have had SILs offer to do it for us and I think it is an amazing thing to give someone. We have constant RPL issues so this is never truely off the table for us as something we may need in the future.

Cynthia1207 · July 2012

I wouldn't be able to. I'm way too attached to the baby and giving birth I think is only going to strenghten that bond. I wouldn't be able to go through labor and have the baby taken from me and given to someone else right away.

Nineoceans · July 2012

I dont think I could but gosh bless the women who do

miranada · July 2012

LauraT25:
I used to think I could possibly do it for a VERY close friend or family member, but now that I'm pregnant I don't think I could. I think it's an awesome and generous thing to do for someone, but even watching the child grow up, I wouldn't be able to handle it. I feel really, really connected to this baby, and I just don't think I could give her to someone else, even my sister or my closest friend in the entire world.

Ditto to allllll of this.

pinitbaby · July 2012

I know I definately couldn't do it. I know a woman that does it, 3 times now and I guess its about the money for her...she had a baby for a gay male couple and she actually had an amazing relationshiip with them. They flew her out to Italy for a vacation and to meet thier families and everything. Its nice that there's people who can remain detatched to help someone less fortunate in that area

Starry Again · July 2012

If the baby was not genetically related to me, I could do it for enough money. I hate being pregnant but I have a price. I am sure way more than the open market price though, probably in the range of 35-50k plus all medical costs.

Genetically related baby would be MUCH harder and I don't think I could do it.

KNemo · July 2012

I offered to do it for my SIL who lost her baby at 25 weeks almost a month ago. She has a history of preterm labor, but her docs are optimistic that she won't need a gestational carrier.

I also told a friend I would do it for her in a heart beat, but she just found out she was KTFU!

beh3e · July 2012

I really don't know. I know I could do it for family or close friend, because I would almost feel selfish to not give up nine months of discomfort so they could have a lifetime of living the dream of being parents. As far as for strangers (and money) I'm not sure. I know that giving up the baby would be terrible, I just don't know if it is something I could move past. Also, thinking about the strain it would put on my LO and SO seems like it would be just as bad. If I thought I could keep myself distant and could move past it without significant emotional trauma, I would do it.

However, I doubt I could, even if I wanted to. I'm way too emotional.

Wally3 · July 2012

I could not. I never want to be pregnant again. I don't think I'm a good canidate anyway because DS #1 was 6 weeks early and I'm AMA and increased rish this pg.

CraftyKayla · July 2012

I dont think I could ever do it. I would be way too emotionally attached.

AngelSong76 · July 2012

About 13 years ago, my cousin found out she would never have children. I was in my early 20s and my husband (at the time) and I were not planning to have kids for a few years. I wanted to offer this to her so that she could have a child. They were having trouble adopting because of her husband's age and she wanted so badly to have a child. My husband (now ex, but not because of this) refused. He didn't want the first baby I had to be someone else's and not his.

Turns out, we divorced about a year later and never did have kids. And my cousin found three boys who lost both parents to drugs. She adopted them and they are a very happy family. But I always wondered what that experience would have been like.

Now that I'm happily married to a much better man, and am pregnant with our first child, I'm glad I didn't do it. Having this experience as a first for both of us has been really special. It's really the only "first" we have been able to share. And the emotional attachment we have with our baby is so strong, I'm not sure I would be able to ultimately give a baby up after carrying him or her. So yeah, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't do it now that I know what I know about being pregnant and the bond that happens between mother and child during that time.

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