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January 2013 Moms
brittandjp
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What's wrong with people?!
brittandjp
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Background: I'm a teacher and when I signed my contract for this next school year, I mentioned the pregnancy to my principal and assistant principal. I wanted them to be thinking about my long term sub. I even made sure to mention that it was still early, so we weren't telling people or making it public. Fast forward to this past week, I went in to do grab a few things from my room and meet with a new teacher that will be joining our team. When I walked into the office, there was my whole team (that didn't know), a few other teachers, two office staff, and what looked like a couple potential teachers waiting for an interview. My principal says to my team (RIGHT in front of me), "So, I'm not sure if you guys knew, but Brittany is pregnant. She doesn't want to spend time on campus since they're painting. Perhaps you can all head to lunch together." Ummm are you f*cking kidding me??!
Fast forward some more to today. I met up with one of my other teacher friends for lunch. She mentioned that she had happy hour a week or so prior with a bunch of other teachers from our school. One of them said to her, "So, did you know Brittany is pregnant?" My friend of course knew, but was shocked to hear that they all knew. So, apparently my boss is a big fat blabber mouth who spilled the beans. Not. a. happy. camper.
THEN, DH comes home from work today. He hasn't told anyone at work, other than his boss. He planned on buying those candy cigars and was going to give them to all the managers that work under him at next week's manager meeting. Well, that's not going to happen. My BROTHER (who use to work for DH) went in to DH's work and blabbed to a bunch of his friends that we were expecting. Of course the news spread like wild fire and now DH's plans to tell all of his employees are shot.
I just don't understand what's wrong with people. It's not your f*cking business to tell others!!!! What happened to common decency and respect for others?
Okay, end vent.
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Re: What's wrong with people?!
I completely understand. I had some blabbermouths that needed duct tape - and plenty of it.
Give them the benefit of the doubt and make sure to communicate the issue to them. . . after a lot of deep breathing! (This might not work with the work folks, but certainly with your brother.)
I found that when informed of the faux pas, my blabbermouths were very sorry. One had no idea that it was bad form to blab.
One of my goals in life is to communicate a clue as productively as possible. . and I have found that with this pregnancy business, there are a lot of clueless people out there.
To those pregnant women these former blabbermouths encounter in the future - I say, "You're welcome"
I am sorry. That is so annoying. I am so glad that I don't work in a big school with lots of other people.
I don't know what is wrong with people. I ask myself this question a lot IWhat is wrong with people?!". But I bet the blabbers have never been pregnant. I bet your boss actually violated some sort of boss/employee confidentiality clause in your contract.
With DS, my boss was more excited about telling people than I was. She wanted to tell everyone so badly, and I just couldn't understand why. We didn't even really like each other that much. She had even been pregnant 3 times, so she had her own chance to tell. DH really wanted to duct tape her mouth shut among other things.
With this one, I actually told few certain people with the hopes that they would blabber it to everyone else. And of course, it worked. News like pregnancies and divorces always spread like wildfire. It sucks, but that is the way people are and people like to gossip.
Ooooooh I would be so annoyed!
We have told a few people and luckily they appear to have been able to keep their mouths shut. I have my buddy at work and so does DH. Based on everyone else's stories so far I am very impressed with our friends!
If you say to someone - please dont tell everyone/anyone or some version of that - is that anything other than clear?
I'm sorry that happened! Stupid big mouths!
I am also a teacher, but I KNOW that my co-workers can't keep a secret. My director is someone that might be able to keep a secret, but since I really don't know for sure, I decided to wait until I am ready to tell everyone (probably when I'm at 14 weeks or so) before I tell her. Yes, I would love to give her the courtesy of knowing she will need to get a sub for me for 6 weeks, but I figure if I wait another two weeks, she'll still have plenty of time before January to find someone.
I'm a teacher too. Maybe bosses in another field have an excuse but principals should KNOW BETTER! There have been at least 10 births in my building in the past 10 years and I have never heard the news about one from our bosses! Its not their news to tell!
Yeah, there's nothing I can do at this point in terms of coworkers. We go back in 3 weeks and I planned on telling everyone then. I'm sure eveeeeryone will know by that point and I'll get to hear congratulations comments. It's just rude and being a mother herself (who had IF issues) I'm shocked that she did such a thing.
My brother though, I've already laid into him and he apologized. He's just excited and totally clueless when it comes to all things pregnancy.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
Gah! That is so RUDE. I agree with PP that you need to confront them and just give them a heads up that blabbing is uncool. Esp by your boss.
I would also tell your Dh to bring cigars anyway
I think it's a cute idea!
I am a second time mom and my bloat is making me look really pregnant... So, before they started the questioning back and forth I told the biggest big mouth I could find and saved me the trouble.
I would be upset too but dont let it get to you too much... People just have issues
Enjoy the rest of your day!
I try to tell myself this - it's happened to me too many times to mention. It can get a little disheartening. In fact, one of my brothers told my other brother in the THIRTY seconds between when he found my ultrasound pictures and before my youngest brother got up for the day while we were on a family vacation. So, not only did I not get to actually tell either one the way I had wanted to, but one I didn't get to tell at all. I know the one who blabbed is trying really hard to just purely be happy for us, but it was tricky as well because a couple years ago, he and his now ex-wife were briefly expecting, and then she lost the baby at about 5 weeks. Then, things started going sour between them and now they're officially divorced. I think some people just do not grasp that it isn't their news to tell. Oh well, now I know for the future not to step on a future mommy's toes...
Haha! that's hilarious! and very effective
OP- that totally sucks. i don't get how people think it's their news to tell. unfortunately, we found out through this pregnancy who--if there is a next time--will find out very last. sucks for them, but they lost our trust.