Question for Bed Sharers

Marcilene1 · July 2012

DD just turned a year old and does not take any milk at night anymore, but still wakes up at least twice a night (to be rocked) and often will not let us put her back down in her crib. We have a newborn and my husband works nights so nights have pretty much been hell for me lately. Last night she was in my arms from 2:30-3:30 kind of half awake but with her eyes closed. I put her in bed with me and she slept until 8 which was great. She woke up a couple of times but when she saw me there she went back to sleep.

My question is: if you bedshare and your LO does not take milk at night anymore, do they still wake up at night? What do you do if they do? I'm thinking that for now, for the sake of my sanity I need to just put her in bed with me, but if she will still wake up and not go back to sleep it doesn't help any. Thoughts?

Oh yeah: she is cutting 4 molars right now.

MrsSR · July 2012

When DD is teething she wakes up a couple times, but always goes right back down when I rub her back or tell her it's okay.

Mostly though she STTN.

barnwife · July 2012

We bedshared with J. for a long time. While I was pregnant with A. we transitioned him to his own bed. He still wakes up once a night usually. DH goes in to get him back to sleep. (FWIW, J.'s bed is a floor bed. So DH often just lays next to him and sleeps there the rest of the night.)

J. is also an early riser, and DH generally gets up with him. DH likes to get up early; I do not.

This works for us. It seems fair, as I am awakened more times as I EBF and A. wakes multiple times a night.

pitterpatter129 · July 2012

We rarely have any wakings while bedsharing - it's mosty when he's in his own room. We recently moved him to the floor next to our bed and we don't have wakings there either (yet, fingers crossed) - they like to know you are right there.

sbartschke · July 2012

We have bed shared since DS was born. We recently moved and he is on a floor bed next to our bed. Sometimes we will STTN in his own bed. Sometimes he gets up and comes up onto our bed. When he is on our bed and he wakes up I rub his back and he goes back to sleep quickly. Often once he is in our bed he does not wake up again.

mesmom2011 · July 2012

I have DD in a side-carred crib, so she is in her own space, but still has easy access to me. She still wakes to nurse a couple of times each night, but she just nurses and goes right back to sleep.

If your LO will sleep with you, I would let her do so. Cutting teeth hurts, so it's likely she's waking becuase her teeth hurt and the pain is keeping her up. If she's in bed with you, she won't have to cry and wait for you (which will wake her (and yourself) up more). I would suggest that you figure out the best way for you all to get the most sleep and do that. Good luck with this. I'm sure you are exhausted!

chpswife · July 2012

Yeeesh cutting molars=no fun. When DD cuts teeth she wants me and generally to be close. I would find what is the best way for you to sleep. DD still sleeps withme and does STTN till about 8-8:30. Being pg I like my rest and don't want to fight her just yet...

Ecy · July 2012

We bedshare & it works fine for my DH & I. My DD occasionally wakes for a minute here or there but easily goes right back to sleep.

I would suggest not bringing your DD to bed with you unless you plan on continuing to bed share. I'm sure the night wakings are worse with the teething & it would definitely soothe her to be closer to you but don't expect her to go back to her bed so easily once the teething pain is over with.

AnonnAni · July 2012

I just about (2 months ago) got DS out of our bed. BUT put his crib right next to it and when he woke would talk to him (while he cried) telling him its ok we are there and he can lay down and he would cry (but not hysterically) an eventually fall back to sleep. And at this point he now doesn't wake at all in the middle of the night. Or he does but we aren't aware of it b/c he has learned to put himself back to sleep. Its a learning process for them.

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