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Doula Choice (xp from VBAC)

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Choice 1: attended over 150 births, I liked her but she seemed a little "matter of fact" in general (not overly loving/friendly) during our phone screen, although perfectly pleasant and extremely knowledgeable. She has no kids of her own-- only step children

Choice 2: attended only 20 births (doula for two years) and has 2 kids-- had a VBAC (natural) with a doula herself and then became one! We really connected over the phone and she was very non-judgy. She works as a team and I need to talk to her partner too because you will get the one "on call" but she said they are similar in style/philosophy. I asked for references and this pair is also $500 cheaper than choice 1. Also the partner has only been a doula for one yr... And been to only 10 births.

Would you go with personality vs experience? My husband and I just want to be able to trust someone to lead us through to vaginal delivery-- I am convinced that I need no epi or light epi to succeed based on my first birth experience. WWYD? Assuming everyone's references are glowing...

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Re: Doula Choice (xp from VBAC)

  • terri_doula2010terri_doula2010 member

    Absolutely personality. Especially considering you have a 50% chance of having a doula who has gone through a VBAC...she'll really know what you are going through.

    The thing about being a doula is that experience is great and obviously you learn more over time, but so much of it is who you are. Being passionate about it is just as important as experience (which is why several times here I've pushed student doulas).

    I think the absolute most important thing when choosing a doula is who you "click" with. That is what is going to matter to you most when you are in labor and need support. Someone who you feel completely comfortable with, someone who seems to understand you, and someone who can make you feel better. :)

    Being $500 cheaper doesn't hurt, either! ;)

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  • katiebug58katiebug58 member
    I would go with #2 if your conversation with the partner goes as well as the one you already spoke to.  More experience doesn't always mean better - in my profession sometimes it means tired and not as passionate as they used to be.  I'm sure it can be the same with doulas.

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