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Oh the good ol' Passive Aggressive move
Just got off the phone with my mom.
Mom:"So are you guys still going to your friend's house for the 4th?"
Me: "Yep"
Mom: "They aren't still having fireworks are they?" (She means the place we are going not some neighborhood amature show)
Me: "I don't know, I don't know if they cancled theirs or not"
Mom: "Well I think everyone has except Denver City. Dad asked me what I was doing for the 4th. I forgot I had the day off, I could have played golf, but it was full." (My Dad is working overseas right now, so she lives by herself near us).
This is her passive agressive way of saying "Feel Bad for Me, Do something with me...." We do something every weekend with her. Yes I feel bad she is by herself, but honestly it will be okay if you spend one holiday by yourself. She thinks all holidays should be spent with family. To me most holidays are not a big deal (i.e. Memorial Day, Labor Day, 4th of July, etc.)
I love my mom and she is really great with DD, but Sigh, I can't wait for my dad to come back home so she isn't so lonely.
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Re: Oh the good ol' Passive Aggressive move
Keep in mind this is probably coming from not so great fam history background but,
that would annoy the living crap out of me. I hate it when all these older ladies are either bossy as crap or passive aggressive as crap. It drives me crazy. (having a massive influx of that IRL right now).
I am sure your mom is lovely, but good for you for sticking to your plans. I dont consider every holiday a must to spend with the in-laws, myself. I wish they could just say, "hey, I'd like to hang out on the 4th, but I totally understand if you are busy", and leave it at that.
Hopefully your Dad comes back safe and soon.