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Wow, I'm sort of psychic or something LOL

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I was trying to find an old post of mine and came across this reply I had given to someone else.  It was while I was on maternity leave with DS nearly 3 months before my nephew moved out from my brother's house and started bouncing between houses and 9 months before he actually moved in with us.

06-25-2010 at 3:30 PM
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-How would transferring school credits work? You would need to contact your school district about that. You would need his transcript from his current school.

-How do we establish rules (curfew, etc.)? Would that even be possible? Your house, your rules. You need to sit down with your DH figure out what they are going to be and discuss with him before he moves in.

-Should we make him pay "rent"? No, he's a kid in school and your brother. Why would you make him pay rent if you are trying to help him?

-We are out of town getting SD most weekends, so what do we do with him? If you don't think he is responsible enough to stay at your house alone, couldn't he come with you?

-Would it even be worth it? He will most certainly drop out of school if he stays in their house. My H and brother get along great, but would it put too much stress on our marriage? That's up to you and your husband to decide. I know that I would offer my home to my brother (or let's just use my nephew as an example since he's going to be 18 next year) if he were in trouble and needed support and help to finish school. I think for me if I were in your situation I would want to try to help, but that's really a personal decision.

-Would mandatory counseling for brother be too much to ask? If you want to do that, I think that wouldn't be too much to ask, however, are you going to pay for it since he's a kid in school?

-How would insurance work? You would need guardianship in most cases if you are wanting to add him to a policy, but I think you need that to enroll him in school as well. You should be able to talk to your or DH's employer and look at your enrollment guide and it should tell you.

DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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Re: Wow, I'm sort of psychic or something LOL

  • Holly_1007Holly_1007 member
    haha crazy how that worked out! any word from your nephew btw??
                           
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    He texted us from his new phone that he bought (I'm sure with the graduation money) to give us his phone #. Then he started texting DH this weekend saying he was coming by Saturday to get the rest of his things and his mom was bringing him (she never does anything for him). He also told DH that his friend is working for Primerica and he's going to do that too (this is going to go nowhere I'm sure). 

    Saturday evening around 10pm DH texted him and told him that we were going to bed and he needed to not tell us he was coming by and then not come by. DH tole him we would be home from around 12pm-3pm yesterday because we had church in the morning and a baseball game in the evening. He said he would come then and then never showed. Around 6pm, while we were at the game, he texted saying he was about to come by that his friend's mom (the one he is living with) was bringing him by. DH told him that we weren't home, just like we had told him in the text the night before. DH asked him why he never came by between 12-3pm when we told him we would be home and he said he didn't have a ride. DH told him that he should have let us know so we weren't expecting him. DH was basically done at this point and told my nephew he was going to put the rest out on the front porch this morning and he could get it whenever he wanted. My nephew tried to plea with DH because he didn't want his stuff stolen. DH told him then he needed to come by and get it. So this morning DH put the remaining stuff on the left side of our porch (which the bushes hide from the streetview.) He had 2 trash bags of stuff, a guitar case and a skateboard. DH positioned them so that the guitar case and skateboard were behind the trash bags. So we will see if it is still there when we get home this afternoon.

    I did get a random FB message from his aunt on his mom's side this weekend saying that she had been out of town for the week at the beach but had just got back and heard what he had done and how he moved out. She thanked us for getting him through graduation.

    DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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  • Holly_1007Holly_1007 member

    I agree with the aunt, you guys did a great thing getting him through to graduation, hopefully someday he see's that.  hopefully he doesn't try coming around at midnight or something crazy like that to get his stuff.  that would freak me out.  glad your DH put everything outside. 

    It will be interesting to see what happens once he is out of money/ places to crash.  I wonder if he will come crawling back to you guys...

                           
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