So I posted a few weeks ago about my H wanting a divorce. After trying to work through some of our issues, he basically still wants to call it quits because I don't trust him (he hid some stupid things like chewing tobacco and drinking from me for a long time)... So my lack of trust prevents him from going out with his buddies and drinking. I have tried to get him to attempt to rebuild trust, as I do not want to get a divorce, but he just assumes I need to get over it.
Anyway, I have decided to file for a legal separation and move out. From my understanding, I can get a court order that will require him to pay me a portion of the BAH and BAS. My question is, how is the military going to look at this, exactly? I keep hearing that he will be "raked over the coals" and that the military is going to "rip him a new one", etc.
Is this true? Frankly, I kind of hope it is. After all is said and done, I still want to fight for the marriage, and he doesn't.
Re: Military legal separation?
CJ 05/29/2013
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This is true but I'd keep your appt at JAG so they can advise on the BAH situation and such. I'd also consider informing your FRG liaison to inform his command
CJ 05/29/2013
True, JAG can tell you your rights as far as the separation but here at Bragg they won't do legal separation agreements but I don't know if other bases are different. But you will need an actual civilian lawyer for the divorce itself.
Not all bases offer this. At Ft Bragg, they told us at the briefing they do NOT do legal separations. They used to but stopped.
I would say 99.9999% of bases do not deal with civil maters. Why because it is a huge conflict of interest. Routinely I believe legal gives you information on basic entitlements, and advises you to seek a civilian lawyer ASAP. I worked family court in Colorado Springs and many of the clients were military members because base legal does NOT help in these issues.