Should I change the name?

disneydiva34345 · July 2012

My husband and I picked a baby name we really loved. When we told my mother, she got all upset because it was the name of a close relative's ex wife. I just ignored it because I didn't know them, and had no idea what their name was. That was 3 months ago. Every family member on my side always has something to say about the name now, and it's getting old. My own mother even made the comment... "Well I don't like it, but I guess I'll get over it". I have tried to ignore it because this is about me and my husband - not some person I never even heard of until now. Would you change the name just to keep the peace? Does anyone else second guess their baby's name?

quezzo · July 2012

I would not change the name. They will get over it. Don't let your mom control this decision by making you feel bad when you don't even know the person.

akl0506 · July 2012

This is why some ppl are better off not sharing the baby's name before the birth. Your mother's opinion doesn't matter in this instance. As soon as she sees the baby, she will love it and the association with some relative's ex-wife will soon disappear as this baby will have a personality all its own. My grandma was going to call our son "boy" b/c she didn't like our name. I told my father to get her in line, before I did. When DS#1 came, she was overjoyed and always calls him by his name. She has never said another negative thing about his name. Name your child what you picked out initially, if that is still the name you love.

trish051003 · July 2012

No way. Don't change it!

This is why we don't share our baby's name. Someone always has something to say that you can't get out of your head!

ljanette85 · July 2012

i would NOT change it to keep the peace... they are pretty rude for not keeping their opinions to themselves. i would only change it if you really want to... if not keep it, it would suck to regret not keeping a name you loved because if someone elses hang up

disneydiva34345 · July 2012

akl0506:
This is why some ppl are better off not sharing the baby's name before the birth.

Agreed! I wish I had understood this before

Twinklestar7 · July 2012

I wanted to use a name that was my moms sisters middle name, my aunt who I never met. My mom never got along with her sister, I never knew my aunt, and although she didnt really say anything it obviously upset my mom that I would use that name over my moms name (my mom would rather I use my moms name, but I dont really want to use it.) So, after much thought, I decided against using my aunts name. I just felt bad that I would use it instead of my moms name, and decided against using any family names as a general rule to keep the peace. Only fresh names that no one in the family has yet. But thats just me.

FormerlyKrista555 · July 2012

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don't change the name. After LO is born, your mom will forget all about the naming issue. Down the road, she'll be so used to your child having that name, that she won't be able to imagine any other name associated with your child.

misspunky · July 2012

Don't change the name. This is why my husband and I are keeping the name a secret. I don't want people's mouths flapping about what they think about our name for our child.

brideofscowboy · July 2012

Don't change the name. If you and your DH love it, then it should be the name of your child despite what others say.

This is why we kept our names quiet until baby was born. It's more difficult to dislike a name when it's attached to a beautiful little baby.

heathert1981 · July 2012

If you like it that is all that matters. Everyone else will get over it!

rak123 · July 2012

Avoiding all names that have negative connotations would be very difficult. I say stick with it.

monica92603 · July 2012

UH! Yeah! I guess she will just have to get over it.

Don't change it. It will only lead into her believing she can undermine all of your decisions.

babypaloozyvan · July 2012

Keep the name. It's your child's name and your choice only (you and SO). Tell your Mom and anyone else with negative comments the same and that they need to stop making you feel bad about it. They are the ones being hurtful and you shouldn't have to change what makes you happy to keep the peace. They must change their attitudes about it.

mrsjenni · July 2012

Um, there's no way in hell I'd change the name. She WILL get over it.

KatieKim0815 · July 2012

USE THE NAME YOU LOVE!

We don't share names specifically for reasons like this! We frankly don't care about people's input on our names! The fact that someone would have the audacity to say " we don't like it but I guess I will get over it" is repulsive. as if the baby's name has anything to do with them.

A year ago we revealed our boys name and our family said "what?? like tv show???" and we said "yes". I think they forgot but now that we actually are pregnant. We're team not share.

I have a great relationship with my MIL. Excellent. I love her! But we were team not share with DS and when we revealed his name (Hudson) in the hospital she later said to my hubby "Are you set on the name? What about Judson?". An awful name but she just wanted some part in it. Whether you share or not, people are going to tell you what they think. So I figure not sharing is easier.

avanvorce · July 2012

We are in a similar situation we decided on a name and then found out a friend already had a child by that name that passed away. Since then we have tried to find another name but just cant find one we like as much as our origional name. We dont know if we should use the name we like or should find another. Any advice?

ilovelife · July 2012

Do not change it!!!! You picked it for a reason, so unless you or dh are having second opinions, please don't let someone else influence this incredibly important decision.

When I told my grandma the name we chose for dd (we chose Annabelle Christine) she said stuff like "who picked that name?", "Why would you chose that?". The next time I talked to her (this was all over the phone since she lives a few hrs away), the first thing she said was "are you sure her name isn't going to be Isabelle?". I told her that her name is what I told her it was last time...and we aren't changing it. My mom even told me that my grandma told her our name choice was dumb.

Still free to be me · July 2012

We told MIL our DD1's name before she was born. MIL didn't like it, but was polite enough to not say anything specific TO us. During the three months that she knew the name before Baby was born, she had time to get used to it, and by the time DD was born, she loved the name. So, even though she didn't like it initially, it was nice that she had the time to associate our "interesting..." name choice with the grandbaby she was super excited about it. So, even though it isn't ideal, it isn't the end of the world that your name wasn't greeted with the immediate love that you have for it...Oh, and I wouldn't change the name, either.

LadyMadrid08 · July 2012

My MIL also had a list of reasons we shouldn't use the name we chose--mainly because it's ugly and an old lady name (in Spain where she lives). She used to go on and on about it and it really made me regret telling, but we stuck with that name and now MIL and everyone else says they love the name on DD and when they think Aurelia they don't think of 90 year old ladies anymore. When LO is born they will (hopefully) change their tune. Good luck!

dreambig527 · July 2012

trish051003:
This is why we don't share our baby's name. Someone always has something to say that you can't get out of your head!

I disagree. This way they can get all their comments and crap they have to say out. By the time the baby comes, everyone will be over it and be so over-the-moon about such a beautiful baby, the novelty of what the name is will have worn off much quicker.

Also, I like to hear people's opinions. I mean, I don't think you have to change the name if you love it, you love it and that's what matters. Personally, I'd probably at least consider other names if it was me, only because I'd hate to know that every time a family member sees my baby or hears the name, they think of some b!tch. But that's just me.

melody921 · July 2012

quezzo:
I would not change the name. They will get over it. Don't let your mom control this decision by making you feel bad when you don't even know the person.

This. It's your baby and your choice. She will have to get over it. Yet again, a reason not to tell anyone your baby name choice before the birth.

lizzmac21 · July 2012

i wouldn't changed it either, their only thinking of her face and that name once your child is born his/her face will be attached to that name. this is why we haven't been telling people the name we've picked,i don't want negative comments,once the baby is here most people will just say how what a nice name it is. we all do it,a friend gives birth your not over the moon about the name but your not going to say anything bad about it they just named their baby that.

catapult32 · July 2012

If you and your hubby love the name, keep it! It's YOUR baby and you spent time picking the perfect name. You can't help that your mother has a problem with it, she can just get over it and herself.

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