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groovygrl
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"mommy, talk to me about things dying"...?!? ughhh
groovygrl
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I have zero idea where it came from but this is what my DD says to me at breakfast. I said what do you mean things dying? And she says, like dogs and pinkies (1. we don't have dog but she has a stuffed one she has been playing with a lot lately and 2. pinky is her lovey). I tried to ask her where she heard about things dying and she got mad at me and started yelling at me to stop talking... I am assuming it must have been on a TV show but not really sure, we mostly just watch preschool cartoon type shows or things about transportation vehicles.
regardless, I was totally stumped & surprised on this one since no people or animals we know have died recently and I said that when something dies it means that it is not moving anymore and it goes to heaven to be with God (we're not really religious but they have a prayer that they say at daycare that thanks God so she is semi-familiar with that concept, although she recently asked me about who God was also and I was stumped yet again about explaining that to a not even 3 yr old...). Of course that was followed with WHYYYYYY? And I said, well living things sometimes get really really old or really really sick or really really hurt. She kind of left it at that.
Ugh. Good resources/tips in case it comes up again?
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Re: "mommy, talk to me about things dying"...?!? ughhh
You want to be gently honest. Making something up will just have her confused later on. In our kindergarten class we learned about living things, starting with plants... talked about all the things they need to live, and then explained that all living things die, but new things are born/created.
ugh, I dealt with this over the weekend. My DD wanted to know where my parents dog went. I told her Emma was very old and had died. She wanted to know where she was. My Mom told her Popop had buried Emma there on the farm. There were a few more details shared but all pretty basic. THEN, DD wanted to hear the story of Emma dying over and over and over all afternoon and night. There was a really big storm that took out the power and it was a LONG night. She kept asking. It seems to have passed by morning (her asking for the story of Emma).
Thanks all...I'm not sure if it came off that I was thinking or did make something up (??) but I had no intention of doing that... I agree that heaven is abstract (which is what happened when she asked who God was, uhhhhhh, he's a 'being', ummmm...who watches over us, ummmmmm,(then it crossed my mind that that could be a little freaky & had to change my thought process to God just loving her?? LOL.....) but I like the body not working thing. I think when I sort of went there with the dog would stop moving if it was really old sick or injured, maybe did that for her but I think if it comes up again I will go with 'not working anymore'. It's the "WHHYYY" thing that kills me every time (on like 50% of the things she asks WHY about haha). The heaven concept I think would come up if she went further though, I actually have been waiting for one of them to ask where my dad is because they see pictures of him all the time, they call him Poppy and they know he is my dad but they haven't quite thought about the fact that they've never met him so I'm waiting for them to say "where is he or where does he live?" and I'll have to come up with something for that (aside from in the ground- I'm not sure which would be weirder for a 3 yr old, in heaven or in the ground...?)