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1st Miscarriage and D and C

crarnoldcrarnold member
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My husband and I found out that we were pregnant on March 31, 2012.  On Saturday, April 7th, I began experiencing some cramping and light spotting. We went to the doctor on Monday, April 9th and my urine test came back negative. However, she said that the cramping and light spotting were normal during this time of the pregnancy. On Tuesday, April 10th, my HCG levels came back and were 61.  Which at this time, they should have been around 1,100 because I was 5-6 weeks pregnant.  My doctor scheduled another HCG test on Wednesday, April 11th.  On Thursday, April 12th, my levels came back and they were 68. Therefore, my doctor concluded that it was not a viable pregnancy and that my body was trying to miscarry.  We were absolutely devastated.  I underwent a D and C yesterday, April 17th.  This has been the hardest thing that I have ever had to do.  We were so excited about being pregnant and having our baby here for Christmas this year.  My husband, family, and friends that knew that about the pregnancy have been very supportive and they have made an impossible situation a little easier to get through.  This experience has made me question why it happened and I just pray to God for understanding and strength to pull us through it.  People say that you have "mother's intuition" immediately when you find out you're pregnant and I believe it now.  I knew Saturday, April 7th, when I was experiencing the cramping and spotting that something wasn't right.  I just didn't want to believe it.

 

Although, at first, I said that I didn't want to try again immediately because I don't want to go through this again; the more I have thought about it, the more I am open to the idea of trying again.  

 

Have any of you had a miscarriage and D and C?  How did you get through it and when did you start trying again? 

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  • Laurakat81Laurakat81 member

    I'm so sorry you've gone through this.

    I had a D&C with my first two losses. My OB wanted me to wait 3 cycles before trying again. The first time we waited exactly 3 and then started trying again. The second time we waited 6 because we just weren't emotionally ready. I would ask your doctor how long they want you to wait as there are differing opinions and different reasons why some might need to wait longer than others.

    As for how to get through it.... just one day at a time. Sometimes by the hour, sometimes by the minute. (((hugs)))


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  • kelly321kelly321 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm in the midst of my first m/c, and whether I'll need a D&C is still up in the air. If your doctor tells you to wait a few cycles for medical reasons, then follow his/her advice. After that time is up, start TTC when you feel you're ready. There is no right or wrong time to start TTC again.

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  • kwilson158kwilson158

    I am sorry for your loss - I recently miscarried and had a D&C - My dr. suggested 1 to 3 cycles before we tried again...I was told to keep taking my prenatal vitamins too..

    Good Luck to you

     

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  • heather4hawksheather4hawks member
    So sorry for your loss.
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  • cutiepi056cutiepi056
    I understand how you feel. I went in for my 10 week check up on Monday and found out there had been no heartbeat for 3 weeks. I had the D&C yesterday. It all happened so fast. Unlike you, I didn't have any warning signs but the doctor told me yesterday a miscarriage is the body's way of letting you know this one was not meant to be. And somehow that was comforting. I was told to wait 3 cycles before trying again and to come back before we start trying to run some test. Although it's still heartbreaking, and I was terrified leading up to the D&C, after the surgery I felt like my husband and I can start over and look forward to our future.Hang in there :)
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  • crarnoldcrarnold member
    Thank you for your response and support. I am truly sorry for your losses as well. Good luck with TTC. We have officially began trying again. Hopeful that this time everything will work out. 
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  • crarnoldcrarnold member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Also that I am just now responding...I haven't been on here in awhile. I hope that everything works out for y'all if you're TTC. 
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  • crarnoldcrarnold member

    Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry for your loss as well. Are you TTC yet? 

     

    After the D&C I had to have the methotrexate shot, because my D&C didn't work completely. It has been a long road but we are TTC again. I'm hopeful that this time everything will work out. 

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  • crarnoldcrarnold member
    Thank you! 
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