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Toddler Tantrums

colonialbridecolonialbride member
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We just had our second (my DH's 3rd) daughter on the 15th. Since then our almost 3 year old has been acting really defiant and bratty (for lack of a better word). We have tried so hard to continue to pay attention to DD and set aside time to play just with her, but nothing seems to work. How did you handle jealous siblings that decided to act out? Or is this just a part of her development and has nothing to do with the new baby?? TIA!
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Re: Toddler Tantrums

  • meg1974meg1974 member
    My DD was a year younger when DD #2 was born, and she also started acting out a lot. We gave her extra attention and played new games with her that we didn't have before (she loved the Publix Preschool Pals computer game). After a few weeks, she started behaving much better again. I think it was just the newness of it all, and not knowing what was going to happen. Once she realized she actually liked the new baby, she was much better. 


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  • memali26memali26 member
    The 15th as in the 15th of June? If so, it's only been 2 weeks, she's barely had time to process and get used to having a baby sister, so I think her behavior is normal (and in part just due to her age). Just keep doing your best to give her individual attention when you can, involve her with the baby if she's willing, and remember this is a huge change for all of you. It will take some time for everyone to adjust to the new baby, and as your older daughter gets used to the new division of time and attention she'll hopefully start settling down. In the meantime, just make sure she knows you still love her and that another baby doesn't change that.
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  • anonsouthernbellanonsouthernbell member
    If possible have dh play w/her while you tend to baby, same w/ visitors, etc.
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  • AmandaP678AmandaP678 member

    imagememali26:
    The 15th as in the 15th of June? If so, it's only been 2 weeks, she's barely had time to process and get used to having a baby sister, so I think her behavior is normal (and in part just due to her age). Just keep doing your best to give her individual attention when you can, involve her with the baby if she's willing, and remember this is a huge change for all of you. It will take some time for everyone to adjust to the new baby, and as your older daughter gets used to the new division of time and attention she'll hopefully start settling down. In the meantime, just make sure she knows you still love her and that another baby doesn't change that.

    I agree, a new baby is a HUGE change in anyone's lives especially for young kids. They go from being the 1 and only to having to share their time with mom and dad in an instant. Kids' don't know how to verbalize their needs as well as adults and they do it the best way they know how... .through some for of acting out. And they end of receiving attention even though it's negative. 

    Try spending some extra 1:1 time when the baby is sleeping and having special toys for your older one to play with when you need to spend time with the baby.

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  • groovygrlgroovygrl member
    No advice here b/c I haven't had this but just a suggestion to change your post subject to something else to indicate the new sibling jealousy thing, more ppl might reply...
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