DH asked to NOT talk about names
I probably should be very happy that DH is being very up front (but in a very sweet way) about this, although I'm disappointed and the waiting is going to kill me. I wanted to talk names last night and he said "I love you and I promise, we WILL find a name, but I'm having a really hard time trying to name someone I've never met. Do you think we could wait to talk about this until you're further along, when it's a little more real for us both?"
Very sweet, but now I have to wait! Ugh! I agreed and said that in return he had to review my list of favorites when we do start talking names and give every single name some thought and consideration. No rejecting something out of hand with "I don't like it. Because I don't like it." He said fair is fair, as long as I consider Derrick (after Derrick Rose from the Bulls) for a boy. Blech. I guess I'll think about it. I've got the time now.
Re: DH asked to NOT talk about names
I would wait on naming until you've confirmed the pg with your OBGYN and made it past the first 9 or 10 weeks.
I don't want to seem callous or mean at all, but I speak from experience here. You are still in a stage where m/c is a lurking threat. If you name this baby your "favorite" name and have a m/c, you will never be able to use that favorite name for a child who is destined to be larger than a poppy seed.
M/c is never easy; don't make it harder on yourself, should that be in your future.
Also, a first pregnancy can be a real mind-bender for the dad to be. Give him some time. He's being a great sport to be gentle with you about this.
This is all great advice. It is common for men to need some time to adjust to the idea of being a parent. At this point, he has not had a chance to see the baby or hear the h/b so it might be harder for him to connect with this child than it is for you. In the mean time, this is a great place to come to discuss names!
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That is how I feel about it. Actually, I don't even really want to talk about names until right before our babies are born and I don't want to actually name them until after they are born.
We talked about names when I wasn't pregnant so we already have a very good idea of what we'd prefer. We don't need to discuss it right now.Missed m/c found @ 10 weeks - May 2010
Missed m/c found @ 10.5 weeks - August 2012
You are only 3 weeks pregnant? I'd be annoyed too if I were your H. Also great advice by PP, you should wait until the 2nd trimester.
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I'm convinced that the human gestation period is 9 months because it takes the dads that long to get on board with the idea that their child is coming, regardless of how planned the pregnancy was or how long your journey to conceive. My DH threw out joke names my entire 1st pregnancy and we went into the hospital with a spread sheet but no idea what the name would be.
I am a little offended by the PP implying that you shouldn't talk names yet because you may have a m/c. I think that is rude as hell. I found out I was pregnant with DS2 when I was 3 weeks. I didn't m/c. You have every right to be excited for your BFP and look forward to picking names. People want to discuss hypothetical names on here all the time and people seldom jump down their throats for being premature.
Congratulations, and please use this board as an outlet until your DH is ready.
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I get that you're excited- but he's totally right.
I'm so glad DH and I had names picked out before we even got pregnant so that this wasn't an issue because i would have driven him up the wall.
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