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May 2012 Moms
k8edgerton
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Moby's are just for Mommies...
k8edgerton
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I love my DH.
My MIL came over yesterday evening and was over bearing and suffocating as usual. DD was crying which she does when she is tired... It was late and we usually put her into her swing or nap nanny in the evening to sort of chill out by herself. She usually doesn't want to be held for a bit in the evenings. Well MIL (Grandma) doesn't understand this.
She picks up my Moby wrap and asks what it is. I tell her and she holds it up to herself and asks if she can "wear" my baby. I think my DH saw the absolute look of shock and anger that was on my face because he quickly said... "Moby's are just for Mommies"
I love him.
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Re: Moby's are just for Mommies...
My GMIL makes a similar comment when holding DD. She's over 90 and kind of crazy, so I try to ignore it. But also, ewwww.
I can see how since you know your daughter doesn't like to be held in the evenings you wouldn't want anyone to wear her. Why couldn't DH just say that she doesn't like to be held in the evenings?
I don't see a problem with my family wearing my daughter. I had my mom and sister both wear my daughter in the Moby or the Bundleboo when we all get together once a week for family dinner--and they've never "worn" a baby before Adalyn. I don't see what the big deal is with a close family member wearing the baby, as long as both the person and baby want to.
Me: PCOS DH: Low everything (MFI)
Clomid with TI x 3 2010 BFN
Clomid+IUI+Ovidrel 2010 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 2011
9/8/11 Beta #1: 2082!! 9/19/11 Beta#2 34,689!! U/S 9/22/11 HR 127! 11/8/11 HR 150! 12/6/11 HR 136! 12/14/11 HR 139! Born at 26w2d on 2/4/2012! After 83 days in the NICU, Adalyn came home on 4/26/12!
FET 1 3/2013 BFN
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Totally sympathize with the OP, my MIL is like this also!
It's one thing for a MIL to be excited about her grandbabies, but it crosses a line when she puts her own desire to bond with the baby above what we as parents feel is best for our child. In my case my MIL came to stay with us for DS's first month because DH had to travel for work, and we needed her help. She's very sweet, but this was a case of too much of a good thing. She really got in the way of precious early bonding time between me and my son, and also interfered with our getting BF established. She would take him from me "so I could get some rest," and promise to bring him to me when he was hungry, which was NEVER, because every time he stirred or rooted she would just shush him to sleep and she was so proud of herself! We kept on trying to explain to her about hunger cues, about him needing to eat every 3 hours, about me getting engorged, but NONE of that was more important than her desire to have him sleeping in her arms for literally hours on end. One time I set him down in the bouncer for just a moment, taking a (burp) break from feeding him, and she offers to take him so I say, sure, he needs to burp, and then off she goes with him! And not only does she not burp him, she starts to shush him, but he's still hungry and will have none of it. I actually had to chase her around the kitchen island to get her to give him back to me! And she still wouldn't give him back so I had to spell it out for her, that he had only emptied one breast and still had to nurse on the other side, and boy did I really not want to talk about my breasts with her! I nearly had to pry him out of her hands. And of course he wasn't back up to birth weight at his 2nd week appointment because of incidents like this, but did she get it? Nooooo.