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How do you keep them in bed?

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Is there ANY way to keep LO's in bed after they are tucked in? We have been dealing with this with our 3 and a half year old for probably 9 months or more...We tuck him in, and he gets up like, 8 times before he finally falls asleep! It's driving me nuts! And now we have a 3 month old that wakes up every time he hears his voice...

 He gets up for anything, his projector isn't working, he has to pee. Again. he has to have a drink. Again. He needs another hug and kiss...Most of the time we turn him back around without giving in to what he wants, but he keeps getting up anyway...Anyone have any magical solution? I'm ready to pull my hair out, I dread bedtime ALL day long...Thanks!!!

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  • KadyraKadyra member
    We have a toddler lock on the inside door handle of his room. Once he is asleep, we open his door. After a couple weeks doing this, he stayed in bed. We still do it now since it's so bright everywhere in our house. So it's dark for him to sleep. 
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  • Brooke81Brooke81 member
    Is he still napping? We dealt with this with DS when he moved into his new bed at almost 2 1/2 and we still deal with it when he takes a nap and isn't tired enough to fall asleep. We have a lock on his door and sort of do the supper nanny techniek.
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  • AZ123AZ123 member

    He gets tv cartoon 1x per day in the morning so he loses his tv for the next morning. Worked like a charm. We also make sure the bedtime routine includes potty and water etc. so we know for certain he's just playing us.

    You can do the reverse and do a reward for each night he stays in bed.

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  • kmjbjgkmjbjg member
    DD gets one of her dolls/stuffed animals taken away if she gets out of bed, which works most of the time.  She does get up to go to the bathroom sometimes, but that is okay with me.  She has a glass of water in her room if she wants it.  When I tuck her in I tell her "stay in bed or you will get X taken away until tomorrow."  She loves her dolls, so it works for us.
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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    We too use the toddler clock.

     The one thing that finally worked well for us was that my boys LOVE morning cuddles.  I broke down and told the youngest that if he came out of his room at night time he was not going to get cuddles the next morning.

    It only happened once.

     What's his currency?  Find something that he LOVES and either use it as a reward for nights he doesn't get up or withdraw it for nights he does get up.

     

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  • kes77kes77
    DD used to do this at his age, she's 4 1/2 now.  We tried everything.  We tried sticking to the same routine every night (brush teeth, potty, story, drink of water, kiss, etc) we even made a checklist so she could visually see everything she did before bedtime and she put a sticker next to each one after it was completed.  We also tried a "3 strikes and you're out" for # of times she go out of bed -- after the 3rd time we would take something special away the next day -- like a special coloring project or tv show.  Closing the door never worked for us because it scared DD and she would cry.  We always keep her door open, and after a month or so she finally got the hang of staying in bed -- she knows we mean business when it's bedtime.  Good luck to you, it's hard, frustrating and takes some time.
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  • funchickenfunchicken member

    If I were you, I'd get a white noise machine for the baby's room.  My younger DD is super-responsive to DD1's voice (and has been since birth), so I have to use white noise.

    I think their impulse control gets better as they approach 4, so I would expect this to get better soon.  We keep a cup in her room with a few sips of water in it, and she usually gets up once to go to the bathroom before she falls asleep.

    Are you putting him to bed too early?  Is he not tired enough?  If my DD isn't sleepy at bedtime (this only happens if she naps during the day) she's allowed to stay in her room and draw on her magnadoodle or look at books until she's ready to go to sleep.

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  • Mrs.RockyMMrs.RockyM member

    As long as DD stays in her bed, we just kind of let her do her own thing.  She's realized that the mornings are a lot worse when she's up playing in her room instead of sleeping - so that's seemed to help.  she's usually asleep 45 minutes or so after bedtime, max.  We've found that even if she isn't playing in her room, reading books, redecorating, or changing blankets, she's singing songs to her dollies.  Sometimes keeping her up a little later (15-20 minutes) can help too. 

     

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