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Weird to invite my mom to 2nd shower?
hilsy85
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My mom has offered to throw me a shower, and two of my best friends also recently offered to throw me a shower (yay!). I am super grateful to all of them. My question is, would be it strange to have my friends invite my mom to the shower that they're throwing? I'm having them invite my sister, so she'll be invited to both showers...I think my mom would be really excited to go, since she likes all my friends. Is it weird if it's a bunch of late 20s women, and then my mom? Am I overthinking this?
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Re: Weird to invite my mom to 2nd shower?
Typically your mom and your H's mom would be invited to both showers. They're pretty much the exception to the rule about not inviting anyone to more than one shower. If you're worried your mom will feel weird, just let her know that you're inviting her but you understand if she doesn't want to come since she already threw one for you. She can decide for herself if she wants to come or not.
I had a separate "friends" shower and my MIL still wanted to come and did. My mom would have but she already had plans to be out of state that particular weekend.
Hmm I was not planning on inviting my MIL actually...she will be invited to the shower that my mom is throwing. Is this really rude if I don't invite her?
Oh yes, definitely would not add on all the other relatives who will be invited to my other shower!!
That's the reason I didn't want to combine--I would rather have two smaller showers with fewer people so it's less overwhelming, rather than one big one with a ton of people. That's how my bridal shower was and I found it stressful.
Absolutely this. If your mom is anything like my mom, she would want to attend 35 showers if that's what I was having
She really might be offended if you don't invite her. I think it is pretty generally accepted that mom and MIL are usually invited to both showers if there are 2, and so she might take it as a snub if you don't invite her. Even if she won't necessarily fit the crowd, you might want to consider inviting her just to keep the peace!
In my case, my MIL hosted a shower for all of her friends plus me and my mom and grandma, and now my BFF is hosting a shower for all my girlfriends, plus my sister, mom and MIL. Whereas all my girlfriends know and love my mom, my MIL won't necessarily "fit the crowd" of the second shower, but I wanted her to know she was welcome anyways.
If you get along with MIL, then yes, I would think it would be a little rude to not invite her. But it all depends on how close you are to her, and how hurt her feelings would be...
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