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Need Reassurance - Crying/Fussing

Tussie MussieTussie Mussie member
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DD has never been a big cryer. She "fusses", and there are definite differences in her frustrated fuss vs upset fuss etc. I don't let her cry, and I don't let her upset fuss. Most of this right now stems from fighting naps. My momma friends are big on the CIO, but it's not something I can do and I just need to know there are other mommas out there that feel the same way I do.

Note: I have no judgement for moms that do CIO/Ferber. I feel very strongly that each person has to do what is right for their family. 

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Re: Need Reassurance - Crying/Fussing

  • CountingUpCountingUp
    We are the same. Our daughters are the same age. In real life I don't complain about her sleep but upon hearing what our nights can be like people insist that we need to CIO. We won't. She has only really cried a few times in her life: after needles, after a face plant, and in the car seat when we couldn't stop. If she fuses or complains I don't rush to her but if her tone become more stressed and upset I am there to help her. If she bangs herself with a toy and is deciding if she needs to cry I quickly joke and say owchie, rub her back and all is good.
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  • cookinitupcookinitup member
    You have to do whatever your mom instinct is telling you.  I don't like to let DS cry if I can avoid it.  That being said though, he's had a rough couple of nights and has been fussier that usual, by 4am I am more than happy to let him cry for a little while if that is what he needs to fall asleep.
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  • CountingUpCountingUp
    I can tell you, based on nanny experience with nonCio families that naps will improve in 3-6 more months. For now, I rest when she naps on me. I garden when she takes a stroller nap.
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  • MomAE11MomAE11
    You're not alone! And my son is also more of a fusser.
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  • Tussie MussieTussie Mussie member

    Thank you! I know I shouldn't have to rely on other people to tell me what I'm doing is ok, but as a FTM with NO previous baby experience, sometimes I need a little boost that I'm not alone in my decisions. 

    DH is pretty much on board with anything I want to do, which is great, but at times not terribly helpful since I feel like I'm just winging it half the time lol. 

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  • tetedefromagetetedefromage member
    I don't let her CIO either.  My mom likes to get on my case about that, telling me I'm spoiling her and all that...making me feel like I'm doing something wrong!  And maybe I am...but I'm sorry, I just can't ignore those poor little cries! If I can make her feel better,  I'm going to!
    ~*Kimberly*~


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  • twocents6708twocents6708 member
    We do not do CIO and have an AP style for the most part. That's not to say she doesn't cry though. There have been times when she has cried herself to sleep in my arms when feeling sick or over exhausted. But at least I know I was doing all I could do to calm her and be there for her. You do what comes naturally and what works best for YOUR family. And know that you aren't alone in your choice!
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