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I just recently found out I was pregnant and have only told a handful of people, mainly our immediate families. However, I was sort of forced into telling a girlfriend of mine because we had planned a double date and I was obviously not drinking. She knew we had been trying so I made the decision to just go ahead and be honest with her. Right after I told her she offered to throw me my baby shower. This has just put me in a very awkward position because I have a big family and I know my aunts are probably going to offer to throw me one as soon as they find out. I told my friend that I really appreciated her offering but it was a little too soon for me to start thinking about that, which is also true. If it weren't for her bringing it up I wouldn't even be thinking of a shower right now. She said okay and that she'll talk to me about it in a few weeks. How do I politely decline her invitation when she asks again? It isn't that I don't like her- I just have such a big family and she lives in a small apartment. Also, I just like the traditions we have in our family when it comes to baby showers and would feel more comfortable having it thrown by family when the time comes. Thanks for any advice!
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Could you do two different showers? The friend could host a shower for friends and co-workers while your family could throw one for your family.
My MIL is doing one shower while DH's Aunts are doing another. Purely because his family is so large that two showers makes more sense.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I would just give her a huge thank you but tell her your family has their heart set on it. Im sure she will understand.
Just curious...its not ok to have a shower for a 2nd baby, but its ok to have TWO showers for one baby?
Iiiiiinteresting...
As long as the guest lists are different, yes. I prefer when people have a couple smaller showers as opposed to cramming 50+ friends, relatives and co-workers into one large extravaganza.
I won't go into why many people frown on 2nd showers, because you can find about 100 past posts on that topic.
You clearly don't get out much.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Because if you have a guest list of over 50 people it's a charity event and not an intimate gathering of people you love. I've got 30 family members, 30 sorority sisters, 30 people from work and 30 women from church. Should I invite 120 women to one party? Not hardly. If you have women from each group who have offered to host (and aren't being forced/guilt-tripped), it makes sense all around to have more than one smaller shower. 1) It's less costly for the hostess. 2) It's more intimate. 3) Your guests all know each other and have a commonality (lending to more mingling and fun on their end). 4) You don't spend 3 hours opening presents.
Should I continue?
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
If the guest list is different, then you're right. 50+ people in one room is a bit much...
If you mean, I do not have ALL the answers, you're absolutely correct, and I won't pretend that I do. Hence why there was a question mark at the end of my sentence...