When things go wrong...

Re: When things go wrong...

• yeliza h member

  June 2012

  I am so sorry that you are going to through this. You are NOT a bad mother. You did what you thought was right for you at that time. I had my daughter at 20 weeks and because I didn't know the difference between a D&E and delivery, I choose to have a D&E, and didn't get to see my her. I had a D&E because I just wanted to get it over with.  It is something that I struggled with for a very long time. Eventually I forgave myself because that is all that I could do. The pain gets easier...I promise. ((HUGE HUGS))

  5/9/2013 = Our rainbow was born!!

  08/18/2012 - BFP (Hoping this is our rainbow!)
  06/24/2012 - Loss confirmed at 12 weeks
  12/14/2010 - Loss baby girl at 20 weeks due to Turner Syndrome
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• Loveniz member

  June 2012

  I'm so sorry for your loss. I want you to know your NOT a bad mother and please dont blame yourself. I can't even imagine what your going through at this time. Many thoughts and prayers for you and your family. If at any time you need to talk, vent, etc....the ladies on this board will be here for you. Hugs

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  BFP #1 4/29/12 m/c 5/18/12 at 6w2d
  BFP #2 8/28/12 EDD 5/10/13 MC 9/22/12 at 6w4d
  BFP #3 12/31/12 EDD 9/12/13
  
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• kj07 member

  June 2012

  I am so sorry for your loss.  Please please know that you are not a bad mother. 
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

  BFP #1 4/14/10. Big B born 12/28/10.
  
  
  BFP #2 5/27/12. EDD 2/1/13. m/c and D&C 6/21/12.

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• MandaS08 member

  June 2012

  I am so sorry for your losses.  I can't imagine what you are going through, and all I can say is that I pray for peace for you and your husband.

  Please don't blame yourself-you did everything you could for your babies.  And no, you aren't a bad mother for not seeing them.  You had to do what was best for you to protect yourself, mentally.  It doesn't mean you love them anyless, or that you won't always hold them in your heart.

  TTC since 5/2010
  DX with Diminished Ovarian Reserve - AMH of 1.1 - 7/2011; AMH of .42 8/2012BFP 9/1/10-M/C confirmed 9/8/10-Methotrexate 10/6/10
  IUI #1 (w/clomid)-9/5/11-BFN ; IUI #2 (w/clomid)-10/5/11 - BFP - 11/1/12-No sac seen; 11/2/11 and 11/9/11-Methotrexate 
  IVF #1- ER 2/2; ET 2/5;-Two 8 cell embryos transfered = BFFN
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  U/S on 6/8/12 - H/B at 128 BPM; U/S on 6/14/12 @ 9wks-No H/B-D&C on 6/17/12
  IVF 2.0- ER 10/17; ET 10/20-One 12 cell, one 10 cell and one 8 cell embryo transfered
  BFP!   11/16/12 U/S- Two nuggets with perfect heartbeats! EDD 7/10/13

   

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• DaisyZH member

  June 2012

  I am so so so sorry for what you have been through and for the loss of your babies.  You are not a bad mother at all (( Hugs )) I'm so sorry my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  
  

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• larivierek

  June 2012

  I am so so sorry. I barely know what to say; just that we are praying for healing and peace for you.

  

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• Roxycc55 member

  June 2012

  I'm so sorry for your loss. Just know that you did everything you possibly could for your babies, and you are not a bad mother, you were just doing what you needed to to get through tthis is the best way possible in the worst situation.  I'm so sorry again.

  
  
  
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  BFP#1 3/31/12 EDD 12/1/12,No HB 6/6/12 (14 weeks 4 days), D&C 6/11/12 (15 weeks 2 days)*Arabella Ann*

  

   

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• NJMom050911 member

  June 2012

  I am so very sorry for the loss of your sons. I think you would get great support on the Loss board. The women there experienced late(r) losses and I think it would be a great outlet for you and your feelings. Hugs.

  Logan Alexander born May 9th 2011. He has stolen my heart forever. BFP #2 05/24/12 EDD 01/31/13 D&C 06/26/12 Missing you. Diagnosed with Ashermans 11/06/12 Surgery 01/18/13, Cleared for TTC 03/01/13 BFP 03/26/13 IT'S A BOY! Please Be Our Rainbow!

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• TAGolden

  June 2012

  I am so, so very sorry...please know that you are not a bad mother. My heart goes out to you and your family, and I pray for healing and peace that surpasses understanding.
  

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